The walls we build around us to keep out the sadness also keep out the joy. I choose joy. Which do you choose

Question

~ and Why!?

Please share what compels you to build or tear down those damn walls.

Answer 1

I choose LOVE and the JOY that comes with it.. I chose to let down my defenses and allowed somebody to love me and conquer the walls I built around my heart for such a long long time! For many years I denied myself of love, loving someone.. and being loved in return.. for what? to guard my heart from sadness??.. from pain??.. then one day, it dawned on me.. I realized.. I was not living, not that way.. that's not life!!!.. and I realized I was merely existing, yes breathing, but not really living.. for what is life without love?.. what is life without someone to love?.. what is life without someone to love you?.. and what is life without YOU?? why have a heart that knows nothing of love.. it's only a "pumping heart" and not a "beating.. loving heart" that mine has become the day I dropped that tear in the ocean and it found a place in your heart.

It's human nature to shy away from what brings pain in our lives.. what is painful we try to eliminate.. what brings sadness we try to forget.. or ignore.. or pretend that doesn't exist.. we try to shy away from people who we feel could hurt us, little do we know, the very same people who have the power to hurt us are the very same ones who could show us what love is, what gives joy, what is beautiful and what is not.

I can say that I only started to live that very moment.. the instant I let love in my heart, I have never regretted it.. there were times of sadness, there are still times of sadness to come.. and yet, just knowing I have someone loving me, by letting YOU love me, I know our love is worth all the pains, worth all the sadness the world has to give, worth braving all the storms that will come our way baby, our love is worth all the sorrows and all tomorrows.. and I know in my heart that we are not fighting a losing battle even if it takes us a lifetime to find our way together.. even if we have to crawl.. even if we have to stumble in the darkness finding the way, we will keep fighting, we will keep battling, we will keep fumbling.. until love finally brings us together.

With all my heart, I thank you for loving me.. for tearing down the walls I built around my heart.. thank you baby.. thank you for showing me love and allowing me to live, I can't love you enough oh god, I can't even thank you enough!!!

Answer 2

I can't speak toward the natural child birth experience, as I delivered my son with an epidural. First and foremost... don't feel guilty about any decision that you make. Also remember that all pregnancies are different. I got my epidural after they broke my water. I wasn't dilating as fast as they had hoped, so they broke my water to increase the pressure on my cervix. The contractions got sooooo intense after that, that I could barely stand it. I got the epidural, and it made the whole experience that much more enjoyable. Mostly because I still had 9 hours of labor to go. If I had not had the epidural... I would have had to have had a C-section. There is NO way I would have had the strength to push to get my son out. My labor was over 22 hours, and the epidural allowed me to get a few hours of interrupted sleep. I have heard some people say that with the epidural they didn't feel the need to push or they weren't pushing right. Maybe my dose was low or had lost it's effectiveness, but I felt the urgency to push and I FELT the birth. It did not eliminate all of the pain. I don't know... but I would think the epidural might make the labor a little bit longer because you will get a chance to rest and your body can do some of the work on it's own. Without the epidural you would likely be pushing and doing everything in your power to move things at a faster pace. I had no problems with my delivery. I am set to be induced tomorrow... and I will be getting an epdiural again. Good Luck... it is a decision not to be taken lightly... but it is YOUR decision. No need to feel guilty or feel pressure to do as other's THINK you should. Your good friend will be a good gauge as well. Many women set out to have a natural child birth, and realize that they are more open to the epidural then they thought.

Answer 3

All around your island... There's a barricade
That keeps out the danger... That holds in the pain
But you got a heart so big
It could crush this town
And I can't hold out forever
Even walls fall down

well.... love built up my walls & love tore them down again.... at the moment the best i can do to explain it all is the Tom Petty song... but, something has compelled me to start building the walls... its deep, its emotional, and its best described by Mr. Petty

Some days are diamonds... Some days are rocks
Some doors are open... Some roads are blocked

Sometimes you're happy... Sometimes you cry
Half of me is ocean... Half of me is sky, but

when a person has a heart so big it can crush a town it is bound to break

~have a good night, Mr. Bender!~

Answer 4

Bender, I have lost both parents and all my grandparents. I have learned to appreciate every day for all the good I can find and accomplish. I choose joy because there no point in suffering over what can not be changed...I take time to grieve, time to remember, and then move forward to tomorrow, loving the day's adventure.
I really do not build walls as much as an inventory of good things to get me though the bad times.
--Charles, That Cheeky Lad

Answer 5

Both sadness and joy are a part of life! Mistrust makes me put up walls and it takes ages to tear them down. But even life behind a wall is not without emotions, it's just that others can't see them!

Answer 6

I choose JOY every time. it's more fun than sadness.
However, I'm also aware that I have built walls in the past which keep other people away. The walls have come down gradually over the years as I have put my trust in God through Jesus and received his healing for the things that hurt me and put up the walls.

Answer 7

I speak to you of Joy and Sorrow.


Your joy is your sorrow unmasked.

And the selfsame well from which your laughter rises was oftentimes filled with tears.

And how else can it be ?

The deeper that sorrow carves into your being, the more joy you can contain.

Is not the cup that holds your wine the very cup that was burned in the potter`s oven ?

And is not the lute that soothes your spirit the very wood that was hollowed with knives ?

When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you shall find it is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy.

When you are sorrowful, look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.

Some of you say, ‘Joy is greater than sorrow’, and others say, ‘Nay, sorrow is the greater’.

But I say unto you, they are inseperable.

Together they come, and when one sits alone with you at the board, remember that the other is asleep upon your bed.

Verily you are suspended like scales between your sorrow and your joy.

Only when you are empty are you at standstill and balanced.

When the treasure-keeper lifts you to weigh his gold and silver, needs must your joy or your sorrow rise or fall.

Answer 8

"You cannot pluck roses without fear of thorns..."
(Benjamin Franklin)

You can wear sturdy gloves and evade the prick, but unable to feel you may ruin the stick. (Mystic Romantic Gardener)

Castle walls may block out the sun, but the rain will get in -- only to find no flowers -- no fun!

Who wants to live in the dark, waiting and fearing the breach of their walls, which always fail? Even the mightiest walls can be breached by the smallest of forces, just as great rocks are cracked by little roots.

Who wants to hide behind walls, unable to see? Better to throw open the windows, throw out fear and let the light shine in.

Such is a closed heart and mind -- a life behind those damned walls -- a life without light, without joy, without love.

It must be joy.

It must be love.

Answer 9

people build walls as a protective layer from any harmful elements....it doesn't mean they don't allow joy in.

Building walls is a defensive mechanism....nothing wrong with that as long as they don't allow the walls to build a roof, then nothing can get in and nothing out...if you understand my meaning

Answer 10

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