She asked me to go with her and the kids to the park. She has not asked me to go anywhere with her and the kids for almost two years. I did not go since we are in the middle of this custody battle.We have not been exactly cordial as of late. Why would she ask me to go with her and the kids while we are in the middle of this?
2007-01-06 06:49:32 · 13 answers · asked by paco 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because maybe she realized that how you two are acting towards each other is not in the best interest of your kids. Next time she asks, you should go.
2007-01-06 06:51:53 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
While going through a divorce and custody battle, therapists will recommend that you and your ex do things together with the child. it helps the child to realize that both parents still love him or her and that nothing that is going on is the child's fault. I've been through all this, and as long as you and your ex can pretend to get along in front of the child, your child will be much more comfortable with the whole situation. So maybe she did get counseling, or maybe she got some advice from somebody...but it is a good idea to let the child see you two together once in a while.
2007-01-06 14:54:52 · answer #2 · answered by ~~kelly~~ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Has it ever occurred to you that children need their mother. Maybe she wanted you to see what fun she and the children have to appreciate how hard it will for her to have to give them up to you. Have you ever stopped to consider the children. they love their mum and have been with her all this time and now you want to destroy their security with selfish desires. Why dont you and your wife rather try and work things out.
Did you know that the bible tells men to return to the wives of their youth because God hates divorce and for the very reason of what it does to the family. God also commands men to love their wives and commands wives to respect their hubands. Men want respect and they will get that when they love their wives unconditionally and the wife will recieve the mans love when she respects him unconditionally. All your marriage required was that, accountablity towards one another and communication. Once love and respect are there, everything falls into place, but remove the two main ingredients and you have nothing but craziness, disrespect, disloyalty, disharmony and everything beginning with dis or dys. It is clearly what our world lacks. Going into another relationship is not the answer either, because all those things will happen again since no healing has taken place and you clearly have baggage.
Instead of using the children to get at each other try to restore your friendship and consider where your children will be happy and right now its with their mother. Children cannot be tossed around like salad ingredients. They need security and love. Sort out your differences and start becoming accountable to your wife and children and supportive. Deem others more important than yourself and you will become a better person for it.
2007-01-06 15:06:10 · answer #3 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
custody battles are hard on everyone. and painful. maybe she is trying to end the bad stage you are going through, and possibly work on being cordial to one another. go to the park with her and your kids, if only for your kids sake to see their parents being nice to one another.
2007-01-06 15:00:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I wouldn't go.Chances are , you 2 will end up in an argument and she might be setting you up for something.She possibly could be feeling guilty and want to make amends but I wouldn't trust her right now. I would stay away at least until everything is settled in court.
2007-01-06 14:55:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she has decided it is BEST for the kids to see that the "two of you" can get along even though you are going thru hard times.
2007-01-06 14:53:29 · answer #6 · answered by nickle 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably just doing it for the kids sake.. that or she doesnt have the energy to fight with you anymore.. it can be tiring.
She probably wants to have a decent common relationship with you, not an arguing bitter relationship. ya know?
Why dont you just flat out call her up and ask her whats up with that.. and that it seems kind of wierd.. and whats her point with all of this?
2007-01-06 14:52:43 · answer #7 · answered by yo mama 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is trying to smooth things out for the sake of the children....next time go and see what happens_
2007-01-06 14:51:40 · answer #8 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She is trying to butter you up. Women are thinkers in this way. She is trying to get you buttered so you might drop this battle. Don't fall for this trust me.
2007-01-06 14:56:57 · answer #9 · answered by Lucinda M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to try to pull on over on you she can go to the judge and say she is trying to put your differences a side but she isn't i know to many people who have been threw this thank god i am not one of them i can't imagine it is so many head games good luck paco you are gonna need it in this battle
2007-01-06 14:54:28 · answer #10 · answered by LOLO 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋