what should i tell my mom? she wont listen?

Question

I am currently at a college where i do not want to attend. THe area is in the middle of no where and theres many of junkies as you can say.. I have told my mom every reason that i didnt like the school..Yet one reason is that ive been having sex and people have started to start many rumors and people are very trifling down there. I didnt want to go to the school in the first place. It was my only option for the time. I dont really want to be here...and im not comfortable of telling her my other reasons for leaving

Answer 1

That's great--you've been having sex and people have started rumors......Your mom paid good money to send you to school. If you want to leave, leave,,,,but don't expect her to pay tuition at another college. You got yourself into this mess. Now, get yourself out.

Answer 2

You really haven't said anything about the college. Look, here is where I sound old. It's 4 years of your life to get to something better. IF the college offers the degree that you want/need, then you need to be adult and suck it up for the remaining 3 1/2 years and then you can go where you want to go. You weren't sent there to have sex, see the sights, or anything other than do your work. When there are people who can't go to college or who are in Iraq, its a little hard to show sympathy. You are learning a major lesson it life. Some times in order to get the things in life we want, we have to put up with some sh*t. If you do what you are supposed to do, study, get "A's", graduate, then you can live where you want or at least have more say in where you live. It will also make you a better person. It's called adversity. You learn to appreciate things when you have to earn it. It sounds like you are putting up with a lot. Use the junkies, and trifling people as motivation to get out, but not to just leave, to graduate.
I couldn't wait to graduate. I had friends, but there were a lot of people whom I didn't like and they helped me stay focussed. I knew that I wasn't going to be in school any longer than I had to be. People talked then, they talk now, and they'll talk in the future, you also learn how to handle your business. Its not about what everyone else knows or how cool you are. You just handle your business and the only person who needs to know about it is you, People who talk too much are nice, but don't tell them anything that you don't want known and don't do anything when ever they are around.
Besides, its amazing how a new semester can change things. Just do your work and you'll be amazed at how things change once you are dean's list and you start doing internship.

Good luck and no your mother doesn't understand......she cares and she's a mom...thats her job.

Answer 3

* obviously you are financially dependent on your mom or you could just change schools yourself - you are over 18, right? you can apply to another school, get accepted and go.
* you want to be sure and finish the semester with good grades before you transfer. otherwise it's hard to go somewhere else.
* the problem is that you are dependent on your mom somehow. as long as you are hiding things from your mom it willnot go well.
*make solid plans to get into and go to another school. make sure it doesn't cost your mom any money or time. then tell her your well-thought-out plan for finishing your schooling at another place.
* you will be happier and this problem won't happen again if you stop with the sex thing. it's actually your behavior that's causing this problem, and you need to change the behavior.

Answer 4

If you want to go to another college - get a job and start earning the money for it! Once you are 18 you can do what you please, if you're willing to pay for it. That goes for the sex, too. There are consequences to everything - whatever our intentions.

If my daughter said she wanted to go to another college, because she earned a reputation for being easy, I'd be hurt that she chose to do spend her time doing this, instead of taking college seriously, and talk with her about her choices. I'd also tell her I was glad she was sharing with me what was going on her life. Depending on her attitude (such as blaming me for sending her there), I might even tell her to start paying for her own tuition if she wasn't willing to take college seriously. But I certainly wouldn't reward her by sending her to another college!

Welcome to real life.

Answer 5

Keep going to school & don't be fool. My dad got re-married & cut off all tuition assistance & it SUCKS! All I have to look forward to is a JOB. When you get a degree you will have a career & be more happy. Screw what people say or what they do, get the education, you'll be happy in time. Give it hell!

Answer 6

Moms don't listen that's the problum. but try talking to her. explain whats going on in your life. let the tears roll down your cheaks dond be embarrased. just be yourself. and never give up. no matter what life throws your way.

Answer 7

Who cares what people think. You're getting an education and still getting laid. Welcome to college.