I am 19 yrs old and an intern really more of a personal assiastant at a company.There is one man 26 and a ladies man (player) who is married with a son about two who is my offical boss.He flirts with all the girls in the office and has according to some of the secretarys slept with three of them as a warning to me they said to be careful with him .I work hard and even took a break from school i am only taking 3 classes at the moment to do this job.I smile at my boss and play into some of the friendly banter or flirting but nothing more.Even though i let him check me out and compliment me i make sure to keep my distance.I want him to back off though?Not that i dislike him i just dont do married men.
2007-01-06 04:42:18 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I also have a bf and his wife for that the last three days has left nasty text messages/voicemails because she thinks i am the other woman .I want this to stop!
2007-01-06 04:45:04 · update #1
his wife got my cell phone number through him i am on his list.
2007-01-06 04:56:18 · update #2
Also sofa king sexy i dont enjoy be harrassed by his wife for some flirtie text messages he sent me that i did not even respound too!
2007-01-06 04:59:09 · update #3
Tell him you would like to meet his wife for coffee sometime.
2007-01-06 04:45:46 · answer #1 · answered by blue2blnde 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell the whole story. No woman confronts the other woman unless she is sure there is something going on. How did she get your number? You like the attention and you like the idea of going out with a married man. If not you would not be on here asking questions. You would just deal with it. As a matter of fact, your main concern SHOULD be sexual harrassment. If you keep your distance, why does he need to back off. whatever
2007-01-06 04:47:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you really want him to back off you can't play around with him even in a joking manner because he will never take you seriously. It is time to talk to him and tell him that you are not interested in married men and that you find his actions offensive. If he sends you messages don't respond. You have to approach him in a serious manner for him to take you seriously. Tell him that you are in a relationship and he is married and should act that way.
2007-01-06 06:38:47 · answer #3 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could do a few different things:
You could be very official and imply sexual harassment--but I don't know if you want to go that route...You are entitled to if he crosses the line--but that's up to you...
You could drop major hints that you are seeing someone/dating/engaged--even if it's not true--but this may not keep him away as his own marriage does not seem to be an obstacle for him..
You could start talking about religion at work--maybe that will appeal to his conscience? He might leave you alone if he thinks you are a good girl?
Basically it's BS--he shouldn't be doing this and you know it--if he goes over the top--report him or get a new job--You don't need to put up with this at your age and with all of the things that you have to do...take your co-workers warnings seriously and keep your distance from him...
2007-01-06 04:49:55 · answer #4 · answered by Shay 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to start documenting this stuff in a journal when you get home--everyday--so you have a written record of this--and if you ever need an attorney--you have th proof--paper trails are everything. No more flirting--at all--do your job--do it well--no more--no less. If you get text messages or voice messages from his wife--write them down--time and what they said--right then--tale them home and add them to your journal.'Yes- be very careful--but--this also harrassment to you--and sexual. You do have rights. If start to feel really uncomfortable--look for another part-time job elsewhere--and get out of there--also let your family know--you needn't shoulder this alone and it's a good idea that in the eyes of the law you have support.
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2016-05-19 16:08:11 · answer #6 · answered by Lois 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to start writing down all the times he talks, touches, suggests anything sexual or otherwise to you. Add date, time, situation, witnesses. You also need to talk to human resources or a higher boss and make your complaint known in writing. This man seems like he could be vendictive. If his wife knows about his doings, it seems like they get off on passive aggressive behavior as a team bothing other innocent people. Their marriage is certainly a bomb. You are doing the correct thing to be polite, but we absolutely not available. As for the wife, just ignore her, but put this on your list of complaints. Mention her when you talk to personel department. If other people are being bothered, have them document incidents like you mentioned too. This man is a loser and needs to be stopped or fired, both probably. His poor son; he is the greatest loser in all of this. You have great courage to put your concerns in writing. I wish you all the best.
2007-01-06 04:51:56 · answer #7 · answered by tiafromtijuana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't flirt with your boss, that is very unprofessional. Don't tease him, that makes you a participant. What the other girls do with him is none of you concern, stay out of it. If he should make advances, than report it to your Human Recourse Department, however if you are flirting with him you are charged as a participant.
To your other problem, you have a boyfriend who is married?
What does this make you?
2007-01-06 04:49:26 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a professional woman working hard at your job why
on earth would you be flirting with your boss. What do
you expect his actions to be towards you. Even if you are
doing it to spite him he is taking you seriously. You are
getting yourself in a situation that you will have diffucult
times ahead, that is why you are now trying to get advise
on how to get him to back off: Just ignore him, do your
job and you will come out ahead.
2007-01-07 07:52:42 · answer #9 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have these men not heard of sexual harrassment laws? You are obviously trying to be pleasant yet distant--they need to realize that you could go to the head of the company with this--if not the police--if not his wife!
You are the one making a sacrafice to be at this company (less school, boyfriend problems), and the company should appreciate that. You are working hard for them, and trying to mind your own business, and stay away from these fools! Tell the jerk to quit flirting and checking you out--if you have to. Let him know that you are there to work and learn--period.
2007-01-06 05:04:23 · answer #10 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want him to back off.Then stop leading him on.You have allowed him to check you out/played into it.You are not the innocent bystander.You want to put a stop to it.Then go to his boss explain the situation at hand.His advances toward you.The wife calling you.etc.I am sure his boss will be able to get him to back off!!
2007-01-06 04:57:27 · answer #11 · answered by noga 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋