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I'm moving in a month after 6 years in the same city. I will be going to a new school, living in a new house, and pretty much new everything else you can think of. I was wondering how you would go about making friends with people who have known eachother scince pre-school. What traits would make me likeable and make it easier to find friends.

2007-01-06 07:05:52 · 7 answers · asked by BroadwayStar 5 in Family & Relationships Friends

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Hey! I can relate to you there. I was in a different place when I started middle school, and that was NOT good. Everyone had cliques and people that were their BFF's because they knew each other since elementary. The best bet is to act calm and collected. I see you have alot of friends, so you shouldn't have a problem. At first, acting like yourself is NOT the best thing to do because most people will see you stuck up. Act quitter at first, until people start talking to you. Do not talk about you unless they ask. Being shy will allow people to approach you first, and not talk first will allow people to not gossip about you when they haven't even met you yet. Hope this helps. If you have ny more questions, e-mail me at it_girl1123@yahoo.com

2007-01-06 07:15:15 · answer #1 · answered by yoooooooooooo 3 · 0 0

Need to know how to make friends? One word: attitude! Learn how to make friends simply by adjusting a few "downers" in your attitude.

**Steps
*Decide what kind of friends you want and make a plan to make these types of friends. Do you want someone who likes to do the same activities as you? Someone with different skills who can teach you things? Same age or different?
*Try to look on the bright side of things. Smile at everybody, which will show people what a fun person you are.
*Be positive and fill your speech with uplifting words. Never make an insulting joke to get attention. Companions are courteous and complimentary.
*Have confidence and don't slouch when you walk. Try to always have a fun time.
*Make sure you are organized and not sloppy because when you are sloppy, people are not going to like the real you and they will judge you by the way you look and/or the things you have.
*If anybody asks you a question, answer in a friendly and polite way.
*Be sincerely interested in what others have to say. Look them in the eye. Listen carefully. Ask questions.
*Empathize. Laugh (with them, not at them). Be good company.
*Look for groups in your area which do something you are interested in--you could learn a new skill and meet like-minded people. The #1 thing on making friends is never do things you do not like to do. This may cause you to lose one friend, but it will also give you a lot of friends for sticking up for the things that you like and the things you don't like.



**Tips
*Mainly, just be yourself. If people don't like you when you're yourself, maybe you shouldn't be around them.
If you're around a new place, try to find people who are not attached to a group and strike up a conversation about anything -- the weather, the environment you're in, clothes, whatever.
*Always try to have fun and enjoy yourself, which will radiate externally!
*Call your friends at least once a week to check on them and see how they're doing. They'll be happy you care. Tell them that you appreciate them.
*Remember important things about them such as things they like and their birthdays.
*If you two ever get in an argument, be the first to apologize. Even if you're not sorry, at least apologize for getting into a fight with them. Then, without interrupting them, allow them to tell you why they got mad at you, and what they think you should do about it.
*Remember, never leave old friends because you like someone else more. This is a mistake.
*Accept everyone for who they are and never bring anyone down or try to change someone (especially if they've done nothing to hurt or offend you). This communicates insecurity.
*Seek out "true" friends. A false friend will destroy rather than build up a relationship.
*Be a "true" friend, faithful through thick and thin, over time and distance, in fair weather and foul. Always love, always hope, always persevere.
*Listen to others. It's better to be quiet than to say too much.
*Never, ever blurt out a friend's secret! Not only would you lose your friend's trust, but the trust of everyone around you.
*Learn to recognize when a person's not bothered about you or your feelings. If he/she is constantly darting their eyes and always interrupting you, or even - shocker! - walking away from you when you're in mid-sentence, well they're generally telltale ways that prove they just don't care.
*Always trust your gut feelings about people. If you feel someone (as nice as they may seem) is not the right person to make friends with, then move along.
*Don't be afraid of failing in your quest for friends. The only way this plan will work is if you put yourself out there.


**Warnings
*Don't try to join a group which requires initiation, because often they will be taking advantage of you!
*Don't be afraid to stand up for what is right. If you know one of your friends is doing something that you know is wrong, confront them. If you're a friend, you won't let them do the wrong thing.

2007-01-06 07:17:20 · answer #2 · answered by ..pAniC aTTacks.. 4 · 0 1

Just be you, you have friends now right? So you will make new friends when you move. But don't act fake or do things you normally wouldn't do to make friends. Be friendly, smile and say hi. You will make new friends so relax!

2007-01-06 07:09:34 · answer #3 · answered by chemky1 3 · 1 0

i've got been in her place while i grew to become into her age and he or she's surely into you on a non-platonic point. What you're able to desire to undergo in ideas nonetheless is she's youthful and crammed with desire which you will return her thoughts, so confirm you do no longer do something to make her think of you're feeling the comparable. additionally, you're able to desire to tell her promptly up which you're no longer interested in her that way and you think approximately her slightly sister (you're able to desire to on no account be intimate along with your little sister, make that sparkling). i understand it sounds form of harsh yet you're able to desire to be blunt together with her because of the fact she'll take any little bit of desire she would be in a position to locate. She's a teenage female, so she's 35958943 circumstances extra over-analytical than you're able to desire to ever be. She'll make which ability out of something thoroughly insignificant to you and in case you do no longer want to break her, you're able to desire to be sure you do no longer supply her the incorrect effect. Its a hard undertaking, yet she's in uncomplicated terms sixteen and it won't injury her continually. She'll learn from it, merely like I did.

2016-10-06 13:05:59 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

Just dont be shy. Be open to people in ur new school whoever might talk to you, and try to go and talk to somebody. who knows, u'll prolly click with somebody and become good friends.

2007-01-06 07:11:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Just be yourself and try to be nice to everyone

2007-01-06 07:20:04 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Olivia♥ 4 · 0 0

just be your self and someone will like you for it!

2007-01-06 07:09:35 · answer #7 · answered by Mary S 1 · 1 0

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