What Makes a Person Become Gay?

Question

I think that often some boys become Gay or Bi on account of the fact that it has been their first sexual experience.

If they'd done it first with a girl they might have been straight.

You may have heard of those Fetishests who could only enjoy sex if their partner was wearing a gas mask as they saw people doing it that way in the London Underground (subway) during air raids in 2nd world war.

I'm cool with Gays though. They're some of the nicest people.

Answer 1

Recent scientific studies have shown that being gay is caused by biological and genetic factors.

Answer 2

I really cant say much because I am not gay, but i have had gay friends and all.
From school studies what i understood was, some people are naturally born gay, it has nothing to do with their society. These people know that they are difffernt than what their physical body show, but because socially it was unexceptable they had to hide it, and PRETEND to be straight, they felt out of place. One of the reason is that our body produces a balanced amount of hormones for the feminin and the masculin side. This is for everyone, but soemtimes as everyones body is different , it could happen that the body produces more Masculin hormones when you obviously look feminin. These are hormones that connect to the brain or produced in the brain, that gives the girl the feeling of man, but she is a woman. So same goes for guys.
Now the reason we see alot of them is because, we are more liberate in what we choose to be and how we feel. Gays are socially more exceptable than years ago. It is also growing a trend between youngsters who are experiening sex. This is where a straight becomes gay, it is the same example with people breaking up a whole marriage or a relationship because the other partner is not good in bed.
So some like to be gay because they get more pleasure out of it, and therefore they think that they are gay, because they like it more.
You can read psychology 101 it has a chapter about it.

Answer 3

"I'm cool with gays though. They're some of the nicest people." Er, so who aren't you cool with?
Sounds like you're trying to "fish" a bit and find out if it's "ok" to be gay because you're feeling like you may be yourself.
Answer: Yes, it's ok and if you aren't actually wondering if you're gay, then why are you interested?
I'm not interested in football, therefore, I do not ask questions about it.
I am interested in gourmet cooking, therefore, I DO ask questions about it.
Do you see the logic?
You are fine and if you are gay, there's nothing "wrong" with you. That is a socially created condemnation which only serves to create a negative environment and build walls around people, making them feel bad about themselves.
Don't buy into it.
I can see your breakdown on the mechanics of the mind and the analogy to how fetishes are created to homosexuality but this would be an incorrect assumption. A person who fetishises an act wouldn't do it if they didn't want to do it, ie. a man will not have sex with a man if he doesn't enjoy it and a woman will not have sex with a woman unless she enjoys it. It isn't the same as liking high heels or rubber.

To Latter_rain276 - This isn't true. You have it backwards. People are born perfect and it is life and what we are taught which corrupts us as humans.
You are teaching a doctrine which calls a human "wrong" from birth. You are not able to define what is "wrong" and what is "right", indeed, there isn't even a such of thing. As humans, we are born to know what brings us to our higher purpose and what brings us down and further from it. In a supportive environment, we will stay closer in line to that higher purpose. In a negative, defeating, fearful environment we move further from it. It is that negative attitude which you have written that divides people and chips away at the very thread that unites us as humans and to all living things.
Shame on you.

To Ellen D - For the love of bacon fat, child, read a book!!

Answer 4

Now to answer the question seriously. Well to tell you the truth my first sexual experience was with a girl, ok it wasnt completely a bad feeling but while having sex with her all i thought of was men because i was trying to joke myself and just pretend i was straight. Ive come to terms with myself and i knew i was gay ever since i can remember but due to society i refused to be a happy person. Now i am the happiest person in the world, my family and friends have accepted me for who i am and they can really see my happiness just by my smile. To finally answer the question even though my first experience was with a girl it didnt mean i was straight, i finally had sex with a guy and what a relief that was the real thing for me. Hope this answers your question and God Bless.

Answer 5

i beleave that you can just wake up one day and become gay. i mean look at women- there forever touching and kissing other women. i think for a bloke though its different. i think a man knows hes gay the moment he becomes a teenager and reaches puberty, some just dont like to admit it though and will try to do everything to stop his feelings for men.

Its nothing to do with first kiss with a bloke or woman. men can be married to women an be gay inside, so no a man dont go gay because of experimenting in teens- im a woman and my first kiss was with another woman as i was experimenting and im now married to my husband with two kids and am perfectly strait

Answer 6

Gosh, if only that were true! Evidence says not, though.

There have been reports that our first sexual experience, good or bad, influences who we seek out as partners (or avoid) in the future. But that apparently doesn't apply to orientation, just superficial characteristics (age, clothing, location, etc.). Kids tend to be socially homosexual (prefer to play sports or dolls with members of their own sex) until puberty, then differentiate to whatever they are, gay or straight. So most sexual experimentation in kids is homosexual, I think, since that's who they happen to be around the most, but it doesn't affect who they prefer to be with when they grow up. Any connection between their first experience and who they prefer later on is probably coincidental.

Answer 7

its in your genes, you're born gay or bi or straight. it just takes some people longer than others to realize it or except it. And others know right away after their first sexual experience, crush, or something like that.

And some people are just confused. just because you have done something sexual with someone of the same sex doesnt mean you are gay or bi.

I recently did something with a girl. but it was just making out because i was at a party, drinking, and got dared to. i didnt get turned on or anything like that, but i got a rush like i was doing something bad. i am completely straight and comfortable with my sexuality, thats why im not scared of a little incident like this one.

Answer 8

The medical field is leaning toward the evidence that your sexual preferences are determined before birth. If you think about it, the treatment received by gays is so hostile that surely no one would choose to be that way. I don't think that very many people would agree with you about the first experience being the deciding factor. That idea is outdated and illogical.

Answer 9

That's really simplistic and giving it NO THOUGHT. If this is true, there would different types of sexuality all across the board, instead of just Straight, Bi and Gay.

Try to think DEEPER and realize that human sexuality is based on whats in our hearts and minds, not just "oh, I did that, now I'M STUCK." roflmao.

Answer 10

My ex is bisexual. He had sex with a woman first before having it with a guy. To answer your question no one becomes straight, bisexual or gay. A person is born that way. Now whether they choose to follow that path or not that is that person's own individual decision, but a person doesn't "become" based on who they have sex with. It is something that they are born with.