My family tends to baby my daughter because of her disorder. She's nineteen months old and I just now FINALLY took her bottle away because my husband insists on babying her. Her disorder is not developmental- she has a bone disease that causes pain in her joints. I don't push her too hard to do too much, but the few things I DO make her do for herself gets me criticized. For example, she has a tendency to throw things just so someone else will go pick it up for her- she makes a game out of it- and when I tell her to go pick it up herself she grabs her knees and cries- she KNOWS what she's doing. At this point my husband, or my sisters, or my Dad will always jump in with "Don't make her do that- she hurts." I feel like if everyone babies her, she'll never realize that she will eventually have to do things for herself. The day will come when I won't be here to take care of her anymore- and I don't want her to be completely dependant on me when that happens...
2007-01-06 06:21:18 · 15 answers · asked by Jennifer F 6 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
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2007-01-06 06:25:39 · update #1
She will need to learn how to do things for herself and compensate for her medical difficulties as much as possible. It will probably be a lot easier to get her started learning now as opposed to several years later.
2007-01-06 06:28:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
remember children that age often do make a game out of throwing things but i believe you have the right idea. the more you give in to the disorder the more she will give in to this disorder. early intervention is a key factor and i think you are headed down the right path. just take a deep breath and maybe sit down with your family and explain your expectations and ask that they back you up. consistency is an important part of your child's development and i believe you have the right idea. there is a man whom has cerebral palsy named johnny tuital (i spelled his last name wrong) but try to find one of his seminars for your family to watch. i went to one and he is good at what he does and it is pretty much the same thing you are experiencing.
2007-01-09 23:29:54 · answer #2 · answered by nakita 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are taking the right path...if you just baby her then it'll only weaken her and it won't give her the urge to be independent...later on she will need to realize that just because she was born differently doesn't mean that she should be babied or given sympathy...I think if you do that then she'll grow to be a woman who is independent and realizes that just because life is different for her doesn't mean that she still can't do some of the things that she wants to do.
2007-01-06 14:27:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The more you encourage independence in a child, the more thankful she will be to you when she grows up. The worst thing to do if a child has a condition is to pity her and let her get away with behaviour that wouldn't be permitted to other children. I knew a kid with diabetes who had been spoilt rotten and I can tell you, she was the one to suffer - not the other people. Although it must be terribly hard to be strict ... but it must be done, in her interests. Stay strong!
2007-01-06 14:30:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
She has something "normal" kids don't, that's you. A mother that really loves her and wants to help her through life without depending on anyone. But remember she does need to play with you too. And it that's the only way she know's how to play with you, you need to sway her in a different direction. You're a good mother and don't ever forget that.
2007-01-06 14:32:32 · answer #5 · answered by Dorkboy 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think you are right.
Think about it: a child, any child, if you ALWAYS carried them, they'd never learn to walk.
Your daughter is going to have to learn and function with her disorder. It is better for her (in my opinion, for what it is worth) to learn to do as much as she can for herself.
I think it will be bad for her, physically and psychologically, to have everybody jumping to her every whim, just like any other child.
Maybe try a new game: both of you sit on the floor, facing each other. I roll the ball to YOU, you roll the ball back to ME... (?? just an idea...)
2007-01-06 14:31:08 · answer #6 · answered by zen 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Your probably should of put this in a mental or health section. Your not gonna get a serious answer from P and S and they will just dump on you.
Your the parent.. you need to make a decission that works best for your daughter and for your family.
2007-01-06 14:24:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
All babies go thru that phase...throw it and watch mommy pick it up...and you are right..it is a game to them! Sounds to me like, even with her disabilites she is developing normally. I bet when she throws the object she has a big smile on her face!
My guess is....if you are being too hard on anybody....it is probably yourself. Of course your family is going to baby her.....as I'm sure you do too. With them...and with her situation.....teach yourself to choose your battles.
But most of all....no matter what....love that little girl like there is no tomorrow!
2007-01-06 14:32:41 · answer #8 · answered by emotional blonde 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
you are not too hard on her, she is eventually going to have to learn to do things on her own so it better for her to learn at a young age
2007-01-06 14:24:27 · answer #9 · answered by jacemo 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So you want her to learn this at 19 months???
2007-01-06 14:26:26 · answer #10 · answered by bratwizard 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋