some tragedy that your family had suffered over 10 years ago...and YOU HAVE ALREADY DEALT WITH IT...and are trying not to re-live it..."You know I do not re-live that painful time"...and walk away..or say .."I've gotta go"...NOW MIND YOU THESE ARE NOT FRIENDS barely acquaintenances......WOULDN'T YOU "GET IT"..IF YOU HAD A half a brain??? what is wrong that people from your past are TRYING TO MAKE you re-live stuff?...i feel it is hurtful to me and my family...
2007-01-06 08:34:00 · 3 answers · asked by sweet 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Check out Dr. John Lunds book"How to love a Prcupine" It has a lot of help for people like this. the problem ids these people have a boundry problem. They want to violate yours and impose boundries on you. the book has some good strategies.
I went thru a painful divorce 17 years ago, these people don't go away, so push back hard, engage a lawyer if needful, see if there is a community mental health worker that can sugest strategies, maybe a support group incomunty or on web. I have knock some heads (figuratively) tomorrow, for the 10tho time. so Iknow it isn't fun. (The second link is to a cruise outfit that I met Dr lund thru, but includes some stuff about him in case the first link is bad)
2007-01-06 09:12:49 · answer #1 · answered by Shane L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the primary characteristics of human beings is curiousity; unfortuantely, with some people, curiousity sometimes overrides courtesy and common sense. I would think most people would back off when you replied in the manner you did; you don't owe anybody an explanation to anybody, but especially not to someone who's merely an acquaintance.
2007-01-06 16:38:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Next time just look them straight in the eye and say, "that's in the past man just forget about it I DID!
2007-01-06 16:44:14 · answer #3 · answered by Conrey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋