what do you think of moving out the house at 17????

Question

i wont to move out of my perants house at 17,and move in with my boyfriend. dont tell me its a bad idea. i just need to know what do you think of moving out at 17.right now im 15 and my boyfriend is 16

Answer 1

I moved out of my mother's house right after HS graduation, I was 17 (about 6 months before my 18th birthday). I moved in with my boyfriend at the time, and we were dependent on eachother for half of the rent and bills. Neither of us could make it alone (he was 19 and going to school) I worked two jobs just to be able to afford what he could do on one job, and I certainly didn't have time or money to go to college. We wound up with a pregnancy and I became fully, totally, and utterly dependant on him. I couldn't leave if I wanted to. Fortunately, he is a good guy and always did right by me. We are married now (for the past 12 years) but the fact that I had no education and children to care for and fears (as all women do) of abandonment- I felt as if I chose poorly to fore-go my education as a brand new adult. After about 10 years of marriage, I returned to school and received an education while working part time (I had to pay my own way, no extra in my husband's pay alone) and still come home and be wife and mother (and study to boot) It was crazy hard, but totally worth the effort.

In hindsight, I wouldn't have changed my choice to move out, because that would mean I wouldn't have my 3 beautiful sons today. However, if I never knew them or had memory of them, I wouldn't have moved out when I was 17 or 18 or 19. I would have sat pretty at my mom's house, stayed out of her way and got my education the easy way.

Answer 2

Well, I moved out of my parent's house at 17 and got a part-time job while finishing high school. The only difference is that I moved out on my own and found an apartment to share with a roommate. After about 6 months I graduated and started college. I lived in the dorms for the first 2 years and then got an apartment on my own.

I think if you plan things well it can work out, however, living with your boyfriend does not sound like a good idea to me. You need to learn to be independent and to have total responsibility for your life and actions.

I'm currently 31 and have been married for 2 and a half years and I never lived with a man before then.

Good luck.

Answer 3

I'm not telling you it's a bad idea, I am telling you it's not a good idea. I moved out at 18 and that was hard enough... You do realize you have to keep a full time job (the both of you) and if your in school, you need to be in school, make good grades, graduate to get a good job, and work full time while in school.. that is very hard. Bills are not an option, and they are very expensive, before you plan on moving out... add up the bills first... the apt probably 600 a month, a phone probably 30 a month, electric; water; and gas is about 200 a month, plus a car, with insurance, and a payment, and gas for your car, then you need to think about groceries.... how can you afford all of that? Be young while you can, and enjoy it because it doesn't last forever.

Answer 4

Well moving out is a big deal. I say do it if you have a house, a car and a well paying job. 17 is OK but try for 18 because its hard out in the real world. Its all about money and trust. At home it is about love and comfort and some chores. Think about it real hard and ask your self if you think you have what it takes to survive in the world. Moving in with your BF isn't the best idea, if you break up, you might have no where to go if your parents want you to learn something about life. I would just wait until i have my own home and job and a good car.

Answer 5

I was 17 when I moved out. It was hard, trying to go to school and work to pay the bills. Think about what you are going to do with your life. I am not saying it is wrong, but I am saying make a list of pros and cons. If I am ever faced with a big decision that is what I do. It helps alot.

Answer 6

I`m not going to say it`s a good idea or bad idea...In my own experience though...I moved out with my boyfriend at 17 (moved in w/sis and her bf). Found out I was pregnant 2 months later!! That was back in 95..we are married now and expecting our 3rd..Take time to think about it before you do anything ...Good luck!!

Answer 7

Why did you ask if you don't want to be told it is a bad idea. No one with any sense is going to tell you that it is a good idea.

Why in the world would you want to move out of your parent's house any sooner than you had to? Once you are out in the real world taking care of yourself you will realize how good you had it.

When I was 15 I paid my parents $300 rent each month and figured because of that I was ready for the real world. I moved out the month before I turned 17 and it was fun for a little while. Sort of. But it was much harder than I thought it would be. Before the year was up I was begging them to let me come home and they said no.

Answer 8

I moved out at 18 and it was the biggest mistake of my life. It is soooooo much harder than you think it will be. If you want to do it then do it. but be prepared for the consequences. I couldn't go back home and ended up in loads of debt etc. please wait, I know how hard it is to be away from someone that you love, but imagine how perfect it would be if you both had the chance to get educated and get good jobs, then find the perfect house. instead of moving anywhere and struggling by with poorly paid jobs and no prospects. as I said its up to you, but you won't like it. I know!

Answer 9

Actually it sounds like a perfectly reasonable idea. By that time the two of you will have a track record of being faithful to each other. Just make sure you're on a reliable method of birth control and have a financial plan that makes sense.

Good luck!

Answer 10

I think the longer your parents let you live with them, the more you are blessed.

Paying bills sucks. You may feel like you're getting extra freedom, but with freedom comes more responsibilities. You have to get your own food - it doesn't magically appear in the fridge. You have to pay for some utilities, even if you go to an apartment that says "utilities paid." They don't pay for gas. You have to completely take care of your own laundry - no one to help you out if you forgot and you need something quick.

Be grateful for what you are being provided with. Trust me, you've got a whole life ahead of yourself to get to live on your own and take care of yourself. Don't take what you have for granted.