My husband is always in the internet and he sometimes does not think and he purchases porn when he has unlimited downloading.. from limewire.. now .. he told me a while back when he was in the NAVY that he slept with another guy.. which now he is somewhat gay.. Anyways.. I dont know how to get his attention.. he has everything.. I dont know what to do to get him off the internet??? And him notice me instead of him wanting to chat with guys and girls and transexuals...........
2007-01-06 06:46:18 · 27 answers · asked by peepsqueak 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to find you a lover, because he already has-
2007-01-06 06:58:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he is not addicted to the Internet, but addicted to sex. Addiction is a disease and requires treatment. Don't excuse his behavior. But if he were to be diagnosed with another disease i.e. 'diabetes' and left it untreated, what resources would you be turning to in those circumstances. There are support programs out there for people affected by a loved ones addiction. Please seek professional help. A professional could also determine if an intervention is needed and the most efficient therapeutic way to facilitate an intervention.
Your husband is lucky to have such a openly understanding and patient spouse. You are a desirable person. You deserve the love and affection from your husband.
2007-01-06 14:57:15 · answer #2 · answered by Marjery B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately he does have serious issues. Instead of worrying about him getting away from the pc, I'd be worrying more about his behavior towards you and lack of respect by looking at porn.
I was in a relationship for eight years while this happened to me, and I allowed it. It was a hard lesson to learn, but the porn will lead him to real life people.
You ARE at risk because when he cheats, he opens you up to disease...especially aids.
In my experience, I must tell you that if he has a wish to be with other men or woman, then he has no interest in sustaining a committed relationship with you.
Please use a condom if you are going to share your bed with this person. It is you who will end up getting the short end of the stick.
You should tell him simply, Honey, I love you but do not like this behavior and I can see it will not change, and therefor I must leave.
The sooner you do that, the sooner you will heal from this loss and experience joy in life with another man who sees you as his whole world...mentally and physically.
Unfortunately he will not change...trust me on that one.
But the longer you wait, the longer you will get hurt...emotionally, and possibly physically.
It's not easy, but either draw the line in the sand with him or move on.
I wish you the very best of luck.
2007-01-06 14:53:38 · answer #3 · answered by dudenj84 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
One of my female co-workers had that problem with her husband and they are now divorced. Surfing porn and ignoring your partner usually means something is wrong. If you want to stay with this man the problem needs addressed. If i were you i would get organized and start saving some money in an account in your name only for a rainy day that is headed your way.
2007-01-06 14:59:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok hun your problems run deeper than him being on the Internet. This question should be about him sleeping with another man. If your willing to think that was no big deal to you then him being on the Internet shouldn't bother you either. Sounds to me your not what your man wants so I say a good divorce is in order.
2007-01-06 14:52:52 · answer #5 · answered by Lucinda M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only thing you can do is pull the plug on the internet or the relationship! He is addicted to the internet and until he relizes what he is losing, you will never have his attention!
2007-01-06 15:06:02 · answer #6 · answered by Lonnie F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say but to get his attention you might want to show him some divorce papers, If you are ok with him sleeping with another man or chatting with trans-sexuals may you live happily ever after.
2007-01-06 14:57:26 · answer #7 · answered by lasdoom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, your husband is gay. You need to file for a divorce.
disconnect the internet but it appears he is already involved in a 'downlow' sort of life.
2007-01-06 14:55:05 · answer #8 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok leave him. apparently you've made yourself clear, and he isn't stopping. He's not stopping cause he doesn't care about how you feel. This is a one sided relationship. It's better for you to leave now than for you to get some terminal disease from him. I've been there, it doesn't stop.
2007-01-06 15:26:44 · answer #9 · answered by Brandnewshoes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is definitely addicted to it and there is not much you can do unless he is willing to get some sort of counseling....sorry why dont you try talking to him and tell him how this is affecting the relationship find out door activities you both can do together
2007-01-06 15:04:18 · answer #10 · answered by starlight♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL THAT MUST BE SO HARD FOR YOU. I THINK YOU SHOULD REALLY THINK IF YOU WANT HIM TO BE IN YOUR LIFE FOREVER. YOU ALREADY KNOW HE IS BISEXUAL AND WELL HE WILL ALWAYS LOOK AT OTHER GUYS OR GIRLS. THAT IS GOING TO BRING MORE PROBLEMS INTO YOUR RELATIONSHIP SINCE YOU WILL PROBABLY GET JEALOUS EVERYTIME HE SEES A GUY OR A GIRL IN HIS CASE. THINK ABOUT IT, THINK IF YOU WANT TO SPEND THE REST OF YOUR LIFE WITH A PERSON LIKE THAT.
2007-01-07 01:07:59 · answer #11 · answered by undecided 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋