I'm 13, and I like girls...im a girl, need sum help...?

Question

Im a girl and I'm turnin 13 in about 2 months and since the beginning of 6th grade last year i started gettin girl crushes and now i noticed im completely bi and i really dont care but the problem is im gettin jealous of my guy friends for gettin girlz so fast and i want a girlfriend too that is my age and all but its kinda hard cuz no girls are like that my age. It's hard. I really need some help getting with a girl, cuz i just cant stand being alone. im really upset all the time and i get dreams about me and a girl like almost everyday. i want some actual love, and i barely like guys, and i want get love with a girl. boys say im hot and ive heard it alot of times but i dont care cuz all i want is a hot girlfriend. please i need some advice...and if u r gonna say this "ur too young" dont even bother, im ignoring all that. i need some actual advice on how to get a girl. im tired of hearing that. so please, maybe 1 of u can actually make a difference in my life...

my email is [e-mail] if any of ya wanna email me u can

Answer 1

u are definitely desperate!!!! i kinda have the same problem as u! except im 15!!!!!!! im bi though,not totally lesbian! i have 2 bi friends but they both have boyfriends! (their girls) the 1 i do like a little bit,but yeah...i also have a ultra Christian friend, that ive been friends with for about 9 yrs! and i bet if i told her im bi she wouldn't talk to me as much! and people in my school are so judgmental and are extremly nasty about it !!!!!!!! im single and would love to have a gf, but there's nowon else that i know that is bi or lesbian! and it sucks!!! though u are a bit "younge" i think ur lucky to have found out so early! if i had thought of it then, i wouldve been a bit grossed out and worried and scared! so ur lucky to be a bit open about it at ur age! and talk to the girls to see if their against LBGT, then think about asking them out!!!!
good luck my little friend!!!

Answer 2

My dear girl--don't let anyone here or any place else tell you that you are wrong about the way you feel! It's happening to YOU, and it's really no one else's business! Guilt has NO PLACE in a young woman's life, especially with her sexuality! And you have NO ONE to answer to, except your own emotions!

Secondly, give it a little bit of time--there are other young women who feel nearly the same way you do, and in time you will be able to get to know them and share something special with them. I would venture a guess that the ONLY reason guys are getting the jump on girls you like, is because heterosexuality is the more "accepted" choice, according to the status quo! Don't get into the trap of feeling that love won't come to you--it WILL, if you are patient, I guarantee it!!

Don't worry, I don't accept the opinion that you are "too young" either--perhaps it just happened to you earlier than most! Whatever the case may be, it's STILL nobody's business but your own! You must be ready for the ignorance that is in the world today, and the fact that people may make fun of your choice at one time or another--so prepare yourself for that, but don't let it change you. You are who you are, and thank God for that! There is no one on this earth like you, and rejoice in your "difference", as well as your "similarities"!!! For someone who is 13, you have a remarkably open mind! Keep it up, and hopefully the rest of the world will catch up to you!!

Answer 3

It's just like when a girl has a crush on a guy...she thinks about him 24/7, but maybe he doesn't have feelings for her that way. For you, you're crushing on girls but yes, you are right, they don't have feelings for you that way (unless they are as mature as you to know if they are bi or gay). You need to join the gay straight alliance, maybe you'll meet someone new that you like who likes you back. Also, meeting new people in your community will create bonds and open connections to meet other people! Take a class, be in a play, etc to meet people who don't go to your school.
In the meantime, stop thinking that you can't be alone. Being alone is a gift because it allows you to think about what you really want instead of jumping into something too fast. So i suggest get involved in an activity that you feel is fun, and things will fall into place eventually.

Answer 4

probably not what you want to hear but if you want to get a girl your age its probably only going to be over the internet because the chances that someone your age in your area feels the same way is slim and the chance that she will admit how she feels is slimmer and just the fact that your both bi doesn't automatically make it relationship material. good luck though and as you get older you'll probably find there will be more people like you.

Answer 5

YOU ARE TOO YOUNG!!! you need to think of more important things like school for example. once you turn about 17 or 18 then you can concentrate on girls and right now it will be hard for you to find another girl being that at that age girls are very confused and also the risk of being found out if they are gay. once you're finished high school and hopefully go to college then people don't seem to care as much if you're gay and want to get with a girl. kids are just stupid like that (i'm talking about other kids being so close-minded).

Answer 6

You sound like you're very mature for your age. I don't see any problems with trying to find girlfriends a little older than yourself. Many girls your age are probably only questioning their sexuality. You'd probably be more likely to not get your heart broken by someone a little older that isn't going to walk up to you one day and say, "It's over. I'm straight." Also, if you're attracted to someone ask them out. You'll find out if they're interested. Gaydar is pretty much a joke.

Answer 7

=\ i can sympathise. I'm fourteen and i'm in highschool and i have the biggest crush on some guy in my swimming team and well **** it's hard coming out to people. Basically the same thing, i feel like crap most of the time because i'm not even sure if he likes me. I say just wait till high school. That's when you'll most likely be able to get " some" lol. =\ I'm pretty sure he likes me too. *sigh*

Answer 8

chill, don't be so anxious to get a girlfriend

it sounds like you've just come into this and I think you should relax and give it some thought before you become like everyone else who can't stand one second of independence

don't focus on getting a girlfriend
you'll find someone and you'll get together just because you both like girls instead of really knowing and liking them

if you're patient you'll find someone you're really interested in, who feels the same about you

-some advice from this girl who likes those girls too

Answer 9

when i was 12 i had a nice big rack more than a teacher and i was horny for a girl who i liked alot. we would change for swim classes and she had a body that you just wanted to kiss and eat non stop. we touched each other boobs and *** a few times. but nothing more.
my mom came and talked to me about being carefull and not having sex or a relationship till i was ready and at my age then, my hormons were going crazy. i would get wet just being with her and with a guy i would get wet, but nothing like her. my dad who is my greatest hero told me that despite i have my need's, despite i have the body to have sex, despite i feel i need someone to love me and even eat me, but relationship time comes when you are ready and it is not because your too young, it is because you're ready. he also told me i was his little girl.
i love my dad even more because of that cause when i did have sex with a female, i was ready and not because i was horny, but because there was room for a true relationship and be able for her to love me for i was and not that she could have me or i could eat her no matter where it was. you gotta be ready in a relationship. do what i did, i waited and got ready and when it finally happend, it was the best and she was the best till she past away.
love and kisses. feel free to e-mail me baby. i know where you're coming from. xoxoxoxoxo

Answer 10

At 13 you are still very young. You could be just in a phase of curiosity. If it isn't a phase though then embrace your sexuality. If you are gay it is nothing to be ashamed of or afraid of. You are who you are and there isn't anything that you can do about it. Be happy and don't try to pretend to be something that you aren't. Good luck.