Okay so me and my ex gf split up after 6 years. She felt like she loved me just as a friend and no longer as a bf and said that she is bored of the relationship. Anyways I told her that I didn't want to talk for a month and she kept on calling me. Everytime she called she would be crying and saying that she is soo confused and kept giving different reasons for the break up. Just 3 days ago she said that she still loves me but right now she needs her space and doesn't have no energy to be in the relationship. Yesterday we talked and she said that she doesn't love me at all and that she doesn't ever wanna be in a relationship. She is sooo confused, even her friends say that she doesn't know what she wants. She tells me that I'm amazing and perfect for her in everyway. We decided that today we would talk about it and figure out exactly whats going on. She is coming over in half an hour, need advice on how to get her back!! or find out exactly whats wrong. Please help!!!!
2007-01-06 06:34:42 · 13 answers · asked by BUBBles 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just because she is confused doesn't mean she doesn't love you. I wouldn't make any rash decisions if I were you. Me and my ex boyfriend have been going through the same type of thing. He went out and started doing things that have hurt me so bad I don't know if I could ever be with him again and it hurts so bad. It's made everything worse. If you know she is what you want then give her time. She'll be weird. You'll be confused, she'll be confused. When you spend that much time in a relationship sometimes you start to wonder if there is something else for you. Not just other relationships but sometimes you just feel like you missed out on something. Sometimes this type of thing is what it takes to realize how much you really do love someone. If you just listen to what she is feeling and give her a little space and a little time she'll probably realize that she doesn't want to lose you. If ya'll are meant to be it will work out. Good Luck.
How old are ya'll?
2007-01-06 06:47:49 · answer #1 · answered by Chapstick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-06 01:51:47 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
poor girl :( I felt the same once and lost the man i loved through my confusion, i got myself in such a state i didnt have a clue what i really wanted, in the end while we were talking like u have been and me being all over place, he started seeing my friend (ex friend) and said he had had to move on as he thought i didnt really love him.
luckily i met someone else that is better for me really and who i love dearly
but still i messed up and i know this
cant even tell u really why i got so confused, maybe she needs a shock, when i found out id lost my ex i realised just how much i loved him, twas too late tho.
try a short sharp shock maybe? i dont know..
2007-01-06 06:40:42 · answer #3 · answered by Clairinia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Clairinina... maybe she needs a little bit of a shock.. Tell her you think it was a great idea for you two to seperate b/c you are thinking about seeing what other fish are in the sea... Make it look serious to see what she does.. then if she is totally freaking out and stuff.. tell her the truth.. and that if she truely didnt want to be with you, she would be more ok with you two dating other people.
2007-01-06 06:46:13 · answer #4 · answered by yo mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she broke up, it is over.
She doesnt mean to lead you on but she is. Talk to her when she comes by, but for you....the best thing is to avoid contact as u had wanted.
Stand firm with this. After 6 yrs, if she broke up - she is either also interested in someone else or bored. If this is true, keep it ended now - or eventually soon it will end anyway.
2007-01-06 06:40:54 · answer #5 · answered by chatxleau 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, listen and don't tryto fix her problems. Just listen to her vent, sympothis and if/when she ask for your opinion, give it honestly. Don't try to shade it so that she will get back with you! If she can't or won't resolve her own problem withthe relationship, maybe its best for the two of you to just be friends until she can give herself to the commitment of the relationship. If she can reslove the issue and committ, I suggest giving it another chance. Hope this helps.
2007-01-06 06:53:43 · answer #6 · answered by Lonnie F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I say cut the titantic loose. If a person is that confuse it is best she gets her space or therapy. Find someone who has purpose and knows what they want. Don't try to be their therapist; direct them to one. I know it sounds harsh but someone toying with your emotions is even harsher.
2007-01-06 06:39:45 · answer #7 · answered by sunshine23511 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to cut the dead weight. She is taking you down the same road she is going down. Remember, she cut it off. You need someone healthy minded in your life not someone who doesn't know what they want. Just cut her out and move on.
2007-01-06 07:05:08 · answer #8 · answered by cowboybronco01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friend, you're just wasting time on a hopeless situation. No need for long explanations. She'll dump you eventually, if you don't do that first.
2007-01-06 06:38:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like both of you are confused ....if she doesn't know what she wants after six years ....i would say forget it and move on
2007-01-06 06:48:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋