Thank you all for your honesty even if i didn't agree with everyone (yeah, i just want free rent, my a#$!). I just want to know if there are any Christians out there who can help me to understand some things about marriage, and living together first, etc? Cause while i have respect for my boyfriend and his families beliefs, i don't completely understand them yet, as the first time i ever went to church was last February. So, can anyone help explain why its a sin? for the record, my man has tried to explain, but maybe if you help, i will understand better?
2007-01-06 10:07:41 · 5 answers · asked by latinsmama 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hi latinsmam !!!
It seems to me you love your boyfriend and are willing to learn some new things and to adopt a new way of living!!!
As in every case, when one doesn't know something, one needs to learn from others!!! This others in your case is them!!!
We don't know them, you do!!! As a Christian, I believe learning about GOD and his WORD is very important. Now you need to think hard about if you are going to make any changes in your life, please do it for YOURSELF, because often we make changes to please others and later find out we are not happy with it ourselves.
GOOD LUCK & HAPPY LIFE
ALLIV Z
2007-01-06 10:26:56 · answer #1 · answered by Alliv Z 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your boyfriend comes from a very strict Christian family which is very rare these days.
Christians believe and are taught that sex before marriage is a sin and you should abstain until married. When you are married the marriage bed becomes sacred and any sexual activity between yourself and your husband is considered sacred, it is special the bond between husband and wife.
It is very difficult for a non christian person to be involved with a christian person and it is even more difficult if this person marries into a christian family. The family will treat you kindly but you will never understand their views unless you study the bible (bible class) you will be expected to honor and respect your husband, attend church services regularly and to bring up your children in the church of which you may have quite a few as you may not be allowed to use birth control.
In other words you need to have a healthy discussion with your boyfriend and maybe his minister and get some bible classes under your belt. Christianity is not something that is learned overnight it is something that is practiced from birth, it cannot be explained to you in a few paragraphs on the Internet you can only get insight into this by speaking to someone belonging to a Christian church such as a minister.
2007-01-06 18:36:03 · answer #2 · answered by YoungAtHeart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your asking Christians why you cant live with some one before marriage? wrong bunch to ask .. i personally think you should live with someone for at least a minuin of a year before you get engaged and then take another year to plan out the wedding.. honeymoon and the rest of your life.. like would you own your own home and how many children you both want.. and if you need more than a year than take it better to live with someone and find out you don't belong together than marry them and have to divorce.. and yes there are people out there that love each other but just cant live with each other
2007-01-06 22:35:56 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't answer your last question, but if your asking why Christians are against living together before marriage. The reason is if your living together, your opening yourselves up to having sex before marriage, which in the eyes of God is wrong, God created sex to be between a husband and wife AFTER they are married. I'm not saying this to judge you, just trying to help answer your question. My wife and I had gotten an appt. before we got married, but I didn't move in till our wedding day. Up to that point, I was still living with my parents. And honestly I'm glad that I did wait, because I think had we lived together first, I think we would be divorced today, because before we got married we didn't have the commitment to each other that we do now as being husband and wife.
2007-01-06 18:18:07 · answer #4 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Christianity is an outdated concept to keep people subservient, Jive to your own rules as long as your not hurting your self or others. The don't understand and can't make you understand because the do not question the scriptures and follow on blind faith like sheep, if you do not see a problem with it for you then it is not a sin nor a problem
2007-01-06 18:19:53 · answer #5 · answered by ponitail 55 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋