I have a question for men out there. Why would you be scared if your gilfriends suggested to move in together? My boyfriend lives in a very small flat in a very expensive city. He is trying to establish his career so I know he is under quite a lot of pressure. I mentioned to him the other day that we could try to live together but he got all scared telling me that he is not ready for that? Does it mean he does not love me and I am not the girl for him?
2007-01-06 06:24:14 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, it just means he likes living alone right now.
2007-01-06 06:27:01 · answer #1 · answered by Joe S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe since he is working on his career he knows that he wouldn't have time to devote to a live together situation. He's getting started and is not thinking about getting that involved. Don't go crazy about if he loves you and read too much into it. That will mess things up for sure. Be happy that he clearly stated that he wasn't ready........ but the being scared this makes one wonder. You tabled the idea, it's out there and he may give it some thought. Maybe he knows you "are not the one". It's hard to tell. Just enjoy the time you have with him and see what happens.
2007-01-06 14:34:13 · answer #2 · answered by jackson 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it so bad that he isn't ready for that or that he isn't sure your the right girl for him? You could have told him that you aren't trying to pressure him into anything in your relationship, you were just putting it out there because you want to help out. As for you being the right girl for him, if you can't give him the time he needs to make an important decision like that, especially in his stressed out, high pressure career situation, then he deserves so much better then you.
2007-01-08 22:04:10 · answer #3 · answered by Krista 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it doesn't mean he doesn't love you it just means that your ready before him give him time to think things through, i'm sure he will give it a lot of thought now that you have brought it up. Maybe he was just surprised at you mentioning it
Good Luck
2007-01-06 14:35:14 · answer #4 · answered by grace k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a similar situation - we can't even get to the talking about it stage though!! I am questioning the same as you that perhaps he doesn't love me and that there is much more in life than me - it's not nice!!
2007-01-07 05:34:02 · answer #5 · answered by lynnej1965 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends how long you have been together. A few weeks or months he probably isnt ready, if its been a few years then he is afraid of commitment
2007-01-06 14:37:37 · answer #6 · answered by charlotte 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily. There are still a lot of people today that don't accept couples living together out of wedlock. Perhaps he, or his parents are one of them.
2007-01-06 14:28:41 · answer #7 · answered by CA DIVA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks like he read your suggestion as you're asking for commitment, instead of just a plain way to help.
2007-01-06 14:27:59 · answer #8 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it just means he needs time to figure things out. it's never good to jump into a situation you don't feel comfortable being in.
best to wait until you are both comforable living together.
2007-01-08 20:12:13 · answer #9 · answered by jan k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, it doesn't mean he doesn't love you, but most guys are scarred of that big of a commitment. maybe he feels he won't be able to give you the attention you deserve becuase he is so busy with his career. just give him time..
2007-01-06 14:27:44 · answer #10 · answered by blue_eyed_brunette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋