Used to have a good sex life. Now, it is a continuous frustration because she is always having hormone problems--thin vaginal wall. Doctor prescribed medication, but she is stopping it because it affect her joints. It seems that she cannot get any good answers. In the mean time, I am getting tired of masterbating.
2007-01-06 05:27:26 · 18 answers · asked by James K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Your wife is probably feeling really terrible about herself and her sexuality at this point. Maybe even suffering with some depression or about too.
Lots of couple go through what you are experiencing and they find alternative ways of being intimate with each other. A lot of men and women have medical conditions that limit their ability to be sexual.
You need to make what she is going through a couple's problem. Not a problem she has that is causing problems for you. Deal with it like you would anything else that creates problems in your relationship. Together.
Sit down and discuss different options with her, openly and honestly. She'll understand your frustrations and you need to understand hers. Who knows you may find new ways of exploring intimacy with each other and revitalize your relationship. Rediscover each other!!
2007-01-06 05:50:49 · answer #1 · answered by briardan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just gave this answer to another person but it might work here too.
Yes, it absolutely can. I don't know of anyone who got married and stayed married simply because the sex was good. If it is decided at some point during a marriage by both partners that sex is not necessary for one or both of you then so be it. The emotional and financial reasons for being married may still be there but the physical stimulation has for some rerason or another "died". I know of couples in this situation and they work around the sex issue. One of the guys has an arrangement where his freind sleeps with his wife twice a week because he can't perform. Sounds a little strange, but it works for them.
In your case you may also want to talk to your wife about oral and anal sex.
2007-01-06 05:42:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you get married just to have monogamous sex? Is there anything else to your relationship with your wife? Is she your best friend, your confidante, the person you want to be with for the rest of your life? If "no" to any of these, perhaps you need to rethink your relationship with this woman. Do you have any children, do you want any children? Why did you get married? Only you can answer these questions, and only you can attach the right amount of importance to them. Sex is important, but not the only thing in a relationship.
2007-01-06 05:35:04 · answer #3 · answered by Thomas D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your wife about it and tell her you need a woman tell her your hand aint working no more you need some flesh.If she dont understand then dont tell her when you do. Look what she dont know wont hurt I have a friend kinda like that it is the difference between good and better. He has sex with his wife sometimes but he says she is lazy so when he wants to really enjoy himself he comes to me. I bet you got some strong hands huh!!
2007-01-06 05:33:29 · answer #4 · answered by toofavorable 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a common problem and one that can make or break a marriage. If your marriage is based only on sex, you might have a problem.
I suggest you find ways to be intimate with your wife that do not involve intercourse every time.
2007-01-06 05:34:00 · answer #5 · answered by united9198 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What else will you do? Your going to cheat and punish her for something she cant help? put yourself in her shoes. Keep masturbating and get over it. I am sure she hurts just as much in the decrease as you do. Marriage isnt all about sex. What if you were impetent would you be ok if she went elsewhere?
2007-01-06 05:30:53 · answer #6 · answered by troys_wifey2003 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are plenty of other ways your wife and yourself can have a sexual relationship together..it isn't all about penetration..use your imagination...hang in there..I am sure this is not easy for her either....if nothing can be resolved..just remember why she is your wife, I am sure you didn't marry for sex....just remind her of that..I am sure this is something she is concerned about as well
2007-01-06 05:33:31 · answer #7 · answered by sleepyinky2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask yourself did you marry her for sex or truely for better or worse? Okay so this is worse you can get through it if you truely love each other. best of luck! go starch a sock maybe hers if it makes you feel better.
2007-01-06 10:06:47 · answer #8 · answered by Sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
boy what a mess. be straight up with her. you need it and theres no way getting around it .i know its a big step ,painfull too but get out before you do something you will both regret.
2007-01-06 05:33:34 · answer #9 · answered by sliverhddriver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love her then you would stay with because sex isn't everything. So most likly loves you and it would break her heart to break up with her.
2007-01-06 05:32:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋