I have a friend who is bisexual, and she invited me over her house and alot of other friends and we were sitting there and she started kissing and touching me, i didnt feel comfortable, she was trying to get me to have sex with her, but i refused and i left her house, now she's mad at me what should i do?
2007-01-06 12:58:49 · 18 answers · asked by vickie 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
If you have a bisexual friend under normal circumstances I would say so what, be her friend. However, her "putting the move" on you was unacceptable unless you may have done something to provoke it. I would call her and say, look, I don't care what your sexual preference is, and I will remain your friend as long as you know that the line will never be crossed. If she can not accept that , then it is time to terminate the friendship.
2007-01-06 13:04:03 · answer #1 · answered by vivib 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's a good thing that you still consider her a friend. Before you do anything else, let her know that. Then, explain to her that you don't have a problem with her being bi-sexual, if you don't, but that the reason you left the way you did was because you are not like that and that it surprised/shocked you and you didn't know how else to handle the situation. Tell her that you are not mad at her for being bi-sexual, but maybe a bit worried that she didn't respect your feelings.
I hope everything works out.
2007-01-06 21:04:27 · answer #2 · answered by Miss P. Square Pinky Swear 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That was very inappropriate for your "friend" to make sexual advances towards you. A real friend would not do that.
You have every right to choose who kisses and touches you. You did not do anything wrong. You did the right thing by refusing and leaving. If anyone has a right to be mad, it's you.
You should not consider her a friend any longer.
2007-01-06 21:08:09 · answer #3 · answered by eboue1 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
doesn't matter whether she is bi, straight, lesbian.. what she did was sexual harassment and it was wrong.. she's not much of a true friend if you ask me! true friends would never force themselves on another person like that..
if you really value this friendship, i'd explain quite clearly to her that what she did was wrong and that she better not do it every again. tell her that you are flattered that she wanted to get physical with you, but that you're just not interested..
sounds like she is going thru a tough time and doesn't know how to properly go about finding a lesbian partner.. hopefully you can stay friends, but it may be too awkward.. good luck..
2007-01-07 02:37:35 · answer #4 · answered by Jeff 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you still want to be her friend, but only a friend. You are willing to accept her, her bisexuality won't be a wedge that will drive you apart, but unless she understands that you are not interested in her that way, it will be. Friends, not friends with benefits.
2007-01-06 21:04:14 · answer #5 · answered by Breein 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She has no reason to be bad at you by the sound of it. Don't try to be her friend anymore if she's going to act like that.
2007-01-06 21:16:39 · answer #6 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a problem with why you didn't grab her HANDS! Why didn't YOU? This is what gets people deeper in trouble. I'm gay, and if another guy I didn't like were to ever do that, I WOULD INSTANTLY stop him!!! THEN AND THERE!
2007-01-06 21:07:27 · answer #7 · answered by AdamKadmon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well you need to tell her that you still like her as a friend ( if u still do) but you dont want to get sexuall with her and if she's a real friend she will respect that.
2007-01-06 21:12:20 · answer #8 · answered by tyler 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
she should of asked u first! that had to of been wierd! im a wierd person,and wouldnt of known wat to do so i probably wouldve kept going for the fact that i would be in a state of utter shock! LOL
2007-01-07 01:58:52 · answer #9 · answered by Rin_san44 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to her. tell her your not into that sorta thing but dont be aggressive, she probably got carried away and forgot that you were friends only.
2007-01-06 21:47:53 · answer #10 · answered by meju 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋