How do you explain to someone that being gay, lesbian, transgendered, etc is not a choice?

Answer 1

Ask them to tell you about the day that they "choose" to be straight.

Answer 2

Explaining it is going to be an exercise in futility- instead, ask them these questions-

1) If it is simply a choice, then can you choose to be sexually attracted to the same sex?

Remember- it's "just a choice", like deciding between getting a hamburger or a salad for lunch is "just a choice". At least that's the way they make it sound.

2) Did you choose to be straight or does that just seem like the right thing for you to be?

Remember, if it's "just a choice", then it's just a simple matter of changing your mind, right?

3) Why can't you make the choice if it's "just a choice"?

After all, with all things being equal, if you made this "choice", what would it matter to you or society in general? Ultimately, it's your life, and you are the only one that can live it.

4) Also, how many people do you know personally who could make the decision because after all, it's "JUST a choice"?

People in general will find it impossible to "choose" to live a "lifestyle" that is so diametrically opposed to what their temperament is.

Left to their own devices, people revert back to their own nature pretty quickly. That's why these "ex-gay" ministries rarely work.

Now, the last question-

5) Once you have made this "choice" to be sexually attracted to the same sex, could you live with that "choice" for the rest of your life?

Ask them these questions and watch them squirm- it's fun!

And don't let them complain that answering their questions with a question is not fair- they asked a fair question, it's only fair if you get to ask them one, as well.

The point of answering a question with a question is to make them think abouth the answers they themselves can come up with without you trying to explain endlessly the answers WE respond with. Let THEM think through the implications of the answers.

Answer 3

Honestly I don't think you can. If someone is stupid enough to believe that being mocked, beaten & sometimes disowned by their family members is a choice then I really don't think that there's any hope for them at all. But there are some straight Chrstians like me on here who know better. The ones who don't are just simply not worth the time of day.

Answer 4

Simply ask them (the straight people) to fall in love or desire someone from the same sex. Can they do it? NO! That means no one chooses to be gay, lesbian, transgendered, etc, too or straight! They are born that way.

Answer 5

Basically, explain that in the same way that straight folks start feeling attractions to the opposite sex, in early puberty, gay folks start feeling attractions toward the same sex.

As I understand it, transgendered folks ID as the opposite sex from much earlier than that. (Consult a few sites on that one... I have no experience there.)

Answer 6

that's a tough one. Some people won't understand no matter what you say and that can be the hardest thing to accept. If you are feeling isolated or someone you know is, try to find a resource online or in your community where being gay or queer is okay.

Answer 7

i imagine in a lengthy time period relationship you bypass by cases even as the sentiments are literally not as sturdy or passionate for one as they modify into then sometime later the guy who looks a lot less in touch turns right into a lot extra in touch. It comes and is going over the numerous years mutually. you may love someone very a lot yet take them with none interest and really even as they're lengthy previous do slightly comprehend merely how a lot they meant to them. i wager perhaps taking a even as aside to let them see how a lot you're area of them does not damage yet not too lengthy. i might want to artwork on the relationship. in case you all of sudden destroy it off you may want to be doing so beforehand till you've suggested this with them & see no achievable wish of their emotions deepening.

Answer 8

You can't people are going to believe what the believe and You are not going to be able to change their mind. These people are normally close minded and don't want to hear others opinions. It's kind of like people who believe the Holocaust never happened. No matter how much proof you have some people will always be closed minded.

Answer 9

I'm a straight woman, and I honestly have always believed that being gay was a choice. I have no problems with gay or lesbian people, but I am one of those people that thinks it was a choice. I think at one point in everybody's life, everybody gets curious about the same sex relationship thing. And i think it's a choice that some people make to act upon them curiosities.

Answer 10

say that anyone with any sense wouldnt choose a life where they would be discriminated against. it cant be a choice because noone chooses a life filled with hate and hardship. there are also many scientific experimants to shopw that gay men ahve different brain functions than straight men.

Answer 11

If they're someone who WANTS to understand, you can tell them that if they tried really hard to be gay themselves, they couldn't. They can't choose it. They COULD have sex with someone of the same gender, but they wouldn't enjoy it. There would be no attraction involved etc. They can't choose that part. And, it's just flipped around for us. No choice involved. If we really wanted to be abstinent all our lives, we could, but we shouldn't have to (and we don't want to).