how can make my baby to stop crying all the time?

Question

she cries as soon as she wakes up...shes 6 weeks old and dsnt play much but cries all the time instead..she wants to be in my arms all the time..i have things to do during the day..like dishes n clothes to wash..etc...please help

umm kiristinad21, i was ready for evrything but wen she falls asleep i put her down but as soon as i put her down she wakes up... which kinda my problem n the reason evryone is answering this question is to resolve it..which obviously was not ur intension

Answer 1

somebody is spoiling her by holding her so i don't know what else to say it may be her personality

Answer 2

I really know how difficult and frustrating this can be as I have been there! I had one who wanted to be in my arms all the time and as soon as I tried to lie her down she'd scream. I know it's not ideal but if you put her into a sling while you go about your day this will help. However I also understand how frustrating this can be when you feel you have no time just to be you.

This can be a difficult age for some parents as the infant cries and there doesn't seem to be many rewards back. You get tired and just wish she'd settle.

I would say that you need to draft in some help if you can so you can get a couple of hours off when you need to. This is really important.

Another thing....no matter how house proud you are....totally blow the housework. Do only what you can and try to follow 'The Good Enough Principle' in other words, if the house is good enough then that's fine. It's important that you take rest at this time too. So explain to anyone else who lives with you that you are going need extra help as you are going to let things slide for a while.

Then get out of the house with your baby and relax as much as you can.

Things really do get better and better....honestly. Don't be too proud or you'll drive yourself into a depression.

Best wishes.

Answer 3

Colic is fabled as a stomach/intestinal disorder in infants. The reality of it is that we do not know where colic comes from. We assume that the infant is uncomfortable and the crying is a way of letting us know. What I suggest to parents is try a tv on with the volume a little higher than the baby's crying, on a station that has the "white noise" or try a vacuum cleaner about 6-8 feet from the crib left on. 9 out of 10 times the baby will calm down. If all else fails, wrap him up and take him for a ride in the car. In any event, do not give him medications that ER docs are so quick to give. They will have a lasting affect on you childs development. As much as you want to use them,DON'T! The main ingredient in most of the meds is alcohol anyway. You will make him or her dependent and it could paralyze the large intestine.Good luck! If it really bothers you, get a friend or family member to wath the tyke and just get away to calm down so that you don't do anything to the baby.

Answer 4

Babies 'talk' through their cries.... She just wants your attention; so feed her, change her diaper and make sure she is comfortable. Also, try to keep her by your side while doing the dishes so she can feel in your company without holding her all the time. If you can purchase a portable crib that has wheels and a net that closes up with a zipper, those are just great to haul the baby around the house with you. TALK TO HER, tell her how much you love her, sing to her. She won't be little for long and then the time to have her so close to you will have past and you may regret not taking advantage of this opportunity. Picture yourself not being able to walk or talk and having someone leave you all alone for long periods of time without attention... then maybe you can understand how a baby feels...

Answer 5

My son is 3 1/2 months old and still cries all the time. He used to stop when I held him...sometimes he still does...but usually he just screams at the top of his lungs. He is a very gassy baby but I was told it isn't collick unless they cry for something like 2-3 hours straight ...usually everyday and mine isn't that bad. My son seems to have an attitude lol and he's only 3 1/2 months old! My mom said that I was the same way when I was a baby. We bought him a swing that plays music and that helps a ton...plus he LOVES to watch cartoons already. So I sit him in his swing in front of the tv and he will actually sit there and watch...he gets mad if i turn the channel. I hate it that he watches tv so young ...but if it makes him stop crying then it's okay with me. also try getting her the Soothing Motions Glider...it can be found at wal mart, kmart, target, meijer, etc. its pretty much a souped up baby bouncer...it glides back and forth, plays music and has toys on it to keep them distracted. I also give my son baby gas drops which helps with the crying as well.

Answer 6

She's only 6 weeks old. 6 week olds don't "play" yet. They eat, sleep, pee and poop.

It's normal for her to want to be held a lot at this age. Just 6 weeks ago she was still inside you. She could see/hear/feel/smell/taste you every second of every day. She probably hasn't even completely figured out that the two of you are separate beings at this tender young age. Now, if she can't sense you, she doesn't know for sure you still exhist, which can be scarey to her.

First thing.....people before things. Reset your priorities. Don't try to be superwoman. Now is not the time to try to keep a perfect house. Recruit help from hubby and family/friends if you can. You still have a very young baby. Things like laundry and food to eat are probably top priority. Other stuff can be left to slide or wait until hubby is home on the weekend, etc.

Second.....do yourself a favor and get a sling. You can wear her and get things done. You can carry her easily in public and it discourages strangers from touching her since they would be invading your space to do so. You can nurse discretely in it. She'll feel very secure and happy snuggled up to you in it.

Third......know that you can not spoil a baby. Something that is spoiled is something that has been left on a shelf to rot.....not someone that you have paid attention to and given love to.

ETA:
Remember that crying is how she communicates with you.

We used to say that our oldest couldn't "feel gravity" when you put him down or he would wake up. When you lay her down, don't lower her down from your body to the mattress. Instead, keep her held close to your chest and bend over and get your torso as close to the mattress as you can. Gently slide your arms out from under her as you lay her down.

You could also try warming up the spot you plan to lay her down. Maybe the cold sheets are waking her?

You can also try putting her in a swing or carseat so that she is still kind of surrounded and has a bit of a sensation like being held.

Are you swaddling her?

Answer 7

Babies want to be held! It's normal for them to cry, and it's not spoiling them if you hold them all the time. It can be frustrating, but there are things you can do to help cope. Swaddle her, nurse her (if you're breastfeeding), rock her.

Check out Harvey Karp's "The Happiest Baby on the Block," or the mothering.com message boards.

You can also get a sling or baby carrier so you can "hold" her but have your arms free. Check out Ergos, Baby Bjorns, Mei-Tais, Hotslings.com.

I have a 5 month old, and I know how frustrating those early weeks can be. Trust me, the dishes can wait. Try to get someone to help out, like a friend, family member, a cleaning person, or a post partum doula (www.dona.com).

Answer 8

My baby did the same thing starting at about 3 or 4 weeks. Eventually we took him to the emergency room and they said that he was colicky. I had a few people reccomend catnip tea (in herbal stores). We gave him a little of this every 8 hours until he grew out of it (at about 4 months). It works wonders and he has slept in his own bed every since.

BTW, everyone told me that my baby was spoiled, but he wasn't. I let him cry every time I put him down for about 3 days. They told me to try mylicon drops- that didn't work.

Sometimes, herbal remedies do work. I promised myself that I would tell all parents of colicky babies so they didn't have to go through what I went through. I used to sit at home alone (my hb works at night) crying because the baby wouldn't stop.

Also, try to feed her a little more too. I didn't want to overfeed my baby and wanted to keep him on a strict schedule. That was a small part of the problem too.

Answer 9

Naomi gave you the link to Oprah....please use it. Her guest was a lady (Priscilla Dunstan, of Australia) that figured out what the baby sounds mean..... Her are some for 0 to 3 months: :

"neh" means I'm hungry

"owhh" --means sleepy/tired

"heh"---means discomfort

'eair"---means lower gas

"eh" ---means needs to burp.

Learn to listen for these sounds when she's crying....she's trying to communicate wtih you.

And you! At 6 weeks, forget about the doggone housework! That little one is growing and at a very fast rate. Do not worry about all of the chores right now, just be a mommy to your baby and when you do have some free time...spend it pampering yourself!! Take a nap....take a bubble bath....But don't spend it doing things that really can wait. Ask for someone to help out with those other things....

I think you will be pleasantly surprized as you listen for those sounds..... Congratulations on your little stinker and lots and lots of luck to you both!

Answer 10

First let me congratulate you on your baby!

I am assumeing you know about babies and that they cry a good bit. And that "play" to a six week old is trying to immatate the silly faces mom and dad make at her (try sticking your tongue out at your little one--they will try to copy your facial expressions! Amazing creatures!)

My 7 week old son was the same way, until I diagnosised him and had his doctor confirmed he has silent reflux. LOL (my doctor often asks me why I pay her) Although he is still ahigh needs baby--not quite so high needs now--to learn about high needs babies check out http://www.askdrsears.com/html/5/T050400.asp

You might also try a sling, carrier or wrap. I have all 3 and I, and my baby, both prefer a wrap. In fact I have 3 wraps! LOL I made them myself. You can too (no sewwing required) Just buy some fabric and tie your baby to you! I can do most of my housework with him in a front carry and use a back carry for the rest. Learn how at http://www.wearyourbaby.com/

If you suspect or have been told that your baby has colic, you may want to consider the possibility that your baby may have reflux. This may not be the answer for all colicky babies, but in my experience and based on my conversations with other mothers, reflux is very common and is very often misdiagnosed as colic.

These are some of the more common symptoms of reflux. Your baby may only have some of them, and may have other symptoms that are not listed.

Spitting up frequently
Vomiting
Unexplained crying-colicky behavior
Poor sleep; frequent waking
Fighting/crying during feeding
Arching neck or back during feeding
Frequent hiccups
Congestion
Wheezing
Coughing
Hoarseness
Strange odor on breath
Poor weight gain
Frequent choking episodes
Fusses when legs are lifted during diaper change
Fusses when in sitting position (like in a car seat)
Chewing or smacking of lips after feedings

Important: There are a couple of common misconceptions about reflux:

First, your baby does not have to be losing weight to have reflux. On the contrary, many reflux babies actually overeat because eating eases the pain.

Second, your baby does not have to be spitting up to have reflux. This is known as "silent reflux" and can actually be harder on your baby because their esophagus is getting burned by the acid on the way up and again when it goes back down. It's also a lot harder to recognize as reflux.

If your baby is exhibiting signs of reflux, you should talk to your pediatrician about it. Be forewarned though that many pediatricians only consider reflux to be a problem if the baby isn't gaining weight properly. Beyond that, many seem to think it's merely a laundry problem for an overreacting parent and will tell you that your baby will grow out of it and send you on your way. Yes, your baby will grow out of it, but if your baby is experiencing pain and discomfort from reflux, there's no reason why he should have to suffer while he's growing out of it! You need to make sure that your doctor understands that your baby is in pain and that you're not complaining about the laundry. And if he still doesn't listen, find another doctor.

If it is reflux changing baby's formula or elimanting certian foods from mo's diet will help.

I hope this helps!

Answer 11

Yes babies cry and it can get on your nerves but that does not mean you should not have became a parent, like someone said. Just hold your baby and enjoy her. That time is going to go by so fast the dishes can wait til she is asleep. But my little girl liked being in her swing or a bouncy chair that vibrated on the bottom, and she also liked the radio on. Just try to relax and everything is going to be fine.