im lesbian myself i just found out a few days ago that my gf is bisexual...so i decided to end the relationship by sending her an email on how i cant take it...was it a bad move or did i do the right thing?
2007-01-06 05:14:20 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
thank you all so much!
2007-01-06 05:28:32 · update #1
Bad move! Especially because you should not end any rlationship by e-mail.
2007-01-06 05:18:13 · answer #1 · answered by Kedar 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I would say bad move. Why should her bisexuality be an issue? She was with you, wasn't she? Just because she's attracted to men as well doesn't mean she doesn't love you. There are plenty of bisexual people in loving, committed relationships with someone of either the same or different sex. It's your own issue if you can't be with a bisexual woman, but, as a lesbian myself, I feel as though it shouldn't matter the gender you're attracted to, but rather the person. If my partner were attracted to men as well, that's fine, that's who she is...but I know we are in love and are planning a future together. She can identify however she chooses to. If you love(d) her, you would accept her for who she is. She clearly wasn't acting on her attraction to men, just letting you know that she has some. The important thing is that she wanted to be in a relationship with you. You're attracted to other women, aren't you? Should she break up with you because you may be attracted to other people? My advice is to talk to her about it. Did she tell you this because she wants to date other people, or because she loves you and wants you to know everything about her?
Also...don't break up with someone via email. That's just cowardly and immature, and shows the person you never really cared about them to begin with. If you want to end a relationship, suck it up and do it in person - it's better for you both.
Good luck!
2007-01-06 05:28:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You broke up with her thru email!!! That was kind of cowardly of you don't u think. You should have at least gave her enough respect to have done it in person. It was definitely a bad move breaking up with her like that, but if you can't be with a bisexual woman then the breaking up with her is the right move for you.
2007-01-06 06:33:00 · answer #3 · answered by Broken hearted 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's best that you let her know how you feel right away rather than delaying it. I think you did the right thing by being honest with her. I wouldn't want a bisexual girlfriend either, not if I'm looking for a long-term relationship.
2007-01-06 05:20:13 · answer #4 · answered by Autumn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you thought about it carefully? If you sent the email instantly after you know it, you shouldn't have done it. Why not end it face to face? It will give her a *chance* to *explain*, which everyone needs. Ask her, in face.
2007-01-06 05:35:23 · answer #5 · answered by skintouch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well . . in the straight world, if a man did that he would end up being exposed on the Oprah show as an example of male awfulness.
We're talking SHALLOW
2007-01-06 05:29:46 · answer #6 · answered by Clark H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't want a bi girlfriend myself. But it's always shallow and cowardly to break up by e-mail. How tacky!
2007-01-06 05:26:15 · answer #7 · answered by jane7 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if she lied to you I wouldent think so.. I think you did the right thing, because you should have TRUST! not when she fells like it tell you, Its not right, but you should have dont it to the face and not in a e-mail because your just lowering your self down to her leval..... HOPE ALL THE BEST FOR YOU!
2007-01-06 05:24:05 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because she is bisexual doesn't mean that she is currently attracted to another person.
2007-01-06 05:57:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well it was probably very hurtful for her to be broken up with by an email. she probably feels like you don't care enough or respect her enough to do it in person.
2007-01-06 05:22:57 · answer #10 · answered by *KiM* 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋