i talked to the guy my sister plans to marry. he realy loves my sister. i truely believe he will take good care of her and she has promised to at least wait till she is 18 before she marries him. i support this. but my brother is trying to keep her from talking to her fiance. she is a smart girl and i think she chose well. is it right that he wont let her decide?she is almost 18.
2007-01-06 08:31:59 · 18 answers · asked by Thumbs down me now 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are right but your brother is wrong. He's being over protective because of her age. He shouldn't interfere in their relationship & plans to marry. He's family but it's none of his business, tell him that him interfering will just cause problems for the family. No fight is worth the stress, especially in this situation. You guys should be celebrating their love for each other not deciding their love for each other.
2007-01-06 08:58:45 · answer #1 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A lot depends, such as, how much older is the guy than
your sister, how long have they had a relationship, was
the other guy married before , does he have kids, all of
this needs to be taken into account. You could be 18, 19,
20, 21, etc and not be ready for marriage because once
you are in this arena then its too late to start thinking did
I do the right thing. Communicate with your sister and
tell her the ups and downs of a marrige of a young person
and if she is ready to accept it and he is who he says he
is then she can make her decision but I would not
tell her it's alright to marry because if it does not work
out then she could blame it on you because you said it
was okay.
2007-01-06 19:08:59 · answer #2 · answered by RudiA 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So how old is the guy? You know if he is considerably older, I would question his motivation for wanting such a young wife. Is it love or is it perversion. His age will tell us that. She is too young to really make her mind up, at least legally. But like you said, she's not dumb. The brother is doing what he thinks is right. Trying to protect his sister out of love. Again I would take a closer look at the older guy... If he is in his low 20's no biggie. If he is older than that...be warned.
2007-01-06 16:36:56 · answer #3 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are wrong. But you are also right, the moment she turns 18 she can do anything she wants. But let's say she does has a good marriage or a bad one, nothing will change the fact that you are her sister. She will always be there for you, so if she should need you at some point of time, be there for her.
2007-01-06 16:36:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it is her life, and she can run it the way she wants to. Is she happy that she's getting married so young? I think she sould wait until she's at least been 18 for 4 months, because the legal age to get married is 18.
2007-01-06 16:41:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She has the right to decide. She IS almost 18 and all, and if they truely love each other, she can't be talked out of this one. Your brother needs to calm down unless he notices a real problem.
2007-01-06 16:34:51 · answer #6 · answered by A 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The older man will probably be better for her than a young man because young men are immature and will end up cheating on her as soon as they think they find something better. They don't know what life is really about. Most probably leaving her with kids to raise alone. I say good for your sister!
2007-01-06 16:36:15 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. Right 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm with your brother on this one. sorry. she legally may be an adult but she has a lot of growing up to do. and what do you mean look after her can she not look after her self.it sounds submissive. relationships are about equals. living separate lives together sharing. your brother sounds like the smart one. trust him he means you both no harm just doing his job, listen to him.
i'm looking at some of the answers and omg where is it written that every one has got to be married. what is the rush.
2007-01-06 16:39:15 · answer #8 · answered by brioduinn 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is too young to get married regardless of his age. The way you see the world at such a tender age is so different than several years from now. How old is he anyway. Never the less, wish her best of luck*
2007-01-06 16:33:15 · answer #9 · answered by tbear 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Your brother is being protective... which is fine, but when she's 18 she can do as she wishes. If you feel like this man is sincere and he's not abusive... wish her well.
2007-01-06 16:50:30 · answer #10 · answered by goodolelady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋