What do I do??? Magazines, sheet stains!!! Do I talk to him about it or let it go???
Also - He asked me if he could have a few friends over this weekend to sleep over, boys and girls! I said I'll think about it and then I found the magazines and "stains" what should I do?? Please help me.
2007-01-06 09:45:52 · 31 answers · asked by puertoricoisthebest 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
ok - since i got so many responses so quickly, let me just add these details - i will now deffinately say no to the co-ed sleep over, but when things don't go his way, he goes crazy! what should i do about that?
2007-01-06 10:02:42 · update #1
Ok well hes obviously going through puberty. If his dad is around he is the one that should be talking to his son. And he shouldnt bring up the things you saw it will only embarass him. It sounds like its about that time to have that talk with him anyway. Also no to the coed sleepover but you can have the girls over just say they have to leave by 11. If he goes crazy when you wont give him something say then fine no sleep over at all now. And when he gets like that then start assigning extra chores such as raking the yard or shoveling snow etc. Always remember the most important thing in that situation you are the parent and dont back down from your decision otherwise he will continue to walk all over you.
2007-01-06 14:30:37 · answer #1 · answered by lilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 13 yr old son and as much as I don't want to think about it, I think the stains and magazine curiosity is probably pretty normal. I am very against the idea of co-ed sleepovers though. I think that is just asking for trouble. I know that the hormones are raging at this age and letting them all sleep over is letting them find out about those curiosities! Good luck!
2007-01-06 09:57:14 · answer #2 · answered by nellyann1969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with the majority on this one. Boys at that age will have wet dreams..unless he asks, don't comment on it. It will only mortify him and drive him away from asking questions. Keep the communication open. If he hangs around while you are doing housework and acts like he wants to talk..let him and give him honest answers.
A co-ed sleepover is never a good idea. An adult-supervised party with boys and girls could work out, but no sleeping over except with the same sex. The magazines are normal too, but monitor the type of magazine he is looking at. Some can be even too graphic for adults to handle. If he shows interest in unusual sexual fantasies, such as bestiality or sado/masochism, then I would confront him with it and try to steer him away from that kind of activity.
If you do say something to him about his girlie magazines, just let him know that you are aware of their presence and ask him to please keep them discreetly hidden, especially if there are other siblings in the house. Keep communication open above all. You will find mutual trust will come from it.
2007-01-06 09:57:45 · answer #3 · answered by dbarnes3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as the magazines are "typical", I'd leave things alone. If the mags show any kind of abuse (don't count light bondage), you need to address it.
If he has younger brothers or sisters, you might want to drop a casual comment to him to hide his magazines better - you don't want the youngsters running across them.
Other than that, let it be. It's perfectly normal.
Oh, and NO WAY on the co-ed sleepover!!!
2007-01-06 09:51:44 · answer #4 · answered by Meg M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at 15 no way would he have girls spend the night! also i would NOT bring up the issue.... let your husband, also, i'm sure those stains have been there before you are just now noticing them. even if it's just from wet dreams, it happens. maybe the girls could hang out but must be gone by 10:30 or 11, but the guys can stay all night. good luck on this one =)
2007-01-06 09:52:45 · answer #5 · answered by 26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The magazines and stains....thats just what young boys do...and really isn't something you should scold him over or punish him for.
But the sleepover...NO WAY. Not only is that a bad idea for your son and his friends...but if something happened you could be held responsible for it!
2007-01-06 10:01:05 · answer #6 · answered by Mr.Robot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him privacy. as far as a co ed sleep over, no way, not at 15. i would let the girls come over till like 10 maybe but only boys sleep over.
2007-01-06 09:49:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it al depends on your moral views...if you dont want your child having sex at such an early age, then the sleepover wouldnt be a good idea. But if you want to let teh child to lead life of his own, let him throw the party and be repsonible for his own mistakes. All you can really talk to him about is protection. You can't really keep the child from having sex or having sexual thoughts. You can really only educate him on it.
2007-01-06 09:50:35 · answer #8 · answered by Joy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't know that a 15 year old boy Jacks Off,you've been living under a rock,it's perfectly normal.As far as underage girls sleeping over,I'd be careful of that !!
2007-01-06 09:52:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like normal stuff but the sleep over with boys and girls at that age sounds like trouble to me.
I know what I did at 15 and would never let my kid do a sleep over with boys and girls at that age.
2007-01-06 09:49:48 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋