ok now i really need help badley?

Question

iv been adopted since i was born and no family wanted me cuz of me cuz of me behavouir and now im up the duff wid a 17 year old and 14 and iv only got this boys flat 2 go 2 so i guess im stayin there iv ad a hard life with no support n help n i hate my real mother i hope shes ded SO HELP ME

Answer 1

Dear Becky
Sounds as though you have had a really rough time accepting your adoption. Wether or not your real parent wanted you should now be insignificant in order for you to move on and be the type of mother to your child that you missed out on. Your adoptive parent obviously wanted you so dont be too gard on yourself. you talk about your behaviour and how no one wanted you beacuse of it, becky children are products of their childhood, i am not excusingf your behaviour but children are not born "naughty" they learn behaviours fromthose around them, so put all of your energy into ensuring your child does not mimick bad behavours from you and by the sounds of it you have a lot of resentment in your life which will have a disasterous affect on your child. YOu wil need to learn to accept your past you had no contorl but you do have control of your future. Focus on the positives and eliminate all negetive factors and if you rae staying ewith the babies father beacuse you have no option DONT, unless you love him leave becasue you will start a new cycle and teach your child to accept thaings and have no self respect vto make wise choices. Idf you feel alone track down some support groups and i am sure that there are hostels for you to stay at that will give you love and support. Lokk forward to your future emrace it and imagine how good you will feel when you look back at the family you created and see a happy, placid child and know that you where responsible for that happiness.

Good luck! im sure all looks bad now but i promise you things have a way of working out.

Answer 2

hi, steer clear of the 17 year old for a start him sleeping with you is breaking the law - you are under the age of 16 and he is over which makes it child abuse - basically he could be put on the sexual offenders register as a paedophile.
Sweetie, i don't know what to say about the adoption. Is there any form of young mothers project near where you live currently? i don't know if they are still around but they used to have projects where young teen mums could go and live or stay till they could get themselves sorted out - other than that you make an effort back at your current home - if they are a foster family - they are responsible for you until you leave their care to either go to another family or into a home. If you need someone to talk to (i kno i am a complete stranger but sometimes its easier to talk to a stranger then someone you know) you can drop me an email through my profile..ok?

Answer 3

ok hun, your behaviour is the problem, you seem to have no respect for yourself, im sure your adoptive family dont hate you but you seem to bring this on yourself, I dont mean to sound cruel but you need to take a long hard look at yourself in the mirror and see the person you ARE not the person you THINK you are. You can do so much with your life, but you take it for granted! we cant help you unless you help yourself first. First off get rid of the baby and stop going to this lads flat, doesnt matter how fit he is, go home!.

Answer 4

how can we help you? you said you are adopted...i hardly see that as being without a family unless they beat you or were horrible to you. Your parents are the people who take care of you your whole life, not the people who push you out of their body.

And i hardly see that you could have behviour issues since birth...babies aren't bad. if you are pregnant, seek medical help for you and the child...and life can work out. tell the family that adopted you and stop with the pity party.

i was adopted too. and i am a grown woman with a family and all that...people have hard lives...that's no reason to think that you are a failure.

i wish you peace and good luck!

Answer 5

Only you can decide if you are going to get any help. The guy who suggested counseling gave you good advice. You need to talk to a local pastor/vicar and/or a professional mental health counselor (they deal with ALL types of situations) or a social worker. You also need to get in school and finish your education because it looks like you could use that too. You CAN pull yourself out of this with the help of others and God (He is STILL in control whether you believe it or not). Good luck

Answer 6

what in the world are you smoking? in the past week you have gotten over your fear of even kissing a boy to having threesomes and enduring 3 pregnancies? BTW how are Terri and Leon doing?
you need help alright so go get help at the psychiatrist office

Answer 7

Three things that you MUST stop doing -

1. Hating you mother
2. Hating ANYONE
3. Using Text Talk

Three things you MUST start doing -

1. Respecting yourself
2. Getting help from people who won't expect anything from you in return
3. Thinking about why it is you think you hate your mother

Answer 8

had a hard life? according to another question of yours you have an exciting life full of 3 somes and had 3 pregnancies.what more can you ask for huh?

i think you need some help psychiatric help

Answer 9

Call a peer counseling hotline or a spiritual counselor (pastor, etc., depending on your beliefs). Journal a lot and try to find someone to talk to. Know that you're entitled to your anger and resentment and try to release it by journaling, artwork, or finding what it is you truly love. Know that this will pass and know that you deserve bliss....

Answer 10

find a social worker that you trust to help you as you are under 16 you will not be able to get any financial help from the government so you need social service's to help you