i liked this guy and he liked me, i m in gr. 9 he is in gr 12 and i s the greatest guy ever...i just found out i am pregnant..i want to tell him but i want to rase the child myself not with him...he will want to stay in it's life but i don't want him to...i can't say it's not his cuz he knows i have only been with him. what should i do??/ and i want to prlong tellingmy parents til i start showing. i am also against adoption and abortion.
2007-01-06 06:00:42 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
know wat> you need to do what ever makes you happy...if u don't want to tell ur parents til you start to show, pretend u don't know anythiing about it...u need to tell the guy tho...tell him you will give him money to say out of the child's life and that he can pick the name if he wants, but give him a list of names you like so that u will like the name. i get the whole adoptiona dnabortion r wrong thing...good luck!!
2007-01-06 06:22:35 · answer #1 · answered by Lexsy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's wonderful that you have such a great sense of independance at such a young age.
That type of a strength takes a lot of skill and intellegence. I would think that a young person smart enough to have as much courage as you do would also be smart enough to consider your unborn child's life. Your child's father deserves to be a part of the baby's life. Infact, you should welcome it especially if he is willing to participate. You said yourself that he is a great guy, so why shew him away?
This is going to be a rough time for you and you are going to need some type of support. Not just finanically but emotionally as well.
I can understand your resistance to tell your parents, however you may want to consider telling them sooner than later. Begin your talk with them by explaining that people make mistakes but you are coming into your independance and you're in a situation that you feel it's best you handle the best way you know how which is keeping your child b/c of your belifs against adoption and abortion. Tell them you respect their opinions and you hope they can respect your choice.
2007-01-06 14:55:55 · answer #2 · answered by WORLD FAMOUS 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If its his child he has a right to be in its life and help raise it, who are you to keep his child from him, that is just selfish. If it isn't his then you don't have to have that guy in the baby's life. You will just have to tell your parents, it is a good thing though that you are being responsible and not getting an abortion. You are dealing with the consequences of your actions and not taking the easy way out. Th best thing for you to do is continue to get and education and as long as you do that and raise the child in a good home and plan on going to college you should be fine. If you can't provide for him/her you should give it up for adoption for its own well being.
2007-01-06 16:54:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you are against adoption and abortion then i guess you should keep it the baby has a right to live, and if your boyfriend truly loves you he will be with you , if not you might have to become a single mother , but you should tell your parents now to give them time to resolve the issues and save up money and for you to learn how to take care of a baby 24/7. Well and i think you should of thought of this before you went and had sex. well im not going to lecture you too much because you will be getting that from your parents.
2007-01-06 17:44:05 · answer #4 · answered by elizacandle 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Every child deserves a dad. If your boy friend is as great a guy as you say, it sounds like he would make a great dad. I do understand your reservations about telling your parents and I'm sure they will be upset, but after the shock they will be very supportive (they love you). Don't close the door on adoption. Many families are looking for children to adopt (because they can not have children themselves) and you could be the answer to their dreams. Check out Bethany Christian Services www.bethany.org. ( you actually get to choose the parents for your little one) they have many services to offer to birth mothers. I will pray for you as you make these difficult decisions.
2007-01-06 15:02:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh girl,you need to tell him.He needs to know.He will not like it,teenage boys do not want responsibility.You need to tell your parents as well.You need all the support you can get right now.You need to stay in school and make sure that the baby is going to be taken care of.Hopefully his and your families will help with that.You need to have a plan,a good one.If you cannot get the support you need I think adoption is something you may have to consider.Tell them,today!
2007-01-07 00:24:09 · answer #6 · answered by ~~Brandi20~~ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Baby, baby, baby. You should really rethink this one. You have not begun to live yet and are bringing a new life into the world. I think it is too early and if it is a boy. males need their dad. Yes, plenty of people raise kids alone but this is an experience thet you shoudl feel prod about and want to share with everyone. What about finishing school? Your senior prom? PLEASE talk to your parents and get some guidance.
2007-01-06 14:09:33 · answer #7 · answered by Lady X 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You need to tell your parents. If you are going to need any kind of help from the state, they are going to want to know who the father is. You need to see a dr by ur second month to make sure everything is ok. Maybe talking to a school counsler well help you.
2007-01-06 14:13:59 · answer #8 · answered by pierronmom 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Why do you want to deny the father right to see his child? He could probably get custody of the child over you if he wanted too.
2007-01-06 14:55:11 · answer #9 · answered by robedzombiesoul 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents then go from there cause you cannot always depend on a teenage boy to do anything right
2007-01-06 14:04:26 · answer #10 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋