one of my friends hasn't been eating. She doesn't eat breakfast and at lunch she won't eat anything even if we offer her something. Shes says shes not hungry or she doesn't like it or something. All she does is drink diet pop and sit there. We were in school and she said she felt really sick so we took her 2 the nurse and she decided to stay but when we were leaving to go 2 class she passed out. She does eat if we go 2 burger king, but she'll only get like a salad and then complains about how shes gunna get fat and shes never eating it again. Me and my friends told the guidance counselor and she got called down but she denied everything. But now shes getting worse shes about 5'1 and 88 pounds. Should we go back to the guidance couselor and tell her that she does have a problem even tho she denies it?
2007-01-06 05:48:33 · 10 answers · asked by smartblonde0831 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Wow. That sounds just like how I used to be, she sounds like a carbon copy of the anorexic me :(. Well, first off tell her when she is doesn't eat, that she is really skinny. Don't say anything more about her being anorexic besides something like, "you need some meat on your bones because your thigh is as big as my arm" (what a friend said to me). Yes, go tell your guidance couselor and even though your friend may not like it, it may be for the better of her. Maybe also try to look for some people who you are sure have over come anorexia and "hook" them up together. Make sure that she knows that you guys really do love her and that you'll always be there for her. I'm going off the top of my head right now, but if you have anymore questions or anything, I'd be more than willing to answer them. Good luck!
2007-01-06 06:11:27 · answer #1 · answered by sunshine & summertime 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that true friendship means that you love the PERSON more than the FRIENDSHIP. If you think your friend is harming herself, you should do whatever you can to get her some help. If the guidance counselor can't help....maybe you need to talk to her parents. One idea would be to confront her first and encourage her to talk to her parents about it and tell her you will be right by her side the whole time. If she isn't willing to do that, or to own up to it, you may have to go to her parents yourself. OR maybe there is a friends parent who everybody likes and trusts, her included. Maybe that parent could be of some help. I hope this was helpful. If you do help your friend she may not like you very much right now. However someday when she is healthy and on the other side of this she will be able to look back and know that you loved her enough to try to help her.
2007-01-06 06:15:57 · answer #2 · answered by oldrallychick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation to your friend, but i was making myself sick after my meals. One of my friends found out, and told the others, and they got a bit upset, cos we were all so close. They went straight to the head of sixth form, and told her about it, but cos they were diasppointed by me thay could hardly even look at me. I don't blame them nowadays, but i still wish they had done it differently. What i am trying to say is; don't go straight to the guidance councillor, talk to her yourself, and not in a scary, 'sit down, we want to have a word with you' kinda style, but maybe just tell her that your worried about her, and steer the conversation to her eating habits. That way she won't feel as forced. Then tell her that you were thinking of taking the action that you mentioned in your question if she doesn't get better, but that you will help her every step of the way and always be there for her. Remember thet you are the most important person to help her. My friends stopped talking to me a bit after they told our head of year, and it made it one million times harder to get straight without them. If you make sure you are there for her, and always a shoulder to cry on, she will blame you for nothing, i promise.
2007-01-06 11:00:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Take this from someone who has been anorexic before. Fortunately, I smartened up on my own and stopped before it got serious, but it doesn't look like that in her situation. Please talk to the counsellor again. People with eating disorders won't straight tell you that they've got one when you ask, because they either think they don't, or don't want to have to go through therapy or get in trouble.
2007-01-06 05:52:56 · answer #4 · answered by strangehappenings 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Another Nicole Richie your friend needs help she do have a serious problem make a appt with a psychologist but don't tell her act like you are taking her somewhere and visit a psychologist
2007-01-06 06:05:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do anything you can do-by all means tell the guidance counselor at school. You could be without your friend if you don't. (as in she might die)
2007-01-06 13:32:47 · answer #6 · answered by Terry Z 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from experince, i know that counselors don't always help. go to her mom and explain why you're worried. if you dont want to go directly to her mom, try a teacher that you trust, it worked for me. definitely, though do not let this just go by!
2007-01-06 06:29:32 · answer #7 · answered by Sara B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
2007-01-06 05:51:40 · answer #8 · answered by ~V@NN@H~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes.
2007-01-06 06:45:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. you should
2007-01-06 05:52:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋