I told her that my boyfriend is visiting me.All the details that she needs to know, i laid it all down.The where,why,when and everything. Next thing, i told her about my plans for my uni life.The where,why and what for and everything again. Still, i informed her about my plan for my 18th birhday this coming june. I told her that since i don't like partying and wanna take a break coz i've been working and studying hard, i wanna travel and go somewhere.Travel is my passion but she thinks im wasting money.I filed an annual leave from work coz i need a break from working for almost 2 weeks due to xmas season(lack of staff)and i need to study too.But she just wants me to study and study.She, who happens to be my mom loves me so much but she's being a control freak and now, im slowly suffocating! How do i tell her without making her mad(as she always use to be whenever i lay down my plans or ideas). I want to be independent and responsible in my own way but she always sees me as immature.
2007-01-06 10:33:44 · 10 answers · asked by peek-a-boo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
And mind you people, my dad seems not to care although he tells my mom certain things, he doesn't really wanna get involved on stuff which i still have to beg him to do so but will still refuse me.He only agrees if im gonna lend him money which i don't really do as i know its for her mistress.
2007-01-06 10:54:52 · update #1
tell her it like it is would be best. she might get mad but its the best way to get it off her chest or say, mom i really want this, pleasse be happy for me etc might bring her back down to earth.
2007-01-06 10:36:52 · answer #1 · answered by Lucy Chik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-01 22:34:18 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear - you need to sit her down and explain this to her in adult terms. It sounds like you've played the routine for long enough if you've given the "where, when and why's" of everything you planned. Its not going to be easy, one suggestion might be getting a tutor as a confidant to discuss your personal growth with you and your mother, alternatively a counsellor. That way it'll make the point clear without you having to have a confrontation with mom. I've had a fight with mine a few weeks ago - parents will only see you as a child. Thats one of the hardest things to break I think.
Hope this helps. get a 3rd person - dad?
2007-01-06 10:49:27 · answer #3 · answered by charlie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOUR GRADES ARE PUTTING YOU IN A SITUATION WHERE GRADUATION MAY NOT COME IF YOU DON'T STUDY, SHE'S NOT BEIN A CONTROL FREAK.
IF YOUR GRADES ARE VERY GOOD THEN...
YES SHE IS BEING A CONTROL FREAK...
PARENTS JUST DON'T LIKE TO SEE THEIR BABIES GROW UP.. FEEL FLATTERED THAT YOU HAVE A MOM THAT CARES..
MAKE SURE THAT YOU ACT LIKE A YOUNG ADULT WHEN TALKING TO HER, TALK TO HER SERIOUSLY, AND SHE'LL TAKE YOU SERIOUS.
I'M SURE THAT YOU DESERVE A BREAK... IF YOU HAVE RECOGNIZED IT ON YOUR OWN THAT ITS TIME FOR A BREAK, THEN ITS PROBABLY OVERDUE.
AND TRAVELING MONEY IS BETTER SPENT THAN MONEY ON SOME KEG PARTY & A HUGE MESS TO CLEAN UP THE DAY AFTER... SHE SHOULD BE PROUD OF THE CHOICE YOU'VE MADE TO SPEND SOME LEISURE TIME..
2007-01-06 10:51:12 · answer #4 · answered by SHORTY38 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow..I don't really know what to tell you cause my mom's kinda the same way...First of all ask God to help you and help your mom. Mothers usually want the best for their children. Tell her you know she wants all the best for you but she needs to slacken up a lil. Don't worry if she gets mad...they all get mad at some point. Tell her you want to follow your dream...and not hers. You're living your life and she needs to stop living it for you. Maybe telling her the complete truth would make her go in tears and then she'll listen. lol
2007-01-06 10:44:43 · answer #5 · answered by petra_sweety 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Any parent that thinks travvelling is a waste of money is mad...i dont mean that to sound nasty but its the best thing you can do in your life and if you dont you will regret it. Did she do it? If not she may be annoyed that she didnt.
2007-01-06 10:37:36 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs Moo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a job. save your money. when you turn 18 you are free.
2007-01-06 10:38:01 · answer #7 · answered by heyman016032003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk till she hears you
best of luck
2007-01-08 07:24:16 · answer #8 · answered by angies_angel_eyes2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marry me that will piss her off and it will be fun
2007-01-06 10:37:16 · answer #9 · answered by big daddy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2007-01-06 10:39:01 · answer #10 · answered by yahoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋