But ever now and then she think's about her x-boyfriend. but the guy that she is witrh now is so much better. what is going on?
2007-01-06 13:06:29 · 12 answers · asked by jade g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is totally normal to simply just think about an ex every now and then. Since you dated them, they obviously had a very significant role in your life..at one time. As long as you don't obsess or keep re-living the relationship, it is fine. If it does start to interfere with your marriage, you may want to consider some counseling or something along those lines to deal with the thoughts and emotions that you are having.
2007-01-06 14:36:54 · answer #1 · answered by Melody 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's quite normal to think of someone in our past, as long as u know its in the past, as long as no one gets hurt by it. as u have a good thing now, and don't want to mess it up. u are just wondering what he is doing, and what if this hadn't happened would i still be with the other one. i would much rather be with someone else who treated me well than live in an unhealthy relationship, even if i still had some feelings for the other one. it will pass with time and distance.
2007-01-06 13:13:49 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That all depends on how you are thinking of your former boyfriend. Reminiscing about good times is one thing and is normal. Wishing you could be with him or spend time with him is a sign of trouble. If it is the later consider going to a psychologist to work through your feelings.
2007-01-06 13:13:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We're people, we THINK of things. Does she not also think about her childhood, her friends, her parents, her pets? We can't surgically remove our memories - once we experience something significant, it's here to stay. Does she only have ONE ex-boyfriend? Once a person has been in several relationships, they don't exactly "forget", but they learn to let go and see it for what it is - a part of who they are now, their life experience.
2007-01-06 13:18:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably just remembering the past. It is okay to visit the past every now and again, just dont stay there. Memories are not always choosable. Nothing is going on. It is just a memory or two....its ok. Now, just remember that she is happy and things are still better. :O)
2007-01-06 13:13:40 · answer #5 · answered by fivefootnuttinhuny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what near everyone does--so don't worry about that--you have a spot in your heart for your ex --just because you are happy doesn't mean you cant remember back then too--pretty sure your husband does that too-- :-) Live long and happy with your marriage--
2007-01-06 13:16:04 · answer #6 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's normal. That was a part of your life just like other experiences you think of in your life, like when your best friend from elementary school, like when you played certain games with your siblings. These are relationships you have had and can never be erased from the memory.
2007-01-06 13:15:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's okay to have a bird fly over your head, just don't let it light in your hair...... he's just a fleeting memory you have. You're normal. Just don't let the thought linger, or act upon it.
2007-01-06 13:15:52 · answer #8 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as it is just thinking of him every now and then there should be no problem-it is normal to remember other people just as long as she doesn't dwell on it.
2007-01-06 13:24:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's just having fond memories of her past.
2007-01-06 13:37:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋