I just ended my marriage because my husband was or is going around w/ sis. I just love him but I know that I would never get over it.
2007-01-06 09:43:38 · 12 answers · asked by Miss k 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Cassy: How long did it take for you to get over him? Did you ever forgive your sis?
2007-01-06 09:49:56 · update #1
Thank you so much for your advice, it all helps. God bless your hearts.
2007-01-06 10:22:34 · update #2
my words of comfort would be to keep the love you have for him, and know that you did the right thing. It won't help if you go back to him the 2nd time and never get over it., because anger and soon hatered will come into play. Set your heart on making yourself well and excepting that this was a blessing in a big way. Atleast now you know what to do in your next relationship. The one thing i would tell you, while going thur this process of healing your heart, never,ever let them see you looking bad and behaving badly. Keep your head up and never let him see or hear you cry. The sis will see him for what he truely is and trust me this won't take long. The same way he broke your heart, his will be broken the same, but please when this day come don't glory in it. Just tell God thank you for making you stronger and better. Always look nicer than when you was with him. The minute they see you looking bad, crying and asking why did you leave me? The more he will think he's got it going on. little do he know, he's got alot of payback coming. Trust me he'll try to come crawling back. PLEASE keep moving. IF HE DID IT ONCE, HE'LL DO IT TWICE. Goodluck and I pray that God heals your heart so well that you won't remember him or the sis.
2007-01-06 10:45:00 · answer #1 · answered by Go GO Ressa 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Forgive or not forgive husband is not the issue. It would be the same issue (as far as he is concerned if it was anyone). Your sister, however, that is the big question. A man (or woman, for that matter) is only human, and if it is in your heart you can forgive them. The same is true, actually, for your sis, only this is grounds for years of therapy..HOW forgiving are you. Even the strongest person has a wall that may not be climbable in the forgiveness arena at some point. You may be able to talk to your husband in the next week. People being people, maybe in twenty years you will be able to talk to your sister. For a lot of people the line of, "blood is thicker than water" goes a long way toward forgiving sibs of practically everything. On the other hand Cain did kill Able. Breathe a lot, cry a lot. Maybe they will come to their senses, it really doesn't matter. Whatever else it is time to live your life on your own terms and not let them dictate terms to you. Surround yourself with winners and keep an ear open for apologies, but know you are a better person than either of them.
2007-01-06 10:05:09 · answer #2 · answered by PartyTime 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh HOney!!! HUGS!!!! I just ended a 19 yr marriage cuz hubby messed around. I know how much you are hurting and how lost you are feeling right now. I can only tell you it will get better with time. The best thing you can do right now which is what I have done...is to get BUSY!!!! Go out and do things...visit new places...start a new hobby..clean out the closet. Anything!!! I tore apart my front yard! It was great for working out my pain and anger. I finally have the front yard I have always wanted. Even started painting the walls inside my house and am due to start a new job in a few weeks. Good Luck Sweetie and HUGS!!!
2007-01-06 09:50:22 · answer #3 · answered by mysweetluvie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand completely. The last thing you want to do is start to think that any of it is your fault. Just know that you did nothing wrong and accept the fact that he is no good for you. It may be hard at first, but as time moves on, you will realize your greatness and he will remember what he had and regret ever doing something like that.
2007-01-06 09:52:33 · answer #4 · answered by mr_choyce87 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing,it will hurt badly now but it will get better.Imagine the lifetime of misery ahead if you continued this relationship? You could never relax,you would always be suspecting something.Look after yourself,you can get over this,who needs family like this?
2007-01-06 09:50:13 · answer #5 · answered by New Boots. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! I can't believe your own SISTER would do that to you. Both were wrong, very wrong, but your sister? How terrible for you. You poor thing. I'm sorry.
You will get past this, one day at a time honey. You are strong and will get a happier life, you deserve. Good luck to you sweetie and if ever you need to talk, I'm here.
2007-01-06 10:03:11 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
(((hugs))) This is the ultimate betrayal isn't it. Surround yourself with friends and family that love you and be extra good to yourself. The sun will shine again :-)
Read Dr. Phils advice for "Healing A Broken Heart"
http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/18 and "Life After Divorce"
http://www.drphil.com/articles/article/213
2007-01-06 11:38:46 · answer #7 · answered by me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
POOR YOU and best of luck. Broken hearts take time to heal and especially bad when both are your immediate family members. Change of environment or life style may help. I really feel for you, GOOD LUCK.
2007-01-06 10:01:24 · answer #8 · answered by j t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The form of opportunities you have at love is constrained in uncomplicated terms via your braveness, so do no longer supply up. it is ok to experience unhappy for now. once you have had a while to heal according to probability something stable will come out of it, like a sparkling information.
2016-10-06 13:12:04 · answer #9 · answered by alisha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same thing happened to me but you have to let go and free yourself of the pain believe that it never happened and you dont know him just calm down.
2007-01-06 09:46:43 · answer #10 · answered by Cassy B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋