If you're still with your wife, but feel that you no longer love her, what can she do to soften your heart? Women are often in the dark on this one, so shed some light, guys.
2007-01-06 09:35:52 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She would have to lighten up. She complains about everything, she is really unhappy. Our children, she is always yelling and I feel bad for them. I do not hear what she says about me, but as much as she talks about everyone else, I am sure she is unhappy with me also. Lighten up and enjoy her life with or without us, don't worry and be happy.
2007-01-06 09:49:30 · answer #1 · answered by rjsr40 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We compromise.I m still with my wife but unfortuntely we've fallen out of love.We hv had tried to make an effort to go for conselling but failed.It has been 6 over mths now.Honestly i still ove her lot but its the repeated mistakes and things she took for granted that really pisses me off.But yet we agreed to compromise in such a way that we note down the "mistakes' we made and at the end ofthe day, we sit down to hv a heart to heat talk and we will take out those mistakes we made and try to correct each other in a soft way.I can sense there were improvements and things are going on the right track.Hopefully and slowly i hope she can stop takning things for grantedcos u will and can never tell sometimes small things do affect the whole relationship.I sincerely wish u the best and once both parties are willing to compromise, things might hv a better chance to improve the marriage.
2007-01-06 11:27:38 · answer #2 · answered by chasen54 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is something you do, not something you fall in and out of. It's an action word... a verb. The feelings of falling in and out of love are a chemical reaction. If you feel you don't love her then, that's that. If you want to make it work, then it's not a matter of her winning back your heart. It's a matter of the two of you making a concious effort to regain that love you once felt. It takes hard work, but is oh so worth it.
I would suggest reading "The five languages of Love" or something like that, they have it for both men and women, however, you really only need one copy. Take the test in the back (the both of you) and work towards each others needs. It's definately worth the try!
Good luck!
2007-01-08 10:04:27 · answer #3 · answered by Heather S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about treating your wife as if you just met her & are wooing her? Have a date with her once a week. Keep up the romance. She will glow with the attention & you'll remember why you fell in love with her in the 1st place. Give it a shot for 1 mo. If it works the returns to you from her will be well worth the effort. Both of your hearts will be softened.
2007-01-06 09:47:01 · answer #4 · answered by Judith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what happens after she jumps through all the hoops, does everything right, gives u everything u want sexually, and u still don't love her, than how will she feel? if u want a loving good partner than be one to her. we teach people how to treat us, and when things aren't right we automatically think we no longer love that person anymore. to say you have fallen out of love would not make any woman want to even try making u happy. instead u could reach out to her, share your thoughts with her, communicate more, and simply ask for what u want in a nice way, while making her feel special and loved, at the same time giving her compliments, and flowers. crate with her what u want from her. but if u value her in the least, never say u have fallen out of love with her, that will get u nothing. u need to be the one who wins her back.
2007-01-06 10:52:30 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what the heck... So you have fallen out of love with your wife but she has to win you back... errrrh i don't think so!!
You must think if you still want to make your marriage work then you guys need to talk about how your relationship is not going so great and try to find some solutions, maybe with some counselling. If you think your out of love with her, then tell her that you want out , no need to prolong the lie.
2007-01-06 09:42:11 · answer #6 · answered by luciloobomber2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a choice. It is not a location or a place you can "fall into".
Love is when you buy her a gift, even without the mushy gushy feelings. Love is when you choose to be kind and sweet, even when you are not feeling all giddy about her. Love is when you do the right thing, just because it is the right thing to do.
When you behave that way, the "love" magically comes back into your heart.
2007-01-06 09:40:06 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try romancing her...see if she romances you back. If not ...then man...time to sit down and have a serious talk. The fact that you are asking what she can do to soften your heart tells me that you stil have some feelings for her. Good Luck
2007-01-06 09:41:22 · answer #8 · answered by mysweetluvie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a man falls out of love with his wife it isn't up to HER to do anything. He married her the way she was, if he didn't want to be with her he shouldn't have married her to begin with. So it is HIS job to figure out what HE can do to fall back in love with his wife and not expect HER to change.
2007-01-06 11:56:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about HE try to restore his previous feelings for his wife?
2007-01-06 09:42:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋