I live with a guy who is 51 and I am 46. I do his housework, ironing , washing, cook, do his paperwork , I do everything. I pay him rent and he will not give me any appreciation or anything else. Am I wrong for feeling hurt by this or am I plain stupid?
2007-01-06 05:05:58 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
your plainly being used...move on honey and find someone that appreciates you
2007-01-06 05:07:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are stupid. A lot of women feel obliged to do the lions share of housework and there is nothing wrong with being a happy homemaker gal. But on the other side he should cut you some slack about the rent. Do you both work full time? If you do then does he look after the yard ,cars, painting, plumbing etc. if yes, then he is contributing to the overall up keep of the household. Trust me a male without housekeeping skills is best kept away from the housework as you will probably have to fix his mistakes (coloureds in with whites) afterwards anyway.
2007-01-06 12:48:56 · answer #2 · answered by G G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ever put yourself down. You're with him because you're hoping for more. You're not wrong for feeling hurt. My ex...the mother of my two kids....just got out of a relationship almost identical to yours. Even your ages are the same...lol. She was living with a guy for almost 11 years, paid him rent, cooked, etc, even using my child support money to spend on him. She got very little in return. But she finally wised up and moved out. That doesn't mean you're stupid, just emotionally attached to someone. Hopefully, you'll wise up, too.
2007-01-06 05:17:18 · answer #3 · answered by BigJake418 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're stupid, but you are being taken advantage of. You are allowing him to treat you like this. People only do to you what you let them. Can you swing the bills by yourself? Do you know of anyone who maybe looking to share the expense of a home? Get a roommate and tell him to leave.
2007-01-06 05:09:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he your boyfriend or room mate. I mean you say that you pay him rent, and you do HIS housework, washing and cooking. If he is your boyfriend then why are you paying him rent and why do you consider the cooking and washing as his and not both yours and his? If he is just a roomate then the only thing you should have to do is pay him your portion of the rent and do your share of cleaning. If he is more than a roomate then it sounds like...I don't know what it sounds like but something does not seem right.
2007-01-06 05:11:47 · answer #5 · answered by Thumper 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to leave. My husband is the same way. Last week he made himself a plate of nacho's. The plate sat in the sink for a whole week before I washed it. I mentioned it to my husband so of course I'm at fault. He does that all the time. Puts stuff in the sink and expects it to get washed magically.
Leave and you'll be happier.
2007-01-06 05:11:29 · answer #6 · answered by emily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL if ur stupid so am i, i thought u wrote 5'1 and 4'6 like it was ur height and i was about 2 ask y u thought it was relevant to tell us that. Newho u are being used move on and move out. gdluck
2007-01-06 05:13:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two things, for one why are you paying him rent when your basically doing all his chores...Second are there any feelings involved with this man...I think you do need to reevaluate the situation and wake up, he's playing you and yes something is wrong and you need to make some major changes..Hope this helps..
2007-01-06 05:08:50 · answer #8 · answered by smartiebc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have spoil this man by doing every thing for him, He knows he has it made. Take a long Holiday and let him do his own work and taking care of himself, You have every right to feel hurt, Hes taking you for granted. And now you have woke up and smelt the coffee.............Do you have any idea what a house keeper cost.
2007-01-06 05:17:27 · answer #9 · answered by ♥ Becky ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should feel hurt! He sounds like a total jerk...yes...you are kind of silly for putting up with it. But, getting out of a toxic relationship is easier said than done!
2007-01-06 05:08:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Uh - uh - You are likely not stupid, dear. But you might want to rethink your approach to your life, and the man in your life. Good luck, really...
2007-01-06 05:08:20 · answer #11 · answered by ericscribener 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋