I just read a post about a girl 19 being hit on by a married man at work and felt the need to ask this question.Why do people start relationships and more importantley affairs in the work place?I have seen this happen even though i am only 25 and no one ever wins.If an affair starts at the work place and it becomes known i have seen the person get moved to another department, asked to leave, or be fired.But yet i have seen a lot of career driven women hook up with married men they work with for a fling or premotion and vice versa.Most of the time its does not end well even when single people hook up at work so why do people do it?
2007-01-06 05:30:26 · 9 answers · asked by Caterina L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I really dont understand it and i have even seen both sexes go after married people who they work closeley with in hopes to ruin their marriage?
2007-01-06 05:32:59 · update #1
Sometimes when you work closely with someone every day for a long period of time you get to know each other very well and you also know alot about each others lives and marriages. There are very few happily married people in the world most stay for convenience or financial reasons. You just develop an attraction to someone I think it is just human nature and sure you can fight it but is it really the best thing? This is life has been for years and will probably never change!
2007-01-06 05:37:30 · answer #1 · answered by kd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I gotta agree with the consensus here and say this is a bad idea. Having been here several times, I can tell you first-hand that the sex you get just isn't worth the lying, duplicity, emotional roller coaster, guilt, and double life you will find yourself leading and the train wreck your life will turn into. And if you get caught... GOD HELP YOU. This will rock your world and cause more emotional damage to your wife than you can possibly imagine (I'm not kidding) and you will pay for this in more ways that you can possibly imagine for countless years to come. Your wife will make your life a living hell. That is if she doesn't divorce you and clean you out financially in the process or if you're really unlucky, go Lorena Bobbitt on you. Think about this. You wouldn't be the first that this happened to. Okay, that being said, if you're still hell-bent to do this anyway, for God's sake find somebody who's in the same situation you are and who has as much to lose as you do. This maintains the status quo and gives her as much of a vested interest in keeping things on the down low as you have. CHOOSE CAREFULLY HERE! You want someone intelligent and above all else, EMOTIONALLY STABLE - anything less can and WILL blow up in your face. Lastly, WHATEVER ELSE YOU DO, keep emotions out of the equation, keep it low maintenance, and ZERO drama. If you do this, you MAY have a chance at a successful affair that won't wreck you and those around you. Affairs aren't for the faint of heart. Don't forget this.
2016-05-22 23:18:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the ones who go after the married people have a need, they see a gain, they see what they don't posses, and with no concern about the person's spouse they pursue the person with a vengeance, stroking their ego's,making promises, and showing them only the best side of them. the do it because they see a way to gain something they don't have in life. and if that person's marriage has any problems at all than theres a door that is open that normally wouldn't be. most affairs begin in the workplace. normally one doesn't just go out and plan an affair, it is usually someone u meet at work. something that begins with sharing with them emotionally your problems, than it goes farther, than finally the point of no return, and the marriage is over with.
2007-01-06 05:44:43 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People fool themselves into believing that for them things will be different. They only realize that they can't control all they thought they could until it's too late. At work, relationships can start slow, and you can pick your own level of safety by keeping others around or choosing to be alone. All relationships are exciting in the beginning, and many people can't see past that. I also haven't seen many successful work relationships. It can happen, but I agree with you that most people just get burnt.
2007-01-06 05:46:03 · answer #4 · answered by ezpaced 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, affairs happen because emotional or physical needs (or both) are not being met in their marriage.
Second, why do they happen at work? Because you spend 35% of your awake hours at work with your coworkers, sometimes more than you spend with your spouse. The opportunity to meet and develop a relationship with someone at work is greater than anywhere else.
2007-01-06 06:01:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's just like an instict, at work people have like levels, so your boss has a very good chance of getting a lot of women even if married, because they see him as a powerful man. also the constant interaction at work creates those relationships men and women by nature are not monogamus!
2007-01-06 05:36:43 · answer #6 · answered by Lucky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People start relationships at work because they spend 75% at work. They tend to ask a male/female co-worker advice on their personal relationship and that's how it gets started.
As one of my best friend used to say "You don't eat where you take a crap (sh**)"
2007-01-06 05:34:04 · answer #7 · answered by Gucci S 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
because its easier to lie to your spouse of your sleeping around with someone at work because you can say its business your taking care of even though your out bang the person.
2007-01-06 05:55:29 · answer #8 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Convienent! You see the person every day more than your own spouse!
2007-01-06 05:33:19 · answer #9 · answered by rhonda_seiler 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋