If an autistic retarded kid slaps your 5 year old daughter in the face... What would you do?

Question

This is not a joke this happened to my daughter about a week ago. But I can't say anything to my mother in law (its her adopted kid) because she treats him like he's royalty. And the freaking kid in her eyes does no wrong. She always argues about it. The boy is 260 lbs 5'4'' and he's autistic, my daughter is 45 pounds shes 5... and he slapped her face hard for no reason at all. All my mother in law said to him was not to do it again. This is not the first time he hit my daughter. So I feel like sh*t... because I didn't say anything. I'm trying not go over there anymore.. but hubby wants me to go over there sometimes and sit with her. So anyway the next time.. if this happens again (Which I don't want it to)
Should I:
A. Not say anything because you can say anything to the pycho mother in law or the little IMP anyway

B. Just leave, go home, and never come back to visit.

C. Slap the sh*t out of him and tell her that she needs to control her animal, and they can all kiss my @ss!

Answer 1

B, I would warn her first though

She may think that he's royalty, or what have you. She may think that he can do no wrong. But she needs to understand that you can not allow your daughter to be injured!!!! You can't slap him, because he's mentally handicapped. If you did; one, you'd probably get slapped yourself and two, you probably wouldn't be welcomed back. If you do have to go over there keep your daughter with you at all times. If he acts like he's about to lay hands on your daughter you'll be there to stand up to him and put a stop to it. If your husband is worried about someone sitting with his mother, then he should hire someone. It's not okay for someone older and bigger to hit your child. I would make it clear that she won't be over to the house without your direct supervison because you fear for her safery. If they can't accept that then she'll never be over, period.

Answer 2

I'm sorry you feel you can't say something.My cousin is autistic and can get violent with other kids.Nobody allows it to happen and when it does he's punished just like a normal child.People think that just cause they are Autistic that they don't get things but they do.When my daughter was 8 months old my cousin hit her in the head hard with one of his toys and his mother punished him by slapping his hand and telling that under no circumstances was he to do that again.She then stood him in the corner.You could tell that he felt really bad and when his punishment was over he sat quietly beside her the rest of the afternoon gently rubbing her head telling how much he loved her,It was enough to make me cry.don't stand by and not say anything he does know better just just has someone making excuses for him.So he thinks he can get away with it.

Answer 3

I agree with what Jennifer F said and I would like to add that your mother-in-law is doing a great disservice to the child! At some point she will not be in his life any more.And the behavior she is allowing him to display will cause him many problems , he will have trouble finding placement for living and socializing in general.Your best bet is try to talk to her and explain you are concerned about his future. Because if living arraignments can't be made for him in the future guess where he may end up !

Answer 4

Talk to her about it and tell her you have concerns of the two children playing together. This is just something that happens when dealing with mentally disabled people/kids sometimes. They don't have a comprehension level like we do. I would be patient and realize that she treats him like a golden boy because he needs all the love he can get.

Answer 5

I would talk to him. Autistic children/adults do understand right from wrong. She has babied him and treated him as "special" so he thinks no matter what he does it's ok. Talk to her and let her know you can't let your daughter be put in harms way. If she wants you to come over she will have to handle her son or there will be no contact from you. How horrible for you and your daughter.Hope she is ok.

Answer 6

First of all autistic kids are not retarded and you shouldn't call anyone that..they are mentally handicapped.Second of all the kid would not act like that had he been disciplined in the first place....I would keep my daughter away from him and explain why to my husband..He should be supportive of you and think about his child..Autistic people are very smart.

Answer 7

he really cant control himself and may be a risk 2 others it is not safe 4 ur child 2 b around him so do not put her in that situation again special needs people truly can not help the way they r and /or their actions i am a nurse and a mother of a child with special needs and people who have never been parents of a special needs child will never understand what its like so i dont expect u to understand or have compassion for a special needs individual but believe me they r not monsters or animals as u called him they r trult special blessed and loving individuals and ur mother in law knows this about her son just as i do about my dtr if thats how u feel neither u nor ur dtr need to b around him cuz u r more of a threat to him than he will ever b to u and u have to answer to god 1 day for things u have said and felt about this unique and wonderful angel of god i commend ur mother in law and all mothers of special needs children i wil pray 4 u

Answer 8

Slap the Sh*t out of the mother-in-law and tell her to pass it along.

Answer 9

My next door neighbour's teenage sons are abusive and obnocious to their little sister and also to my daughter. I just didn't allow her to go over there anymore! Eventually her daughter became as abusive as her brothers and my daughter is not allowed to go over there at all now.

Answer 10

First I would like to ask you to please never use the "r" word again. It's disrespectful.

Secondly, I will say that your mother-in-law DOES need to be teaching him to behave better than that. Just because he has problems does not mean he can't learn. Inform her that you love her and him both, but if she cannot start making him behave better, you have to keep your daughter away. Your child's safety comes first and foremost. Do not turn this into an issue about his disorder, make it about his behavior. He IS capable of being and doing better than that. The biggest problem with disabled kids today is that their parents lay everything down and don't expect enough out of them to make them better people.