A paradise or a hell? kind of a philosophy hypothetical about sexual relationships.?

Question

ok - i read on yahoo today that women can tell from guys faces if they have a hormonal tendency towards being fatherly types or macho men, and that women prefer to have flings with macho men but make husbands out of family guys. so unlike guys, who natural want to get with all women all the time to spread their genes, women have a natural tendency to want a different kind of guy at different times.

of course - in today's society you can't do both. but apparantly in the animal world monogomous animals lke birds, the females 'cheat' with hottie males and have make love to their normal males to keep the nest. in people, women are most likely to cheat when ovulating.

So what if society was built around at least some men getting many partners, other men getting steady sex, and women getting both the mates and flings with no regrets? Its science fiction, but imagine that disease prevention, birth control, and paternity testing eliminated the need for enforced monogamy. Women could commit to a guy for the long term, but still fulfill her desires when nature calls. Naturally, there would be a group of guys who got a lot of different women, and another group that got a steady stream of sex with one.

If you can put yourself in such a world, is it paradise or hell? Who is it best to be? Who is it worst to be? And what role would you most likely play, and why?

Answer 1

Such an organization would be paradise. I would love to be a woman who has a steady partner but gets plowed by another man once in a while. Lucky for me, I live in such an arrangement.

The reason society can't live in such an arrangement is because of fundie Christianity.

Answer 2

Such an organization would be paradise. I would love to be a woman who has a steady partner but gets plowed by another man once in a while. Lucky for me, I live in such an arrangement.

The reason society can't live in such an arrangement is because of fundie Christianity.

Answer 3

I wouldn't care either way, because I wouldn't partake in it. Contrary to common belief, there ARE people out there with a truly monogamous nature, and I just so happen to be one of them. I can't even have so much as a crush on two people at a time.

That being said, I think it would be better to be a woman in such a society because you'd get the best of both worlds.

I imagine it would be rough on men, because there is a biological drive for men to successfully father children. A man who has no contact with his children cannot ensure their safety; thus men have evolved to want to settle down and raise family at some point in their lives (though, as always, there are some exceptions).

Likewise, in the past, a man whose wife was "unfaithful"--particularly at her most fertile time of the month--was losing out on reproduction and would experience jealousy. Even in a time of birth control and societal encouragement of such extramarital flings, a husband may not be able to stop himself from trying to sabotage his wife's relations with other men due to the biological drive to ensure his reproductive success. Problems would be bound to arise.

Regardless of the rules of society, we cannot escape from our evolutionary past.

Answer 4

it would be a sexual paradise if everyone was like minded. ive known couples who have tried swinging, which is basically the same thing. for some it worked, for others, it was the beginning of the end. if you look at sex in a recreational sense, it would be no different than playing tennis with someone else. if you have to love someone to have sex with them, theres the problem. also jealousy is involved and its quite complex. its easier to close your eyes and use your imagination. no matter how much you love someone, your always going to be sexually attracted to someone else. we were made that way. anyone who says different lies. you forgot one group, and that is the one that gets nothing at all. i think our society is that way already, you just dont hear about it. if i were in that world, it would be multiple partners, because doing the same thing with the same person gets boring as the years go by. face it, theres only so many things 2 people can do.