2007-01-06 05:30:46 · 22 answers · asked by i roc 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Until you are both mentally/physically and financially ready to have kids. Kids especially when they are young are totally dependent on you and is basically a full time job so you want to be very prepared. If you both work you may want to start looking at family, friends, or a reputable babysitting service so you know that your kids are safe and in good hands whoever they are with.
2007-01-06 05:33:46 · answer #1 · answered by . 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
About 2 years
2007-01-06 05:33:57 · answer #2 · answered by hannahsbananasx11 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy being newlyweds first!!! MOST IMPORTANT. If you want to travel, TRAVEL. If you like the party-scene. GO PARTY!
My advice, the two of you should go do something, you've always wanted to do (without kids). When the kids start to come, it's a MAJOR adjustment period.
I have a couple of kids, but had the first one about 2 years after my wife and I got married. We did not take advantage of other things (cruises, travel abroad) and will now have to wait until the kids are a little bit older (probably 8-10) for them to enjoy it. We have no regrets about having kids. We both felt that it was time to have them. We also believe we could have taken them on a cruise too, until the parental, safety first, instinct started to kick in.
It was only a matter of time until we stopped thinking about fun and ourselves to our kids and what's best for the family.
Good luck.
2007-01-06 05:39:41 · answer #3 · answered by goodtimes2x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a really personal question. Personally, when I got married I told my husband that I wanted to be able to walk out the door in 5 min. (no getting kids ready, no diaper bag, etc.)for at least a year and after that whatever, happened, happened. We conceived on our 1st wedding anniversary. We had been together almost 2 years before we married. The additional year gave us more time to learn about each other and adjust to married life. It was perfect for us. We have a very stable marriage, managed to buy our first home before we had our baby. I have friends that had a honeymoon baby, I have friends that had kids before they got married and I have friends that waited 10 years before they had a kid and all of them are happy. You really have to think about what is right for your situation and how you think kids will add to your life and how you can add to theirs. How stable is your relationship? How well do you know each other? What else is going on in your life? How are your finances, living situation? How do you want to raise you family? What do you want for you children and can you provide that right now? There is no "right time" to have kids. Just figure out the pros and cons and pray.
2007-01-06 05:38:12 · answer #4 · answered by BlueFish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think two years is a good time. This gives you the opportunity to really get to know each other. It also gives you time alone. That you wont have once kids come along. Kids definately change things. Not neccesarily for the worse. Just different. You need the time to yourselves. If time is ticking on your maternal clock. Then do what you must. Kids also add a lot of joy to your life. They can be a lot of fun. We enjoy just watching our kids play. I have been married for eighteen years. We waited the two years and we now have three. Good luck.
2007-01-06 05:36:14 · answer #5 · answered by janine b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make it a life of design and planning, not nickel and diming yourself to death because you can't afford a child.
You divide a piece of paper into two columns. You write down the pros on one side and the cons on the other side of the paper. Then, you work out what changes need to be made to get rid of the cons and support the pros.
I know that people find a way. If you have an unexpected pregnancy, you will find the money, but post pone your own career. If you plan for it, you will still have the same growing pains and hard work all parents go through.
2007-01-06 05:33:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until you BOTH agree that now is the time to fill the house with the sounds of little feet. Personally I love kids but after a while they drive me crazy. So I'm going to wait until my bio clck is alarming before I do. Dont want the little angel to be the object of my resentment when she shows up too early when I'm not ready.
2007-01-06 05:40:46 · answer #7 · answered by Carrie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just depends on whether or not you are emotionally & financially prepared to have children.
It may be best to wait awhile. You and your new husband need to have a chance to adjust to married life together before throwing another person into the mix.
Have you discussed it over with your mate? How does he feel?
After just becoming a new husband & now having another life to support, Is he ready for a 3rd?
2007-01-06 05:35:57 · answer #8 · answered by Mommy of 3 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As long as you're ready just go for it. For me personally, I wouldn't want a kid right away so I might wait for 6 months or a year to try to be pregnant. Any longer is too long and 6 mos. to a year is plenty to time to be ready mentally, physically, and financially.
2007-01-06 05:35:11 · answer #9 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think at least 2 years.
It takes that long to iron out all the "living-together-as-a-married- couple" stuff.
If possible the marriage should be as stable as possible because having children can make anything that's wrong seem bigger.
We waited 9 years....because we were having so much fun.
2007-01-06 05:34:35 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋