I just posted this in singles+dating but I need more than 10 or so answers PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!?

Question

I like this kid we will call him kid 1 and so kid 1 has a brother thats kid 2. now kid 1 has a gf but i dont think he is really comitted to her. he is really nice and stuf. 3 yrs older than me.......

Then kid 2 is my age but has anger problems and never really smiles........but nice too!!


WHAT SHOULD I DO??????

HELP!!!!!!!


I want a bf badly i am fustrated because i have a nother kid that i like who is also my age but i saw him pick his nose we will call him kid 3...


kid 1 has 2 brothers kid 2 is one of them then there is the other one that is 8 and when i am over there house i always get teased Haley likes Kid 1 repeat and so forth so if i tell him that i like him and wanna get into a realtionship w/ him he is obviusly going to say no because he already has a gf "Krista" *bleh* *bleh*

I AM SCARED! :(

i am between the ages of 9-14 in the middle of those

Answer 1

One of the things that occurs to you later on down the road - and this is a little hard to hear - is that boys can like more than one girl at a time. So kid 1 has a girlfriend he's not necessarily that into... doesn't mean he'll ditch her for you. Trust me when I say you don't want that (if he's the type of bloke that 'trades up' than he'll ditch you too.) Kid 2 has anger issues and that's reason enough to ignore him but, more immediately, you've got a crush on his older brother. You probably won't be satisfied with him either. Kid 3 picks his nose - no crime in itself - but he also gets caught doing it so he's probably not mature enough to have a girlfriend. What if you were friends with kid 3? You don't have to date him but it sounds like he's as inept with girls as you feel you are with boys. Finding a male friend who you don't date is an awesome boon. I have one named Patrick and we've been giving each other tips on the opposite sex for nearly 7 years now without so much as holding hands. Being friends with boys without 'putting out' is a great way to understand them. You'll find they aren't the mysterious creatures they appear to be, that they have many of the same feelings and confusions that you do.

I get that it's frustrating. It's frustrating when you're young, especially if you haven't had a boyfriend before and you want to know what all the fuss is about, and it's frustrating when you're older and trying to find the right person.

The best way to meet people is to get a hobby and become good at it. That way you'll have something substantial to fall back on. Lets say you picked playing the guitar. Take lessons and keep in mind that this is something that will 'improve you' and make you an interesting person. Join a gym or take up swimming. Don't overdo it. The last thing boys want is some skinny, whinny chick who's obsessed with her body. Become fit and healthy and you'll find people who are fit and healthy. If you're into solitary activities, like reading or watching movies, that's great too, but finding something that you can share with other people is the best way into worthwhile groups.

If folks are teasing you, then all the more reason to find something to distract yourself and find confidence in. I love to draw and read and I've found that men like that about me and I like myself more because I'm not relying on someone else to entertain me. My boyfriend's really into music and, even though I'm not a musicians, we both respect each other's creative projects and even collaborate sometimes on projects.

You don't want just anyone, right? You don't want someone who's going to treat you badly or dump you for another girl. Concentrate on improving your mind and your independance. Find your strength and you'll be more attractive to other people. Falling in love is awesome and feeling secure with someone is great too, but if you're not happy with yourself, you're going to be paranoid about loosing that person once you find them.

Also, in my experience, you sometimes end up with people you would never have expected to.

Whatever you do, don't let things get too physical too fast. Move at your own pace and be careful (that means using protection when the time comes). Men smell desperation and while a few jerks might take advantage of you and then ditch you, you won't get what you want by concentrating on boys as the #1 goal.

Don't be too scared. Everyone goes through this. I know, I know, it seems like other folks are happy and secure. Trust me, they're not. Everyone feels, at some point in their life, like they're going to be lonely forever. That means that Haley and Krista have felt this way too, maybe even feel that way right now. First, make something of yourself. Concentrate on something you love and find out what you're good at. Trust me when I say that the boys will like you more for having something to offer other than your body. After that, all it takes is time.

Best of luck in your immediate situation, but I have a good feeling it'll all work out in the end. If these folks seem important to you now, jot things down in a journal (I keep a journal and a sketchbook on me at all times, but make sure not to let anyone see them... this stuff is for you and you alone. Hide it well, even from your best of friends.) I've been re-reading my highschool journals trying to figure out who these people I was so into were. They're just not important anymore.

Peace,
Nicole

Answer 2

First of all, you are outside the situation and unless there is danger of abuse or controlling behavior that you notice and want to save a person from, you shouldn't look at person that is unavailable. If the person becomes single and shows interest in you, then go for it but don't try to steal someone away from someone else. All this will do is set you up for a relationship of doubt and suspicion and guilt, feeling that if they left someone for you they'll ultimately do the same to you.

Secondly, anger is not something that you should just shrug off. I have had serious issues with my own personal anger and I am still trying to overcome the rage that dominates my life. I am glad that I am still single because I would not want anyone to have to deal with the anger that is within me. Over the years, with God's help and healing, my anger is slowly leaving but the damage to the ones I love have already been done.

Thirdly, don't settle. I don't understand the desperation of young people to find a boyfriend or girlfriend. Just relax and take your time. When the time is right, it'll all fall into place. Enjoy the freedom of single life and don't dwell on the surface attraction of dating. There is a great deal more than what is shown in public. Believe me I know.

Answer 3

Go for Kid 1's 8 yr. old brother. That should satisfy your frustration for a while.

Answer 4

What about kid 4? the one you do not know yet and won't if you carry on thinking of these losers?

Answer 5

just tell the boy that you were talking to the girl and the girl said that she thinks he is a moron(but she doesn't really say that)
so try it out. and if it doesn't work, try to get other people to answer it too

Answer 6

Well you need to grow up and get to be more responsible beofre you can get a bf. Maybe you and all the kids need to grow up.

Answer 7

Why don't you leave the "kids" alone... and get wit a real man. Its not that serious!

Answer 8

wait till kid1 is single nd ask him out. or you cud get kid 2 now.

Answer 9

You should stopping sniffing paint. Then kid one, two, and three might not think you're as dumb as you sound.

Answer 10

Your question seems to be more of a riddle. And I'm not good at them. But thanks for the points anyway.