17 and engaged?

Question

I am 17yrs8mo old and my boyfriend is turning 19 next week. We got engaged today. We had been 'unspokenly engaged' for a while but today he got me a ring and finalized it. I am leaving to college in August and he will be moving out of state with me. We are not planning to get married until I finish at least a bachelor's degree, we don't have any kids and are not planning on any because I have been declared sterile by the doctor. I am planning to go to law school, I am an A an B student. I believe to have a certain maturity, but has our decision been too early or immature? I have received both positive and negative feedback from friends. I believe in what I am doing but I will like to hear your opinions and personal stories.

Answer 1

A lot of people are going to say: you shouldn't do this or you shouldn't do that... but its your life, and the decisions you make now will determine how your future will be! Marriage is a huge step to take, and its quite serious. Now, I'm not telling you what to do but you don't want to rush into something you can't get out of! Its good you wanna go to college, and get those degrees... you'll need it! Just make sure you finish school, if you don't do anything else! I was in the same situation you are in not too long ago. And me and my partner decided we would get settled in 2 years... after we graduate from school! I hope everything works out for you!

Answer 2

You sound like a very mature 17 year old. It is quite young, but, if you both work hard at it, it can work. Glad to hear you realize how important your education is. As long as you both know it will be a challenging road ahead, it could work out. Just make sure he understands that your education has to come first. If he cant cope with that, then, I say wait til you finish college.Good luck!

Answer 3

You are doing the right thing...rushing into a marriage will surely lead to a failed marriage. And waiting will allow you to see if you feel the same about him in 4 years as you do now and whether other men interest you along the way. This is a good time to experience life and see where it takes you and him... Either closer together or farther apart.

Answer 4

I met my first boyfriend when i was 13. We got married when i was 18 and now i am 25. We are still very much in love with each other. People used to tell us it would never work but i guess we proved them wrong. I hope all the best for yall

Answer 5

Honestly, I believe its too early. I know you love him - I've seen where people get married early and things work. I won't tell you they never do. I married at 19. Maybe I wasn't as mature as you are for your age, I don't know. I just know, looking back, I wasn't ready. Your young honey, have your whole life ahead of you. Sometimes we are in too much of a hurry to settle down, not even getting a real taste of life and what it has to offer. I am not going to try to tell you not to marry your boyfriend, only to tell you to really think, long and hard - before you do. No hurry, live life and see what many options you have before you settle down. I wish I had. Good luck and best of decisions.

Answer 6

U already comprehend that u are thank you to youthful to get married. there are fairly some reasons to make this a protracted engagement. i'm not telling u to not get married only carry off for a collectively as. in the experience that your love is as reliable as u say it incredibly is there is not any hurry. perhaps if u carry off and tutor that u knknowhat your doing greater human beings will comprehend and help your determination. undergo in techniques consistently is a protracted time and existence throws fairly some curves. U might love him now i don't dought that yet with the aid of existence u will replace and so will he. u might desire to be mature sufficient to comprehend existence and all that it brings. don't be in considered one of those hurry to strengthen up. it is not all it is cracked as much as be.

Answer 7

This type of thing is your choice and his...nobody else's. You sound very mature and like you have a good future. Talk this over with him and basically it is a decision if you really love him. And don't think he won't wait for you. If you love him and wish to get married in the future, tell him. If he won't wait, he doesn't truly love you.

Answer 8

I think its a good thing! Just maek sure its a commitment you are ready for :) Im 19 and i see nothing wrong at all getting married right now, in fact if my gf was older, i would!

Answer 9

WELL HERE'S THE ADVICE I GAVE MY NIECE WHEN SHE WAS YOUR AGE.

I TOLD HER TO FINISH SCHOOL FIRST..

THEN SPEND TIME FINDING OUT WHO SHE WAS AS A YOUNG LADY..

MAKE FRIENDS..

TRAVEL SOME..

THEN WORRY ABOUT TAKING CARE OF SOME GUY AFTER SHE'S LEARNED HOW TO TAKE CARE OF HERSELF..

SHE FOLLOWED THAT ADVICE, AND AT AGE 24, HAS BEEN TO ITALY, FRANCE, IRELAND, MEXICO AND LORD KNOWS WHERE ELSE,
IS MAKING $75,000.00 A YEAR, GOT MARRIED THIS PAST MAY, BOUGHT A BEAUTIFUL HOME AND IS HAPPY WITH THE CHOICES SHE'S MADE.

FOLLOW YOUR INSTINCTS... THEY WILL NEVER LET YOU DOWN..

Answer 10

Well for one it gives him a sex free card. and your doing rihgt in waiting till you get your degree. And also who cares what yoru friends think it's up to you and your fiance what happens between you and him. SO get your degree and then do what you have to. ANd remember what is going to happen when and if he decides that he wants kids? But that's for later so do what you have to do and don't worry what anyone tells you, your destiny is yours and only yours.