Hello. I need some help, but not for me. My brother just called and asked what would happen if he got a divorce from his wife. He sez hes been unhappy for the longest time and hes just tired and wants to leave now. He also said for the last week (and is the only time) hes been cheating and is happy with this girl. His wife doesnt know yet about any of this... Hes scared what would happen b/c he has 3 kids. How much child support could she nail him for? Hes worried about that and how he should tell her or when he should tell her. So his main concern is the child support thing. Anyone have any advise or...??? I dont know.. websites on help or something... I just wanna help him out. Ive been waiting for this for a long long time. This girl... shes the devil. She caused so much pain to the family. He deserves so much better than that. Well, thanks for any help anyone can give me. It means a lot to my brother and myself.
2007-01-06 12:19:27 · 27 answers · asked by jessnclh 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no, you dont understand, no one in the family like her, shes the devil and the most rudest person you could ever meet.
2007-01-06 12:40:08 · update #1
and NO, i am not the toher woman, hesmy brother and i am there for him and trying to help him. im a happily married woman whos trying to help her brother.
2007-01-06 12:41:50 · update #2
Child support varies from state to state. He might consult an attorney to see what consequences might result from his actions.
2007-01-06 12:22:26 · answer #1 · answered by tootsie1115 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well he needs to not cheat. If the woman is truly the devil then maybe the kids should not be left with her. I know someone kinda like that. They both cheat though. They have been married and very unhappy for a long time. He should talk with her. She may feel the same way. If they get seperated then he can get a girlfriend and it won't be cheating. I think he should move out, but stay close and in contact with the children. The child support thing depends on the ruling for who gets custody, how much he makes, where they live and much more. He should look for a lawyer too I would guess. I wish I could help more.
2007-01-06 12:24:03 · answer #2 · answered by sukesgirl 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wow sandrasint (a person who isn't convinced you are who you say you are) dint well say anything too wrong--except that she accused you as being the other woman--that's not fair--OK He should not be concerned with child support--he should be happy to support the kids--he is after all responsible too--and as far as cheating ?? That is really wrong--it hurts everyone involved even the woman he is seeing--If a person is really not happy with a marriage and really wants to leave then they do that first--Then move on with life--all along supporting the kids financially, mentally and every other support method a parent does --And telling his wife?? What is that going to solve?? Its going to give her the chance to make him look really bad in the eyes of the courts and his children --That and she will base his reason for leaving the marriage due to the other woman--and not the real issues at hand--
2007-01-06 12:47:37 · answer #3 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is giving the devil ammo by cheating .here is my advise in a nut -shell 1) put the affair on ice for now 2) file for legal separation, then work on divorce immediately 3)move out of family home 4)child-support is determined mostly by his income.and please dont consider it as being"nailed" children deserve to be supported by both parents. 5) be prepared to act more mature ,more responsible, and less resentful than ever.keep your emotions under control. this will go a long way toward helping you with the issues that can be negotiated. just be reasonable,and fair. remember that the children come first,and put aside any anger for the devil wife. she will use a violent outburst to her advantage. i dont blame anyone for wanting to leave a love-less marriage, however ,you really need to resolve this before you add another woman into your life. she will wait,dont you think? cheating may not add to the child support bill, but it will work against you on other issues of the divorce,and do you want to put this other woman in the middle of this mess? and she will be, no matter how careful you both are
2007-01-06 12:46:09 · answer #4 · answered by DEBI M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he could have to pay alot, depending on if the wife is a stay at home mom or if she works. there is no justification for his cheating, why not just get a divorce from her than find someone else. so his main concern is the support, and not how this is going to hurt his children.don't believe this is the only time he has cheated on his wife. and don't believe all the ugly things he says about his wife just to justify his bad deceitful behavior. she also could get spousal support, just really depends on the state guidelines, how much he makes, and if she works too. she may be the devil, but before one cheats they should get a divorce first.
2007-01-06 12:33:22 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Child support is based on his income,and if he has some woman on the side, doesn't help him any.Your brother first off needs to, stop seeing the other woman untill he starts proceedings, and he knows what he is gonna do for sure he should file for custody of his kids if she is that bad,mental cruelty is just as bad as physical cruelty and he could divorce her on those grounds. He has only been seeing this girl for a week that isn't long enough to detemine anything either.How long has he been married to his wife?What State is he in?
2007-01-06 12:33:53 · answer #6 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She can take quite a bit of money for 3 kids. It is usually a percentage of what he makes-he can be taken back to court until the youngest is 18 for the proper percentage each time he changes jobs. If she is a stay at home mom, she is also entitled to alimony.
However, if he really is unhappy to the point of seeing another girl, he should go ahead with the divorce and realize that the money for his kids is worth paying. He will be happier in the long run.
2007-01-06 12:24:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
He should go to a marriage counselor. Obviously he loved his wife at one time, they do have 3 kids. He should try to work things out and should never tell his wife about cheating. If they can't work things out then he could try to get joint custody. Child support depends on how much money he makes. The average amount of child support paid is about $200.00 per month per child. I hope this helps.
2007-01-06 12:27:09 · answer #8 · answered by miss m. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of actions has he taken to help heal his marriage? The easiest thing to do is to always run away from what hurts us. But it is not necessarily the best course of action. Has he made any attempt to get to the bottom of his wife's behavior towards him? What has he done so far and what part has he played and is responsible for regarding the breaking down of his marriage? Before he runs off with another woman (which most likely will not last because it is built on deceit and lies) he must do all that he can to keep his vows and his commitment he made at the altar to his wife and children.
2007-01-06 12:26:16 · answer #9 · answered by fancyface1 l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it happens to be in Colorado, as a no fault divorce state, It doesn't matter what the cirumstances are like who cheated on who or whatever. Chances are the best he can do is get the kids every other weekend, and will have to pay child support and alimony if he makes more than she does. Unless you can prove she is a druggie or something to make her unfit.
2007-01-06 12:24:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your " Brother " or You just need to step up and talk to your wife and talk to hear and be truthful.
If the only thing your going to worry about is how much support she could " nail you for " I wouldn't worry about that to much. Maybe you should look into the eyes of the 3 lids and worry more about them and what will happen to them.
All I can say is STAND up and BE A MAN and be TRUTHFUL to everyone involved
2007-01-06 12:25:40 · answer #11 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋