I have a question for men out there. Why would you be scared if your gilfriends suggested to move in together? My boyfriend lives in a very small flat in a very expensive city. He is trying to establish his career so I know he is under quite a lot of pressure. I mentioned to him the other day that we could try to live together but he got all scared telling me that he is not ready for that? Does it mean he does not love me and I am not the girl for him?
2007-01-06 05:55:56 · 10 answers · asked by violet b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He's obviously NOT ready for that type relationship with you. He enjoys his freedom too much, and his career right now. If you want my honest opinion, I'm not sure you're what he's looking for , longterm, if it scared him THAT much, otherwise, he would have just "laughed it off" without all the drama.
2007-01-06 06:00:39 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm this persons son. No! It means he's not ready for that. How long have you two been together? Does he believe in living with someone? Why move in to his place? Why don't you get a place and invite him over? That is a big commitment and its something his parents may frown upon, you can love some one but to live with them is causing a great deal of pressure. I know a lot of girls move into their guys place but some people need time alone, and away from the other mate. Just accept his answer and later on down the road he may ask you. Unless your the type that harps on every little thing then he may never ask you to share his home
2007-01-06 14:09:14 · answer #2 · answered by queenie one 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he loves you it's just harder for men to give up their freedom. Just give it time and dont pressure him. It took me 7 years to move in with my g/f and I still wasn't fond of loosing my "Bachelor Pad". I'm not saying it will take that long but give it a couple of years and start to look to move into a newer neutral spot so it will be a new place for both of you. Then everything will be alright.
Oh yeah I forgot to mention we're still together after 11 yrs. lol
2007-01-06 14:03:42 · answer #3 · answered by baddog0711 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means he knows the relationship hasn't gotten to that point. If you were smart you wouldn't move in with a man until you are ready to make a commitment on paper in the form of marriage. Be independent girl!
2007-01-06 13:58:57 · answer #4 · answered by Nancy O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living together isn't something that should be taken lightly. Your boyfriend was honest with you when he said that he's not ready for that. I mean that's a major step. Although you had good intentions, maybe it's too early. Give him time. Take care!!
2007-01-06 14:04:15 · answer #5 · answered by Blu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he no doubt, was worried about the fact, that if you two had a nasty blow out, and booted him out of your place, he may have no ware to go.
stop and consider almost all the time, it is the guy that gets the boot and the girl mages to survive some how.
2007-01-06 14:02:30 · answer #6 · answered by duster 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that he is not ready for that step in your relationship. If you push him, he may decide that you are not the girl for him. Back off.
2007-01-06 13:57:57 · answer #7 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no , it just means that he wants to keep his place for a while longer...he mite understand what u r offering but he just mite wanna hav his space for a while longe...my advice ....keep the offer open to him...jus cuz u dont live together doesnt mean that he doesnt love u!
2007-01-06 13:59:39 · answer #8 · answered by mech_warrior172003 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
y would i be scared to move in with a lover ?
2007-01-06 13:57:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya thats what id say..................
2007-01-06 13:57:27 · answer #10 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋