I know nothing about sex or how to kiss, I do know the general idea but I have no any real experience, and every time when I am with boys and feel them wanna go further, I just don't know how to do, and get very nervous.
2007-01-06 10:34:05 · 23 answers · asked by Michelle 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Thanks a lot, guys.
I think I am old enough to have sex. onelight could be right, maybe he is not the right one.
And, I have to be honest here, I did watch some porn movies to get the idea, but I feel really disgusting about it. it makes feel that having sex is really not that beautiful thing..
2007-01-06 10:52:23 · update #1
You say you're nervous and don't know what to do.
When you are with the right man, you will know he is ' right ' because he will want to make you feel comfortable and safe. He should be patient, tender, and create a peaceful yet passionate environment of you two sharing that way together.
Natural to feel nervous...Yet, if you're with the right man...that nervousness will feel safe in his company.
If you don't feel peaceful and safe while still feeling nervous...he is not the right man to be sharing that way with.
Added note : I just sent my answer, then read some other answers before mine. Regarding the " watch a porn movie suggestion " . . . Don't do that. Porn movies, while they have their place, are NOT a realistic way of initially learning of natural ways of relating with another sexually. Porn movies show the physical act, yet don't authentically convey the message of true emotions of relating.
Just saw your added comment stating that after watching porn that you feel that sex may not actually be a 'beautiful thing'. As I messaged above...porn is not a realistic reflection of the beauty of sex...it just shows technique and the lustful ' act '. Actually, sex truly is a very beautiful experience. Be sure that you find one who desires to hug your soul, not only your body and it will be right and beautiful...and feel great too. Sex is actually pretty magnificant, powerful and great. And when it's enhanced by being with one who genenually has care for your heart...it's even more powerful to experience. Just be patient, value yourself and who you share yourself with.
2007-01-06 10:40:10 · answer #1 · answered by onelight 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Definitely recommend talking to someone close to you, maybe not your parents, but an older sibling or maybe a cool aunt that you may have.
Sex is not something that a young lady should go into lightly. As far as being concerned over being good at it or anything like that, don't sweat it, that will come with time. Besides guessing your age, your partner is likely to know less about it than you do.
Safe sex at your age is paramount, you don't want to be a teenager with a baby. You will wreck your body and your life.
At the risk of coming off as a pervert, if you wanna get good at sex, practice alone.
2007-01-06 10:39:59 · answer #2 · answered by John P 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Wow
I Think You Need To Ask Your Parent's About The Bird's And The Bee's!
Don't Worry About Going Futher Yet! You'll Do Something You'll Be Sorry For!
Your To Young To Be Worrying About Sex!
2007-01-06 10:35:54 · answer #3 · answered by † Dark Prince † 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
First be sure about your own values and what you want.
Be very clear about this, and how far you are willing to go.
If you want to increase your sexual experimenting, relax and just be with the other person responding in ways that feel good for you. Don't make it a performance. Most boys know what they want, so it's just a matter of how much you're willing to allow.
2007-01-06 10:41:07 · answer #4 · answered by CincinnatiDon 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Oh for sure ask your parents, or somebody you really trust, if they trust you they will talk to you about what ever you ask, and you don't want to do anything until you are really ready anyway do you? you will feel betrayed if you are not ready and the other person is.
2007-01-06 10:44:28 · answer #5 · answered by christanj 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow.
This is a really good question.
Erm, Google it? Wait..you'd probably get more porn sites than any informational sites. But..maybe thats for the best.
Watch porn. They always seem to get it right.
2007-01-06 10:38:30 · answer #6 · answered by Love Panda 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
yeah, have some fun.let me tell you something, go on the computer to yahoo.com,
then, type in world tgp, then click at the top where it says world tgp, then you can watch sexvideos you can even sigh up to go there and have all the sex you want, gotta go bye!!and i'm a lesbian, i went there once got ****** and then i had more fun.bye!!
2007-01-06 11:39:33 · answer #7 · answered by princess kira 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that is becsue you are not ready yet when the time come you will feel better and will have some idea on what to do you can also go to the library and check out books that will help you out
2007-01-06 10:37:36 · answer #8 · answered by amber 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
haha, Pop Princess's suggestion is prettty funny :). but its true, there ARE books. and there are also videos (a.k.a porn, but i wouldn't recommend that). just let the guy lead you into it (assuming the guy's not also a virgin).
but if you haven't even got your first kiss yet, i don't think you should be having sex!!
and think to yourself: do you REALLy like the guy? or do you just want to have sex? (kinda slutty, but whatev...)...and also, doo you want to have sex BEFORE marriage?
2007-01-06 10:37:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
All the pressure in sex at a young age is on teh guy. You can't screw it up. Seriously. Unless you just like...lay there lifeless, that would mess it up.
2007-01-06 10:38:09 · answer #10 · answered by elricsfate 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋