That you should never give someone who cheated on you a second chance? Because people who cheat need to learn that its not right to decieve people and then expect to be forgiven. WHOSE WITH ME?
2007-01-06 06:41:49 · 46 answers · asked by frankie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think it depends on the actual relationship that you had. If you were together for a very long time, always got on, and discussed everything and there had never been any thought about affairs, then in that kind of relationship I would expect that the first you'd know about it would be within days of it occurring and it would be your partner that would be telling you. If that were the case then he would either leave you if he felt more for the tart than you, or beg you for forgiveness that I think could be genuine. If it was just a drunken fling then it takes a special kind of love if that guy deals with it the way everything gets dealt with and tells you I would say it means more that he is willing to trust the strength of your love by risking everything to make sure that the trust was never broken when it seems silly to take that risk if it was unlikely to ever be discovered. In that sort of thing to break your trust by covering it up would be like committing slow suicide. For her to not appreciate what being told means and not want to give it a chance, well that’s just plain wrong. So If the above fits with your experience then its you who are walking away from someone who still has values. You'll be lucky to find another with those qualitys BUT If you found out, it was more than once, you don't get on, and you've been suspicious for a time then, yea NO SECOND CHANCE MATE, but having to ask opinions on the validity of your beliefs says to me you aint convinced your right.
There that's cleared that up then
Night
2007-01-06 09:40:54 · answer #1 · answered by Grae(ME) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone should give that dog (the one with the finger thing) a pat on the head. Apparently he needs a little recognition for the trick he learned.
But to answer you, repeat offenders should not be given 3rd chances because some people genuinely make a slip and if forgiven tend to learn their lesson. Every case is different. I'm sorry about what happened to you, I've been there and it does wreck your self esteem,but dont allow it to destroy your faith.
2007-01-06 06:51:08 · answer #2 · answered by Carrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if it's not the first time (not just with you, but in their life) and/or you feel you can't forgive the deception and/or the other person isn't willing to do the work to earn your trust back, yes I agree.....no second chances.
The above almost always applys, but there are some instances where second chances are in order. I can't think of one right now, but there must be reasons for second chances out there, right?
2007-01-06 06:53:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey everyone deserves a second chance. we all make mistakes, and were all human. Past a second chance for the same mistake now that I would have to think about, I admit that.
Remember : To error is human and forgive divine.
2007-01-06 07:25:25 · answer #4 · answered by majean52 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As someone else said, if you had messed up then you may want a second chance. However trust is a massive thing which once broken must be massively hard to mend.
2007-01-06 07:49:48 · answer #5 · answered by : 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have agreed with you about 15 years ago when I was about 18 but I am older now and have to disagree. People do change.
2007-01-06 06:46:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that it depends on the circumstances of the people involved. but generally i think that a cheat should never be given a second chance because you only know what you've got till its gone.
2007-01-06 06:49:12 · answer #7 · answered by buffeyes 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No one is perfect. They should have a second chance and they have to prove to the other partner that they deserve that chance. If he/she f**ked up again then he/she deserve to get a kick in the bottom!!!
Give a second chance doesn't mean that you're weak, it means that you're more sensible and take control!
2007-01-06 06:49:37 · answer #8 · answered by minime_risk 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it would be hard to trust a cheater but i think giving a person a second chance depending on the situation
2007-01-06 06:44:35 · answer #9 · answered by Sammy T 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I don't,people make mistakes,if you care about someone so much would you let them go,i mean if it was one time,but i mean if it was for like 3 monthes they heck no they don't derseve another chance,see my point?!
2007-01-06 06:46:29 · answer #10 · answered by carly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋