she has been my best friend since 2nd grade. we have no kids. we just got married in may. i love him very much. he says he loves me but we dont know what to do.
2007-01-06 05:42:26 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wow...you live in West Virginia don't you? You're married...you took a solemn oath of committment...good luck
2007-01-06 05:45:16 · answer #1 · answered by ~~kelly~~ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you like people before your married you will like people after your married. your single habits dont just stop when you get into a relationship or get married. because you two are married to each other that means you have committed to each other. you love each other and love is not just strong liking... it is being absolutely committed and devoted to that persons well being for as long as you have breath. you have taken a vow of love in front of your friends family and neighbors and you must honor that vow. you and your husband obviously dont hide much and that is great but you and him must make a united front and push on together through temptations of being attracted to someone else, fights in the marriage, and any other hardship that comes your way throughout life. besides would either of you rather BE with this crush for life instead of your spouse? you probably just like the idea of being with that person better than the act of getting a divorce and then trying to be with these other people.
2007-01-06 05:51:59 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember that "like" and "love," are two totally different feelings for someone.
"Like" is similar to having a crush on someone and probably wondering how it would be to spend some time with that person different from the "spouse."
I guess you might have answered your own question. Did you guys go into the marriage "liking" one another in hopes of "loving". Or were you guys already in "Love"
If you answer the latter, then you guys started out on solid footing. If you answer the prior... the "liking" and WANTING to get to "love" then like I said before, you've just answered your own question.
Good luck
2007-01-06 05:48:24 · answer #3 · answered by goodtimes2x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you felt like this? Has anything changed recently? Apparently, you are sexual, but no real love. Consider counseling, it would be terrible to throw away a marriage because of a crush. Being friends is so important in a marriage. Being in love is easy, liking someone takes patience and work.
2007-01-06 05:48:42 · answer #4 · answered by boxersgirlbunny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You all shouldn't have gotten married in the first place but how do you love someone so much but like to be with another person. Maybe you all should just become swingers
2007-01-06 05:57:52 · answer #5 · answered by lightning_773 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been married 25 years and still get the hots for other women. I just dont act out.
2007-01-06 05:46:19 · answer #6 · answered by Ben R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good Lord!! Why am I not surprised to here this from a female.
I have seen this too many times in the past and too many marriages go down the hole because of it. Just go for it and be done with it already.
Seems like females just want to go from one bad relationship to another to another to another. Home wreckers and proud of it.
2007-01-06 05:50:43 · answer #7 · answered by ally_oop_64 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay your saying you each want to get down with these other poeple. you have to seperate love and sex. If you both are willing to admit it. and you are mature enough to seperate these two things. you should all four get together and talk it over. If your okay with it. Damn the torpedoes and lets get some mad screwing going on...yeeeeeeeeeehaaaaaaaaaw. wouldnt mind making a video of this..
2007-01-06 05:53:00 · answer #8 · answered by miller4000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on Jerry Springer like the rest of the hillbilly's.
2007-01-06 05:46:32 · answer #9 · answered by Joker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you've got honesty and maybe you can survive opening up the relationship to allow for lovers.
2007-01-06 05:45:55 · answer #10 · answered by jeanofarc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋