2007-01-06 07:22:26 · 20 answers · asked by dunkindonut 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well its to late now you could have kept your morals, she might have cheated on you but did it make you feel better now that you have done the same?????You could hav worked on the prob, and if you couldnt then it would have been best to have separated. now that you have done what she has done has it change the way the you feel about her, i mean secure. I have had this happen to me while in a relationship but i kept my dignity and in the end i felt he wasnt worth my love.
2007-01-06 07:27:31 · answer #1 · answered by Bex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question is?
Looking outside the marriage is wrong and it never solves anything. If you were both committed to each other and your marriage was based on love and respect neither of you would be cheating.
Time to have a talk with your partner and get this all out in the open. You can't change what you won't acknowledge and you both need some counseling if you want to salvage your marriage.
Good luck.
2007-01-06 15:26:22 · answer #2 · answered by Mugsy's Place 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You paid her back. Now where do you go from here? That's your problem. Hate is not the opposite of love. Indifference is the opposite of love. Do you still love your wife? Do you still care what she does now? Then I'd say you were paying her back. It's natural to hurt someone that hurt you if you're not a saint. But now you may not care anymore. Ask yourself those questions.
2007-01-06 15:26:22 · answer #3 · answered by Dovey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be more specific. Is your best wife's best friend, male, or, female, and who did you cheat with ??? Do you realize, two wrongs do NOT make a right. I hope you feel better that you did the "dirty" four months later. I think you both need to grow up, and re-evaluate your "marriage". Good luck ~~~
2007-01-06 15:26:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you're really pissed off at her and wanted to get back. now the question is a ll up to you for both of you to stay together w/counseling of course or just say hey maybe we should look at everything and just not stay together. Wishing you luck it is very hard to just let someone go especially when you love them. Is it the same feel for her?
2007-01-06 15:27:55 · answer #5 · answered by memjabeana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I caught my wife red handed in bed with a punk a few days ago. I posted it on answers.
I'm here to tell you, that my way of dealing with it is this. She has gotten all of her stuff out and she is livivng with her Mother right now.
I have re-arranged the house to my perfection as a early bachelor. I don't want her back. I was faithful and she had beenn unfaithful since day one and I just caught wind of it.
I cured the problem. I'm getting a divorce and moving on with my life.
2007-01-06 15:26:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Getting revenge on an unfaithful spouse by being unfailthful yourself is a good way to destroy your marriage. You and your wife need to go to counselling and/or talk about this situation seriously if you're going to save your relationship. Obviously you both feel that something is missing from your lives if you're looking for fulfilment elsewhere.
2007-01-06 15:25:48 · answer #7 · answered by Blue Jean 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Both of you are now guilty. Well, at least you evened the battle field. Now your in the dog house too. Your doing the same thing helped you how?
2007-01-06 15:27:07 · answer #8 · answered by JustMe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ur marriage obviously needs help. ur not ready for marraige if u can't be faithful, so u shouldn't of gotten married in the first place. hope u learned ur lesson.
2007-01-06 15:27:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two wrongs don't make a right...it just makes you both cheaters.
Perhaps a better approach to saving your marriage would be counseling.
2007-01-06 15:24:45 · answer #10 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋