I mean, if a woman wants to intentionally date an abusive, unfaithful jerk, go right ahead. That's your choice. However, women seem to think it's okay to commit acts of verbal and physical violence against decent men who have committed no crime.
2007-01-06 06:04:41 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
You need to stop generalizing Mike. I am sure that you have had some experience with women like this but there are a lot that do not share those traits. As there are men who are attracted to emotionally unhealthy women there will also be that factor with some women. I personally stay away from men that I sense have problems. Some women are under the impression from what they have been socialized to believe that they can fix these men and I know for a fact that the only way a person can change is by wanting it on their own. I am sorry that you have been hurt and I hope that you find a woman who is worthy of the gifts of stability you could bring to a relationship. God bless and good luck.
2007-01-06 06:58:48 · answer #1 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Mike, I am going to go way out of the box on this one. Sounds to me like some one may have kicked your can. It must have been a woman. There are alot out there who will take advantage of a person such as yourself. How am i doing? You need to make a decision as to how long you would like to be treated that way. The rule also goes for the women.
Let us get back inside the box. I take a pride in who I date and will never allow a man to do such a thing as beat me. My husband did once and I called the cops on him - that was years ago - we're still married - it's in the past. Let me put it to you straight only women who believe they are not worth the very soil they trod upon are worth the men you have mentioned, as well as the women who find a sick sadistic pleasure in beating men. They both travel the same road.
Keep your back straight and hold your head high and never lower your standards. There are good women out there.
2007-01-06 17:21:02 · answer #2 · answered by Laela (Layla) 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's not the women, but the men. I mean, if a confident, healthy man keeps going after women who want to date abusive jerks, he may need to ask himself, "Why am I attracted to these type of women?" We attract what we think we need, but what we think we need is not always what is good for us.
2007-01-06 23:22:37 · answer #3 · answered by letmesurpriseu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because these abusive women are insecure and fearful bytches and any decent, confident, healthy men should not try to rescue these scumbags because they will get emotionally ripped up in process by the ingratitude of these bytches. They need to be told, "NO it's not OK". Kick them to the curb where they can meet all of the abusive men who have been kicked there by confident, healthy women.
2007-01-06 17:32:12 · answer #4 · answered by morahastits 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just as some women choose abusive men, so some men choose abusive women. It's the same thing. The consequences may be different, but only in degree.
The idea in both cases is to not choose them.
2007-01-06 16:30:30 · answer #5 · answered by Terracinese 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Where, _where_ are the confident, healthy men? You obviously are not one, as you are smearing an entire gender based on a few bad experiences, so where are you hiding them?
See, this is a big problem. We always have to hear about how nice guys finish last, and women always want the bad boy. And I feel your pain, up to a point. Lots of us do go through the bad boy phase. Most of us grow out of it, and then we go looking for those mythical nice guys. That's when we find out that lots of them are just pathetic whiners who harbor a lot of bitterness towards women in general because they were attracted to the bad girls and got, duh, treated badly. When you outgrow your bad girl phase, you should come look for us nice girls. We are out there.
2007-01-06 22:49:29 · answer #6 · answered by random6x7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you have noticed is sometimes called Gender Marxism. Not all women hate confident, healthy men. Most women (in my opinion) look to them favorably as possible husbands and lovers. But women who are determined to compete with men, for example in business or in politics, are often made to confront the fact that they are not behaving as women normally do, but, rather, they are trying to be Imitation Men. And nobody really respects an imitation.
2007-01-06 14:13:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well some women have insecurity issues and/or mental problems that make them search for abusive relationships. But if you are seeing this in ALL woman that you date perhaps your problem is a little deeper into yourself. Do some soul searching about the types of women you are interested in, and you will likely find your answer.
2007-01-06 14:09:35 · answer #8 · answered by happymom1981 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are a lot of 'male bashers' out there. Maybe these particular women are jealous, envious or not confidant enough to stand up to, or next to a strong healthy man. Not me....I like the male gender! I even married a strong, healthy, confidant man.
People are stupid, men and women both. No one gender should bash another...how bout dropping all the generalization, "all men are...." "all women are..." and lets just attack the individual we dont like.
2007-01-06 14:18:32 · answer #9 · answered by ShaMayMay 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
People repeat the pattern they learned from their parents. For women that tends to mean finding someone like their abusive father. Thus they have learned in their childhood that abusive men are attractive and "strong" and that nice men are not attractive and "weak". And since their parents modeled the behavior of being abusive towards the "weak", if you are nice they are going to see you as weak and be abusive towards you.
Take up marital arts, then women will be attracted to you. Sad, but that is how it works.
2007-01-06 14:09:00 · answer #10 · answered by Clown Knows 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋