i would like to know what peolpe think about threesomes.do you think there good or bad?

Question

I have been in a Relationship for the last 7yrs my relationship is very strong' I'm also a very open minded person!. i want to have a threesome with my boyfriend to spice things up .he said he is happy to have one(As if he would'nt be lol).i would like to know from you,
if you have had a threesome before with your partner?
did it make your relationship better or did it break it up?
and would you do it again?

Answer 1

My wife and I have been swingers for several years and therefore have had a number of threesomes, both FMF and MFM.

Done for the right reasons it can bring a strong couple closer together. Done for the wrong reasons, or by a couple on shaky relationship ground, it can lead to trouble.

What is the right reason? Well, because you are doing it for the both of you. You want to do it, but your spouse's enjoyment in it is as important, or even more important, than yours. If your doing it to expand and explore your sexuality together, that is good.

What is wrong? Doing it to "fix" a relationship on the rocks. Doing it for selfish reasons, i.e. to get some "strange" without regard to your spouse's feelings.

Basically, swinging should be ADDITIONAL SEX, not REPLACEMENT SEX.

For some good, objective information about this by people that have and actually do it, check-out The Swingers Board.

Answer 2

9 times out of ten it leads to some sort of problem. Read about all of the strong relationships that break up. Why would you risk all of the potential pitfalls? Sure for some it works but usually just not a good idea. Someone is going to get hurt. The bond between you should be so tight that you wouldn't dream of bringing someone into your private life. If you guys had only been going out for a little bit I'd say go for it but you have committed 7 years to this.

Spicing things up is best done by a deepening emotional attachment. 7 years? You should be thinking about geting engaged or something. Exitement about your future instead of just rolling along for 7 years. I know all are different but just something to think about.

At the very least plan an exiting vacation overseas to get things different. Bottom line..... 3 somes are just not a good idea.

Answer 3

If you are looking for a threesome to "spice up" your relationship, the relationship is in trouble. You just haven't accepted it yet. You're bored and feel it's going nowhere. A threesome might kink it up, but it won't salvage the relationship. If anything it will be the beginning of the end.

Find out what's really going on in your relationship and work at repairing that.

But I bet you'll be flooded with emails offering to be the third person. LOL

Answer 4

Lady for most people a three some will spell the end of a relationship and not a good idea no matter how open minded you or your partner are!If you descide to do this put up clear boundaries.Also question if your relationship with your bf is in trouble if you need a 3 some to spice things up?If you dont believe me look it up most relationships cant survive it.

Answer 5

I personally would not consider it with my wife because my marriage and my relationship is too important to me and we share an incredible bond that I don't think should be shared with anyone else.I think bringing another person into your relationship can be a very dangerous thing to do, but you are adults so it is strictly up to you. You know your man and your relationship, so you should know if it is something that will bring you closer or may tear you apart. I have known it to do both to the couples who have done it. For me, it was something I experienced when I was single and didn't really have intense feelings for anyone involved other than friendship and partying. Like I said what my wife and I share is awesome and between the 2 of us....I would never risk that by bringing someone else in to our private lives. Besides our sexual relationship is awesome and never boring so I don't feel the need to mess with it.

Answer 6

I formulated this kind of question about three weeks ago and I was slapped as being a violator of the "community guideline" Many of us are getting so immoral that the privacy or the intimacy of sex is violated because in our sick mind, the joy of sex must be equally shared by a third party. Some of us downgrade their consciousness to such a low level that they resort to lay down with animals like dogs (so I heard) To satisfy the great demand of the carnal gratification, we (many of us) invent, become creative in sex drive. New gadgets or sex toys are manufactured, threesome, foursome or group sex are developed and the rate of divorce is climbing because too many think that sex can save a relationship not the intimacy of the person sharing your life. Before you decide on anyone advice that a threesome is beneficial or detrimental to your relationship, think of your own value and worth as a woman then decide on your own mirror image.

Answer 7

I have been in a relationship for eleven years, my partner and I have had many threesomes. It does add a little spice to your love life and a little 'kick' so to speak. It's hardly ever with the same person. This also allows you to experiment in many different things!

Answer 8

Dont do it you will regret it. Try some other way to spice things up but dont bring in a third person. It can cause jealousy down the road and lead to a break up. ( try going to an adult store and picking up something to aid you) If you love each other then you should be content with sex with only each other. Plus in this day and age you are asking for a disease if you have mulitple partners. In my experience you are asking for trouble.

Answer 9

I was married for 7 years and my ex-wife and I had a 3-some.....well the end result is we were divorced not to long afterwards. Some people or couples can do it....others cannot. It puts jealous thoughts in your mind. she thought I had more fun with the other woman and then accused me of seeing the other woman even after the fling...(I wasn't). Then all of a sudden I was this male cheating pig who only thought of other women. Think about it like this.....if you need another party to spice up your sex life then you have a very lame and undifining sex appeal to one another.

So the answer is yes I have and no I wouldn't do it again!

Answer 10

I would put a lot of thought into this. The people that answered so far give excellent points and you are on the right track by trying to research this, but think of this would you be jealous and he was all over someone else and would he be jealous if you were all over someone else. If there is jealousy and you truely are in love with one another don't do it because we you see will stay in your mind forever.