i have 5 under 5 would you take your husband back if he left you for the sakes of the kids? if you didnt love him?
2007-01-06 05:07:57 · 33 answers · asked by gullsgirl2000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No. Kids want to see their parents happy and you cant be happy with your current husband. They would much rather have divorced parents who love them and get along civilly with each other then parent who are married and fight or ignore each other. Your kids will be able to have love from both you and your husband even if you are not together anymore. Kids want to be loved and see their parents happy. that's all. And in to days society divorce is normal. i have more friends whose parents are divorced then aren't.
2007-01-06 05:14:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No way. Don't stay for the kids sake.You have a life too get up get the make up on even if you are only going to the shops cause there is always someone else out there for you. Look after your kids the best you can show your x you don't need him as a husband. But if he is good with the kids let him have access. Then the children can never throw it in your face you didn't let us see daddy. Hope you make the best for yourself and children all the very best Kiarakitty
2007-01-06 09:10:12 · answer #2 · answered by kiarakitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know kids are smart even at that age, Not only do they need to see love, but also feel it too, they get confused and lost when there is no love shown by the mother and father, with 5 kids under the age of 5, where's the time and energy to focus on your husband or vice averse, Are you sure your out of love or just feel overwhelmed with the kids? I don't really believe in counseling only because it didn't work in my situation, but I have heard many success stories, Try to do everything you possibly can before you divorce OK, even if you need to take a week or two to get away, and think things out. Best of luck
2007-01-06 05:27:43 · answer #3 · answered by Diana J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, because that isn't fair on you the kids or your husband. Its better if the two of you try to work things without getting back together. Because if you get back together just for the kids you will end up hurting and disliking each other more and in the long run it will be the kids that suffer
2007-01-06 05:18:45 · answer #4 · answered by Baps . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, no, no. I've not got kids but I was a kid in that situation and it's never better to stay together for the sake of a child. I was far better off when my parents separated; no more arguments, screaming, tears, unhappiness. And you should never be with a man you don't love. Move on.
2007-01-06 05:17:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No don't take your husband back just because you both have kids together. Take him back because you love him and he is the first thing on your mind when you rise in the morning.
If you take him back because of the kids, chances are when your kids are older and the two of you don't work out again your going to blame your kids. They have nothing to do with the problems that you both face.
They did not ask to be born.
2007-01-06 05:25:01 · answer #6 · answered by Gucci S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer that question, only you know what you really feel. All I will say is that to bring 5 under 5 up by yourself is a tough one. If you have lots of support from family and friends mayby you can choose the right path
2007-01-06 05:33:56 · answer #7 · answered by charlotte 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 under 5? In that case, yes, I probably would, but not only for the kid's sake......you need some help raising them! Ordinarily I don't think it's a good idea to live together for the sake of the kids, but in your case, with 5......you must be one tired lady!
2007-01-06 05:13:14 · answer #8 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Absolutely NOT! Don't put this on the children. If you don't love the man the house will always be a place of turmoil. Children deserve better. Get child support or government assistance for your children. They deserve to be cared for and fed by any legal means necessary.
Good luck to you.
2007-01-06 05:13:58 · answer #9 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
well.... if u r a patient person then yes..... if u have it in u to be patient enough not to fight or get angry even if he is the most horrible person on earth... and if ur willing to give up everything for the sake of children(including being happly married)... then go ahead.... but if u plan to correct him when hes wrong he will get defensive and u will land up being hurt , frustrated depressed so on .... finally u have to think of ur children.... its always better if children sre brought up in a united family environment but if ur not going to be a happy parent then whats the use.... children need happy, level headed parents...
2007-01-06 05:26:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋