What if there is a reason the married couple is not having sex? What if you were married for 10 years, and your husband was in a car accident, and could not perform? I could not believe a lot of the people who answered that question just said no, or if your not "doing it" get a divorce????? My husband and I have a great sex life right now (married 10 years) but, if something would happen to one of us we could still be happy. Our marrage is not just about sex.
2007-01-06 05:34:13 · 24 answers · asked by Holly 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If there were extinuating circumstances that prevented a couple from having sex, a very small percentage of those marriages could survive.... maybe 25%,but if there was no valid reason for not having sex, I don't think 1% would survive. They might stay "married", but one or the other would cheat and the marriage would be for appearance -sake only. Marriage is "not just about sex" I agree, but sex is VERY important to the survival rate of marriage.
2007-01-06 05:43:32 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I gave this answer earlier, this is a popular question!!
Yes, it absolutely can. I don't know of anyone who got married and stayed married simply because the sex was good. If it is decided at some point during a marriage by both partners that sex is not necessary for one or both of you then so be it. The emotional and financial reasons for being married may still be there but the physical stimulation has for some rerason or another "died". I know of couples in this situation and they work around the sex issue. One of the guys has an arrangement where his freind sleeps with his wife twice a week because he can't perform. Sounds a little strange, but it works for them.
2007-01-06 05:48:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right, marriage is much more than sex. But many equate love and sex, or think that sex = love. Of course, in seven years when the lust wears-off they end-up in divorce court, too.
For us it isn't an issue. We're not the jealous type and if either of us was ever unable to perform for some physical reason or another we don't have a problem with the other finding a playmate.
2007-01-06 05:58:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure what the question is, but I agree with your comments. Things can change in a single heartbeat. If you marry, you marry the person--the entire package--the good, and the not so good. If something were to change hopefully you married your partner because you 'loved them' not just sex. Sure sex is part of it--but only part of it. You married the person, not the organ. I've been married 36 years. Our sex life is different now than when we started, but we love each other more and love is deeper and more meaningful than we ever imagined. Marriage is NOT just about sex...you are right!
2007-01-06 05:40:10 · answer #4 · answered by Nisey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you only live once, and if the sex just isn't happening after a really long time, then it's time eventually just to call it quits, if the person isn't willing to work on it w/you, to investigate was is wrong.
when sex is happening it's 10% important, and when it's not happening becomes 90% important.
and if their partner got in an accident.....well I don't know about that. I guess still be married to them, speak w/them that you wanna have a partner so you can live out that part of your life. why give it up?
2007-01-06 05:45:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you if my husband or I was in an accident and could not preform I will agree with the original question that was asked. However, the person that answered the question did not state if he/she was unable to preform because of a medical reason.
If I offended you I am sorry. But I think everyone knows that if someone is paralyzed and cannot preform or cannot work, I would not advice them to get a divorce.
Marriage is not based on sex
2007-01-06 05:39:36 · answer #6 · answered by Gucci S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If something was to happen and me and my husband couldn't have sex i would still love him and be with him. A marriage shouldn't be based on sex. But on the other hand sex can be an important part of a marriage. Just think if you couldn't have sex with your partner anymore. Would you feel less attractive?? Or that they weren't attracted to you anymore?? So I think anyone can make it through it. But it could put a strain on things.
2007-01-06 05:41:52 · answer #7 · answered by Darkchylde 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just posted a question about no sex in a marriage due to the wife's medical problems (hormones and thin vaginal wall creates pain). I am frustrated. Part of me wants to say that I should just forget about sex, and the other part says 'wait a minute here.' I guess it boils down to how important sex is. For me, it is an expression of intimacy. I tend to think that marriage without sex would be missing intimacy.
2007-01-06 05:45:11 · answer #8 · answered by James K 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fortunately there are plenty of ways one can be pleased without actually having innercourse. I know a couple in this situation and they have not had sex in a few years, but still have a very close physical relationship. And you're right, it's about much more than sex anyway.
2007-01-06 05:42:01 · answer #9 · answered by sammiejane67 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I see what your saying but lets say you have an accident and it left you unable to have sex. Your husband loves you so he probably will stay with you, but I bet he gets it on the side and doesn't tell you. Men especially have a need for sex. You can't tell me your husband would just give it up forever. He will tell you he would but that is such a lie.
2007-01-06 05:39:13 · answer #10 · answered by Lucinda M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋