We were at home, I told her that I had a text message from ex-wife, we were not aware of the time and it being midnight. I tried to send a brief thank you, however there was a confrontation, I felt there was nothing wrong because ex lives in another city and we have been divorced for over ten years, we spent hours discussing this situation. We would like objective opinions.
2007-01-06 09:40:30 · 20 answers · asked by JJ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She shouldn't be angry. My parents are divorced and they are still friends. Just because you talk to someone you used to love, doesn't mean they you love them now. Its not like you are making a habit of talking to her. Your girlfriends is probably just jealous. Anyway, its not like it was your fault that your ex-wife texted you at midnight... maybe she was drunk and had no clue what she was doing. If the text message was something about how she missed you, wanted you back or something other then "Happy New Years" then you girlfriend might have a reason to be mad. But if it was a simple greeting, then she needs not to be angry with you.
-Good Luck!
2007-01-06 09:47:30 · answer #1 · answered by Karri 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's odd that your girl friend has this much of an input into your life. Personally I would welcome a closer relationship with my ex for the kids sake. Not THAT kind of relationship to get together, but, just to be able to e-mail each other without the worry of another argument. I think that yours is not even as healthy a relationship as it should be. Bitterness over whatever caused the breakup should be forgotten. I guess I would have to ask which relationship you would rather have. Mine is an argumentative on going war. It will probably never end. Is that what you want? She's wrong, you're right. Happiness is better.
2007-01-06 09:50:35 · answer #2 · answered by delux_version 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have been divorced 10 years there is reason that u r divoreced why would she text message you????Your girlfriend has to realize that u can not control the actions of another person while the 2 of u were arguing over it the ex was at home probably relaxing and having fun.But u need to realize that your girl is human and that something like that would bother her she probablty feels that there is no reason for it or or perhaps if your ex knows that u have someone in your life that she was being disrepesctful towards her.How would u feel if the shoe was on the other foot
2007-01-06 09:48:20 · answer #3 · answered by latiniagirl604 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you have children, then you probably need a different girlfriend. This is just a small look into what your life is going to be like while trying to raise kids with your ex involved.
Make the choice now,, kids should come first and you don't need someone who can be a full partner in all parts of your life, not someone who cuts and rages and feels threatened all the time.
2007-01-06 09:57:28 · answer #4 · answered by yeller 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see both sides really. I understand why your girlfriend would be upset - yet, I can see why you want decent terms with the ex (especially if there are kids involved). Your girlfriend shouldn't be mad at you, you didn't do anything but maybe you could say something to the ex? I don't know. I think maybe alittle over reactive on the gf's part. Good luck!
2007-01-06 09:56:59 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, it shows that your ex wife is still thinking about you. at exactly midnight on new years YOU were on her mind....you don't find that at all strange? I agree with your girlfriend. If your ex continues to text message you I would send her a gentle yet blunt message stating that you and your gf feel uncomfortable with it. If you don't have children with your ex there is really no reason that you two should be talking or texting at all.
If you have children then you should limit your discussions with her to only talking about the children and let her know how happy you are with your current gf.
2007-01-06 09:56:56 · answer #6 · answered by S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think girlfriends need to step back and put things in context and then they won't come across as jealous idiots.
If you really wanted to be with your ex-wife.....or if the ex-wife could somehow get you to leave your girlfriend....then you guys dont' have much of a relationship.
2007-01-06 10:07:59 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think if she is an ex she should not be contacting u, makes your girlfriend insecure. just because she lives in another city, doesn't make your girlfriend feel any less threatened. i wouldn't be too comfortable if my boyfriend's ex contacted him, and i am not the least bit insecure, but i want to protect what i love and value, and there is no place in our relationship for any ex's. your ex knows u have the girlfriend, and that it could cause problems. she just loves u and wants to keep u, ex wives do sometimes want their husbands back, happens every day.
2007-01-06 12:43:14 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One reason is because there's an built-in element of excitement in engaging in unfaithful sex. Married sex gets a little common-place, so they turn to other women. There are wives who cheat for the same reason. What the cheater, no matter which gender, should realize is that sex with anyone will probably also become common place, for those who seek that kind of fulfillment in the first place.
2016-05-22 23:53:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to get a grip! My ex hubby and I text each other all the time..maybe once a day. He told his girlfriend to either except the fact that we are friends(we do have 4 kids together) or take a hike. She chose to except it. Good Luck!
2007-01-06 09:42:59 · answer #10 · answered by mysweetluvie 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋