Just met a very nice guy recently, but the age difference is rather a lot, is there any future for us? He is real nice bloke, and we getting on really good, its just hard to know if it will last because of the big age difference.
We been dating for a month now, and all is fine, but im not sure i wanna take things further if i gonna get hurt later on the line...
2007-01-06 06:14:59 · 26 answers · asked by zivojin 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Getting hurt is a risk you take with any relationship regardless of age difference, however you may find in time that you don't have as much in common as you first thought, good luck though, hope it works out for you.
2007-01-06 06:18:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I had these sort of concerns when I was 31, and met a young ex-army guy of 18.
Maybe we did the right thing, by getting to know each other very well before we slept together, and taking things one step at a time.
When we did finally sleep together it was great, because we were very close by that time.
It ended eventually, but only due to circumstances which took us in different directions and forced us to live in two different countries while keeping in touch by phone.
That was after ten years together.
As for getting hurt, that is no excuse for not getting involved. When you love someone, there can never be a happy-ending, and that applies to everyone, straight or gay.
You just go for it, but sleeping with the guy should be the last priority.
2007-01-07 21:07:30 · answer #2 · answered by musonic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I date a woman, she is 32 and I am 20. (and we are also dating a month)
The age difference is no problem. You both have to like each other very much, cause yeh, it is true, you both have a very different life, so there will be very much things you need to talk about. I mean, the girl I dated has so much more life experience compared to me. When I was 8 she was 20 (and that is the age I am now) (so she had 12 years more to develop herself)
But in my opinion, these years aren't the importants
I would like to tell you, do what you think feels good. If you both really like/love each other, I would try to make something of it and see what the future will bring you.
GOOD LUCK!!! It might be hard
2007-01-06 06:31:24 · answer #3 · answered by frenzie-ann 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You know each situation is different and there might be a future for both of you if you want one to be. There are several couples I know of who have huge age differences between them and have very long term serious relationships.
From what I've observed, age does play a factor in what kind of life you want to have as a couple. Younger guys and Older guys do have different ideas of an "ideal relationship situation"....
So you should try to find out what kind of relationship you want..(like do you want to find someone to settle down with and start a life? OR do you just want to meet and be around people for the moment?)
Also "getting hurt" is a risk everyone takes when they are in a relationship...it sucks...but you can't let your anxiety of being hurt in the future hinder a possibly great relationship!
Hopefully you find the answer your looking for!
2007-01-06 06:41:57 · answer #4 · answered by lucky 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think that age makes that much difference. It will take both of you to make the relationship work. It is a risk well worth taking and hey if it don't work out chalk it up to a life experience. Well all go through something in our lives sometimes it is good sometimes it is bad. When life is over Just Say What a Hell Of A Ride!
2007-01-06 07:49:16 · answer #5 · answered by gary w 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
what really matters most... is that u love each other, both of you have clicked together so as to speak. Age is just a state of mind.
I was watching a program on the telly, one partner was 49 and the other was 29. What difference does it make, as long as both of u are happy.
No-one can tel what lies ahead of us, no point worrying about it. If u end up being hurt, just remember..."it is better to have loved, lost that love, than not to have loved at all". Remember, losing is a part of life.
Good Luck.
2007-01-06 06:26:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I say bypass for it!! Why not? in case you adult men have an interest in eachother, & you've interesting mutually then there is no reason now to not. i don't have self assurance in all those relationship guidelines, those were considered years n' years in the past. this is 2009 everythings strong. verify out Demi Moore, she's relationship ashton kutcher who's 15 years youthful than her & they have been mutually for like 3-4 years now. i wish even as i'm 31, 21 year previous adult men hit on me =D strong success & have interesting
2016-12-01 22:18:05 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No more reason you should get hurt than in any other relationship - it's always a risk, but age shouldn't make that much difference if you really click together.
And for some people, an age difference woeks better than dating someone their own age - stick with it if it feels right.
2007-01-06 09:51:17 · answer #8 · answered by JBoy Wonder 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
my brother is 20 and his girlfriend is thirty, and theyve been dating for almost two years. If you have a connection with him, and you both really like eachother, then there is a future. Don't worry about getting hurt because thats true with any relationship. Who knows, this could be the one that lasts, so dont just knock him because hes young.
2007-01-06 06:37:20 · answer #9 · answered by elisabette 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Thebig danger there is being at different life stages (ie- one wants to party and one wants to settle down and raise a family), and different experiences (having grown up in different environments).
If both basically have the same goals and ideas then the age shouldn't be too much of an issue.
2007-01-06 06:24:36 · answer #10 · answered by knightofsappho 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋