any suggestions on mataining our relationship while she is going through these changes. OH, how will i deal with the situaion of her having her first menstral cycle....?
2007-01-06 05:05:58 · 14 answers · asked by matta_yasashi 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Grab it by the horns and RIDE is out. This is the most dificult time and I am not there yet my oldest is 8 but I know it is coming. There is no way to prepare for thses things but we have to face them head on, this is the time I see myself as becoming my daughters best friend becasue the foundation is already in place by this time and now is the time to really be close with her so that she does not go astray.
2007-01-06 05:12:07 · answer #1 · answered by Lady X 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm right there with you I have a 12 year old that's going through it also. Recently she started her menstrual cycle. That morning when it happened I cried ( not in front of her) because I know she is becoming a young woman and it;s getting scarier by the minute. The same day she started her cycle, she and I set down and had our talk about menstrual cycles from a to z and we also discuss the birds and the bees. I felt it was time to have the talk about it and then I took her out for breakfast just me and her not her siblings(2 brothers) and she enjoyed it. Now every month we have a mother and daughter day and we pick out places to go or eat so we can talk about what's going on in her life without her brothers and she told me she really likes having me to herself and I know she feels good about herself after our dates because we all need to make our daughters feel special these days with so much pressure in society trying to be with the in-crowd. Good luck with your daughter.
2007-01-06 05:41:55 · answer #2 · answered by jazzy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Female puberty is extremely hard, but it can be managed and helped. Definitely stay in tune with your daughter's feelings at this time but don't make her feel weird about it because girls awkward at this time already. Is there an adult female that she is close to like an mom, aunt, cousin or family friend that can be there for her for her first period? The first menstrual cycle is the scariest and oddest experience a pre-teen will ever have and they really need a female figure to guide them through the first one. After that you and her together can handle the issue. Hope I could help!
2007-01-06 05:38:22 · answer #3 · answered by Barlow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing is for you to maintain an atmosphere where she knows she can come discuss anything with you! My now-15 1/2 yr. old daughter can confide most things in me. When she got her period (she was in 7th grade, and had been worried because most of her then-friends had already begun theirs), she called me at work to tell me!! She sounded so excited and relieved.
Let your daughter know that you love her and if she needs to talk, you're there for her! Try not to be embarrassed about talking about the facts of life. Only give her info she requests. Don't have to go into minute details. Let her know that you, too, went thru puberty and tell her you realize she may be having different feelings or moods.
It's only the beginning. Trust me, it will get rougher. But if you and she have a close, trusting relationship you can withstand this!!
2007-01-06 05:46:57 · answer #4 · answered by 60s Chick 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Make sure you are honest with her. Give her the talk about what a period really is, how her body is going to change and what will happen. There is several books that can help you explain this.
To maintain your relationship, you need to set rules and give her a certain amount of freedoms. Do fun things with her, take her shopping, or set up a weekly or monthly breakfast date.
2007-01-06 05:45:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT tease her about it and after it happens, dont even mention it unless she brings it up. THe worst thing is when your parents make you feel uncomfortable. Get her some pads and put them under the sink and let her know where they are at and after she starts make sure to check and make sure she has enough pads because it is really embarassing having to ask for pads. Talk to her but dont say "your a woman now" because that is also really embarasing. I have faith that you'll be just fine
2007-01-06 12:58:38 · answer #6 · answered by me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SIGH! I know how you feel. Mine is 10, and was crying for no reason the other day. She was happy, but just soooo sensitive! Talk, talk, talk. She will probably be just as confused and scared as you are! It's nice that our generation can really talk to our kids about such important stuff. Not like when it was my turn....I woke up and thought I was dying!! And being given a book from (I'm sure) the 50's just didn't do it for me! Good luck! Try not to fret too much...it causes grey hair! lol
2007-01-06 05:30:39 · answer #7 · answered by adrienne1990 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
My 2nd daughter started 2 moths ago. It is hard even though we did the free classes at the library to teach her how to care for herself that week. As for the relationship hormones are up and down and so is our level of comfort with one another. I figure it will even out when she is married and her daughter is moody.
2007-01-06 06:12:21 · answer #8 · answered by Julie M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know, I still have a good 6-7 years before I have to deal with this...lol. However, girls developing earlier and starting their periods seems to have become a norm over the past few years. There's going to be a lot of screaming, a little bit of crying and a lot of conflict. The best thing to do is just to let her know that you understand what she is going through. Tell her that if she needs anything (and stress anything) to come to you. That's the most important thing that most parents seem to forget. Your child does still need you, even if they pretend to be 'so grown up'. ;) Good luck.
2007-01-06 05:12:09 · answer #9 · answered by unique2477 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Good Luck to you! I would just suggest to try and be as understanding as possible, and remember back to when you were going through the same thing
2007-01-06 05:48:39 · answer #10 · answered by Kelli H 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋