should I go back to my mom???

Question

Over three months ago I choose to run-away from home. It started when my father had to return to Iraq, again. leaving my siblings and me with my mom. She started stressign a lot and eventually started getting paranoid. I have a, handsome and attractive, Brazilian guy friend who walked me home when it was raining... she drove up when she saw us at the door. She went off! Started to tell me I can not be with this boy. The thing that was so stupid was he had been my friend for 7years! She knew him well. She started to freak out about everything. Then later she guarded me for coming home a 15 mins. late from school. She thought I was doing drugs! The later, same boy and his friend, came over and brought me my homework I missed because I wasn't feeling well at school. She heard them at the door and told them to leave! earlier that day she was snooping around in my room and found my money jar was full a cash, which she knew I had ben saving up for a year. She accused me a being a whore and..

... so that same night I had it and left. I gave my brother and sister half two-thirds of my money and packed my things and left. I was so scared... I decided to go to a friend's house. I found myself at Alex's place...same boy who got threatened by my mom. He was living with his cousin, who moved out and his dad and step-mom were going to move in soon. His aunt would stop by sometimes every week. I knocked on the door and he woke up and reluctantly let me in. He seemed a little confused until I told him what happened. He was a little concerned because he had a girlfriend and he wasn't sure what she'd think if he had a girl staying the night or just living with him. It was 1 in the morning. He was barly dressed and he opened up a door to a guest room and said I could stay. since then I have been there... his parents just moved in and did not mind me at all. They treated me like a daughter. But, now my dad will be returning from his tour in Iraq... I am not sure if I should even go home

btw: I am 16, almost 17. And my friend feels it is time to go back, since a lot has happened since I left home.

Answer 1

You should go back and try to reconcile, your mom loves you and wants the best for you. I know it'll be tough but it's surely worth it. Another thing is that this 'Alex' whoever he might be, has helped you and he has been a friend, according to you... I wouldn't know... you should thank him for letting you stay with him. And his family. Your mom needs to mellow out, therapy is the best solution. Forgivness is also good. you need to go back to your family and be there for your siblings and dad at least... you're lucky to have a mom to raise you and love you.

Answer 2

yes. Your mom and you are going through a lot at this point , with your dad being in Iraq. Its a big responsibility taking care of the family while he is gone, and a lot of stress on you and your brothers and sisters. You leaving home is another added stress. Go home and talk with your mom. Try to pull your family life back together. You need your mom as much as she needs you. Home is where you belong.

Answer 3

Sucking up your pride is one of the hardest things one has to do. Are you living okay now? Do you need financial help? If you are having problems surviving on your own then maybe it would be a good idea to go back home. Not only to have a shelter but to also help your mom, support her and make her realize that she needs some psychological help. Either way (if you go back home or not) you need to find a way to help your mom....if you don't you might regret it later on.

Answer 4

Give your mom a break, she's obviously stressed about your pop being in Iraq, she doesn't need you giving her a hard time. She's probably having a hard time realizing you're growing up, and she's a 'single parent at the moment and is probably scared she's doing the wrong thing with you. Talk to her and tell her how you're feeling, it must be hard for you too, you need to be a team - communication is a good thing, if you can talk to her she'll know you're not a bad kid, and she'll trust you.

Answer 5

oh sweetie your mum is depressed ,she might need mentle help its not your doing sometimes these things happen ,but yes go home if you feel you are adult enough to handle your mum as she actually might need you even if she cant see it ,try and understand her and talk to her if it dont work out leave again ,
but no matter what you only get one mum ,do your best for her at least you would have tried ,,,,

Answer 6

As much as i want to say leave that house i can't. try to talk to her. I think she's scared that your father might get hurt ya know. But, talk to her and tell her how you feel. Things at your house don't seem to be going that well and i know that you can't take it anymore but hold in there. When you've said what all you've said maybe she'll calm down. try to get in touch with one of her good friends to try to help you talk to her and i hope things calm down in your house.

Answer 7

You should go back to your mom. She is worried about you right now. She is going to be really stressed out right now and will be until your dad comes home.

Answer 8

Sounds like she is really stressing over everything. Tell her you need to get some counseling to help you cope with YOUR stress --maybe you can get some family counseling.

Answer 9

Yes.

Answer 10

sounds like your mom needs some help. i don't know how old you are, but try to go back. you being gone probably isn't helping her sanity. good luck