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My lover cheated on me and he actually admited that the first i caught him i forgave him, now he did again what happen is that i forgave again(i know it may sound like im a complete nutshell?!?) my friends really doesnt want me to continue the relationship... but still im hanging on

I told my friends that we are trough but he compromised with me and i forgave him again.. I dont want to lose him and so i told him that this the last time that i will forgive him...I pity him and i love him so much that i dont want to see him in the state of everybody's leaving him behind....

i need your reaction so i will know what to do pretty please...

Thanks in advance

2007-01-06 06:27:21 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Friends

8 answers

fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me. have you heard this old saying? i believe it applies very succinctly to your situation, and if you keep on forgiving him he'll keep on cheating. because he doesn't value the love and trust that you two have, or he wouldn't have any desire to destroy it. the trust is the more important because a relationship cannot exist without it, at least a healthy relationship where both people grow.
start over- without him, forget the pity he's just using that to play you, you can do better by yourself, or with someone else.

2007-01-06 06:43:20 · answer #1 · answered by geezer 51 5 · 1 0

some times guys can change but normally if they do it once they'll keep doin it! then he goes and does it a second time?? no if you forgave him the first two times he will assume that you will forgive him again and again! yea ik you told him its the last time you would but why keep hurting yourself? is the trust really there? can you still look at him the same way? is he the guy you really feel in love with? welll all i can say is "maybe" he did change but most likely no and he'll probley do it again! good luck

2007-01-06 06:38:32 · answer #2 · answered by porkey_jrabbit 2 · 0 0

he cheated once. you forgave him. he cheated twice. you forgave him. now he knows that he can cheat and still come back because you will always forgive. its like giving him a 'get out of jail free' card to do whatever he wants, including hurt you.
get out of the relationship, he doesnt respect you. and he never ever will. once a promise is broken, 'im sorry' doesnt fix anything. you got into a relationship with him and silently made the promise of being faithful, he broke it, time to move on!

2007-01-06 06:40:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

I strongly believe that you are working off of batteries and you don't have a brain.You have no self-esteem,no self worth you are just a down right nut-shell that is the true you said about yourself.I agreed with the guy to treat you like ****,you do not even know what love is and expect the man to love and don't love yourself.The next thing he should do is have sex with the girl infront of you and them both of them should piss on you.You want advice you need to know how to love yourself before looking into a relationship.GET A LIFE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2007-01-06 06:42:11 · answer #4 · answered by lakarez_forever 1 · 1 0

Sounds to me like he is a serial cheater.

Ask yourself if this is the BEST you can do. I think it isn't.

I'd dump him, because you are NEVER gonna be able to trust him.

So, to really answer your question, I think you did not make the rice choice. But that's me. I don't have to live with the consequences ... and there may be plenty of those ... STD, etc.

2007-01-06 06:42:10 · answer #5 · answered by istitch2 6 · 1 0

Unless he is your husband there is no point trying to salvage a relationship he clearly does not value.

You know the answer to your own question before you even ask it.

It's time to end it and let go.

You're worth more than this.

2007-01-06 06:38:06 · answer #6 · answered by chloe40dd 2 · 1 0

ok, it sounds like this boyfriend needs to be kicked to the curb. he is using your feelings for him as a string. you hate that he is cheating on you but you keep forgiving him and he keeps repeating the bahavior like a broken record. it is time for you to love yourself more than you love him. you deserve a man who is going to be loyal to you. and i know it is going to hurt to let him go, but for your own sake, you need to give this relationship up. forgiving is one thing, but repeating bad choices is another.

2007-01-06 06:48:34 · answer #7 · answered by SWTCHKS925 2 · 1 0

u need to dump him. it's not like u're married.

2007-01-06 06:58:21 · answer #8 · answered by ImNotDead 2 · 1 0

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